The so-called "easy to raise a baby is difficult", now the pace of life is fast, the pressure is high, many young parents will choose to give their children to the elderly care, the small two to concentrate on work.
According to the data released by the National Health Commission, as of 2019, there are 18 million elderly people on the mainland, accounting for 7.2% of the country's 247 million floating population, of which the proportion of special trips to help children with children is as high as 43%.
However, everything has advantages and disadvantages, and the same is true for the elderly with their babies, the advantage is that they can reduce the pressure on their children, and the elderly can also enjoy the so-called "joy of heaven".
But the disadvantages are also very obvious, on the one hand, with the baby on the double consumption of physical energy, many elderly people can not eat, on the other hand, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is prominent, living under the same roof, it is inevitable that there are some bumps, especially in the conflict of parenting concepts, it is easy for the elderly to feel "thankless", which may cause big problems over time.
Therefore, in order to play a role in the real problem of the elderly with a baby, a "new type of baby" model is now popular, and it is likely to become a major trend in the future, because this mode is not only much easier for the elderly, but also conducive to maintaining a harmonious relationship in the family, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is greatly reduced.
"New style with baby" has become a trend: the elderly with babies seem to go to work, nine to five
For "punching in", I believe that many young office workers are not strangers, as a way of enterprise statistics attendance, many people have the experience of being late in the morning and rushing to "punch in".
Nowadays, many places have begun to popularize the "punch card with baby", when the elderly take the baby, they will "punch in" like office workers and live a "nine-to-five" life.
For example, I have a colleague who is adopting this model:
At eight o'clock in the morning, the old man sets off from the door, and sometimes brings breakfast to his colleagues and comes to his colleagues' homes. After handing over the baby to the elderly, the colleagues and couples went out to work.
During the day's working hours, the elderly help take care of the baby, coax the baby to sleep at noon, walk the baby downstairs in the afternoon, and do housework.
In the evening, after the two children returned from work, the old man also "clocked in" on time and took a taxi home.
Whenever there is a weekend, the elderly can also have two days of rest, which greatly reduces the burden of helping their children with a baby, and the colleagues and couples take the baby for two days, the task is not too arduous, which helps to cultivate feelings between parents and children, and can also feel the difficulty of the elderly with a baby. My colleague is very grateful to his mother-in-law, and he also pays the elderly 2,000 yuan per month with a baby wage.
What are the advantages and disadvantages of "punch card with baby"?
For the "punch card with baby", some parents may question:
Tossing and turning every day, some elderly people may be more difficult to accept;
The elderly and their children live far away, and the punch-in style with the baby simply does not work;
Some elderly people have inconvenient legs and feet, and commuting safety is a big problem.
Indeed, "punch card with baby" as a new mode of baby, its own advantages and disadvantages are very distinct, the above practical problems many families are indeed difficult to solve, but its advantages are also prominent, to solve a lot of the real problems of the elderly with babies.
First of all, the "punch card with baby" well avoids the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
If the mother-in-law and the small two live together, friction will inevitably occur under the day and night, and the old man's "punch card with baby" can make each other keep a distance, as the saying goes, "far from fragrant and near smelly", so that both sides can feel more comfortable. And when the children leave the help of the elderly on the weekend, they can realize how difficult it is to take the baby, so as to more objectively understand the value of the old man with the baby, so as to be grateful to the old man.
Secondly, "punching card with baby" makes it easier for the elderly.
As we all know, taking a baby is not an easy task, especially the physical fitness of the elderly is declining, and it is not easy to undertake the task of taking care of children, and the "punch card with baby" can make the elderly more relaxed and better enjoy the old age life.
At the same time, some elderly people can also receive a little labor remuneration with a baby, and this job does not have to be dedicated just because of love.
Finally, the "punch card with baby" gives young parents more opportunities to accompany their children.
Nowadays, some young parents have been pampered since childhood, and after handing over their children to the care of the elderly, they will habitually do "hands-off" and ignore their children.
The "punch card with baby" can avoid this problem: young parents should take more time to take care of their babies and cultivate parent-child relationships with each other.
The elderly with the baby is "love", young parents should be grateful
Although for many elderly people, helping their children with their children with babies is a kind of "sweet trouble", in the final analysis, the elderly helping their children with babies is "love" rather than "duty", and young parents must know how to be grateful.
Take the "punch card with baby", young parents have to go to work during the day, and it is understandable to give the child to the elderly to take care of, but after work, they must know how to take over the "baton" so that the elderly can also relax appropriately.
In particular, some young parents, when they clash with the concept of parenting of the elderly, will also dislike the backward thinking of the elderly, and even directly accuse the elderly, which is a great mental harm to the elderly.
I remember that in the documentary "Grandma", there was such a scene, there was a grandmother in terms of parenting, and her daughter had differences, fell into a lot of complaints, and for a period of time coincided with the death of her wife, which made her feel both sad and aggrieved, and even suffered from depression and needed to rely on drugs to maintain her life.
When the child is entrusted to the care of the elderly, young parents must know how to be grateful, even if there are differences in the concept of parenting, they must also "seek common ground while reserving differences", and the two sides seek better solutions together, after all, the original intention of the elderly is also for the children.
Old Miao Conclusion:
The emergence of "punch card with a baby" has undoubtedly helped many families solve the practical problem of the elderly with a baby, but its limitations are also very obvious, and we still have to analyze it according to the actual situation.
And no matter what way the elderly use to bring their babies, young parents must know how to be grateful, so that they can compare their hearts to their hearts, and do not take the elderly to pay as a matter of course.
Today's topic: What do you think of this kind of "punch card with baby"?
I am Lao Miao, a super grandfather after the 80s, and the most eye-catching male head nurse in the hospital, welcome to discuss the issue of pregnancy together, and please pay attention to Lao Miao.