It is said that the profession of "father" and "mother" is a very test of courage, patience and wisdom. Because in ordinary life, parents need to wrestle with their children, and constantly adjust their emotions and conditions. Especially when parents face children who love to make mistakes and love to lose their temper, they will obviously feel powerless, and sometimes parents are difficult to suppress their anger, if they hit the child, they are afraid of hurting the child's heart, and there is a gap between the child, and the parent-child relationship is no longer intimate; if you do not beat the child, you are afraid that the child's temper is difficult to control! This makes many parents feel very headaches and entanglements.
Obedient children behave in the same way, but children who love to lose their temper behave differently
Does your child lose his temper? I believe that most parents answer yes, every adult will lose their temper, let alone children? Tiger mother saw such a topic on the Internet, "the scene of your child's tantrum", and it can be seen that parents feel very headaches about their children's random tantrums.
Netizen A said, don't look at my child is only two or three years old, people's small temper is not small! Before watching the cartoon, I agreed with him that I could only watch two episodes, and when the two episodes of the cartoon were finished, I changed the ball game I liked to watch, and my child was not happy! At first, he begged me to change back to the cartoon he liked to watch, I ignored him, thinking that he would give up, who knew that he directly grabbed the remote control, slammed the remote control on the ground, watched the remote control fall in half, and then sat on the sofa alone and cried! That's not going to bother me.
Netizen B said that my child also loves to lose his temper, but he belongs to the type of sulk. Once I took my child to the mall to buy something, passed by a toy store, the child saw a favorite Transformer, wanted me to buy it for him, but I thought that there was an almost identical Transformer at home, so I refused the child's request, I said to the child, there is another one at home, obedient, let's not want this this time. Although our child was not angry on the spot, he was sullen all day and had to say a word! Later, he said that because he didn't buy him a favorite Transformer, he was always angry with me, and I wouldn't communicate with the child anymore!
Netizen C said that my child is a bad type after losing his temper, last week with the child to play at a friend's house, the child and the friend's child play with the toy, the result is because of grabbing the toy to make the friend's child cry, I taught the child at that time, the result of the child back home began to lose his temper, so I went to coax him back home also did not listen, the meal did not eat, I went to coax him, the result of coaxing him more and more vigorously, and finally coaxed himself to collapse! How can there be so many tantrum children under the heavens!
Expressing one's emotions is everyone's freedom, but when children lose their temper all the time, no matter how good their temper is, even patient parents will become grumpy and become broken. In the face of children who lose their temper, either parents are too conniving with their children's behavior in their daily lives, or children can't stand the strict control of their parents and begin to completely release themselves.
When the child loses his temper, these behaviors can instantly calm the child down, do you know?
In the face of children who love to lose their temper, these behaviors of parents can make children calm down instantly
Knowing the reason, moving with affection, let the child feel the love of the parents
There is no parent in the world who does not love their children! Many times, after facing the child's tantrum, in order to change the child's habit of throwing a tantrum, the parent behaves very strictly, hoping that the child will change the bad temper, but sometimes it will have the opposite effect. Because the tone and attitude of parents make children feel insecure and even alienate parents. Instead of loudly reprimanding children for tantrums, it is better to use animated short films or storytelling to make children feel that tantrums are bad habits and hurt people around them. This way of parents will not hurt the child's young mind, but also close the feelings between parents and children, so that children can change the habit of throwing tantrums.
Empathetic thinking, heart for heart, let children feel the warmth of parents
Some parents always complain that their children love to lose their temper, but they ignore why children lose their temper, in the final analysis, parents always stand in an unequal position with their children to think and judge, so in the impression of parents, children will become people who like to lose their temper. Parents as the child's closest person, to be good at finding some of the child's emotional needs, parents also have to stand in the child's position to think about why the child will lose their temper, parents only have to do empathy thinking, heart for heart, with a gentle heart to warm the child, let the child slowly change the habit of tantrums.
Are you still having headaches and anxieties over your child's constant tantrums? Compare the above two points and do not do it. What do you do when your child loses his temper? Come and talk to me about it.
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