Are the aesthetic requirements of adults and children different? In the eyes of adults, the high value visible to the naked eye is the beauty that everyone praises;
But in the eyes of children, the standard of beauty may be a little different. In the eyes of children, not all beauty is determined by skin bags.
01【Beauty in children's eyes: Born from the heart】
A friend shared with me a very interesting thing: the friend's mother asked her granddaughter if she was beautiful, and the child replied beautifully. Grandma was not pretty, and the child shook his head.
Then asked the mother whether the drift was beautiful, the child bluntly said that it was not beautiful, listen, the friend's mother smiled and corrected the child's answer, saying that the mother is also beautiful! Little baby.
In fact, the child's mother and the child's aunt are similar in appearance, both are beautiful billets. However, the child thinks that his aunt is beautiful, and his mother is not beautiful.
What is the basis for the child's answer? Personally, I think it may be related to this; friends are usually very strict with their children, have little patience, often yell at children, and sometimes even use their hands.
I think this kind of education has left a shadow on children. The child thinks that her mother is very fierce, and when she sees her, she will inevitably think of those unpleasant things, so she thinks that her mother is not beautiful.
Perhaps, in the eyes of the child, the mother's beauty is covered by her fierce evil. The mother's fierce spirit is greater than the mother's natural beauty, so the child thinks that the aunt is beautiful, and the mother is not beautiful. Think you're pretty, mom isn't pretty.
At a young age, you can actually measure whether a person is beautiful or not with the heart. But it's really a little devil, who said that children don't understand anything, in my opinion, they understand a lot. Curiosity is strong, willing to explore, to explore, to challenge, which makes them more knowledgeable.
Fortunately, the child's mother did not hear what the child said about herself. Otherwise, it is estimated that it will be another day of chicken and dog restlessness. The child's mother is expected to yell at the child again, hysterical, and the criminal law is waiting.
02【Parents are children's role models】
We often say that parents are role models for children and children are mirrors for parents. What kind of person do you want your children to become, first of all, parents themselves must first set a good example, set a good example, play a role model, and lead their children to be positive and optimistic.
If parents can't do it themselves, but ask their children to do it, then I'm afraid the persuasiveness will be very weak. For example, you always teach your child not to lie down and play with your mobile phone, but as a parent, you pick up your mobile phone and lie down on the sofa, forgetting what you have said to your child before.
If children see their parents doing this, what will they think in their hearts, they will inevitably think that their parents are selfish. Don't let others do it, but do it yourself. This is what we often call it: double standard.
Therefore, if you want your children to be obedient, sensible, well-behaved, and self-motivated, then we who are the first parents must do this first, and only by doing this first can the children be obedient and do not make any excuses.
Otherwise, they will say, why can't you do it yourself? Hearing such a rhetorical question from the child, perhaps most parents will teach the child a lesson, educate the child in the tone of the elder's parent, and call it the child's bad behavior against the parents.
Contrast is the commonality of human beings. Whether it is the contrast between adults and adults, or the contrast between children and adults. The double standard education method is not easy to last, and it is difficult to convince children, the best way of education is: to lead by example, to be an example in children's hearts, and to reject double standards.