The 11-year-old boy ran away from home because his parents had a second child!
The 14-year-old boy jumped from the fifth floor after being slapped by his mother!
The boy thought the drill was too noisy and cut the safety rope of the outdoor construction worker!
The 12-year-old girl jumped off the building because her parents divorced and left a suicide note!
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In recent years, vicious incidents about minors have occurred frequently, which has sounded the alarm bell for parents. However, when many parents face such incidents, they often evaluate it like this: What happened to the children now, why are they so psychologically fragile, and they dare not take care of their children in the future? But few parents have reflected on their own problems.
What do children say to their parents?
Have you ever given your child a chance to say that? Are you playing with your mobile phone when you go home, and your child wants to say something to you, or you are reprimanded for not doing your job, or you are impatient to listen and perfunctory.
Children don't love to learn, poor grades?
Are you expecting too much from your child and not noticing your child's basic level? Are you too strict with your child's learning schedule and don't give your child a little time to play? When the child's grades improve, but the child is compared with other children, the child's self-confidence is suppressed, how can there be enthusiasm for learning.
Children are disrespectful and always love to beat people?
Are you too spoiled for your children, giving what your children want, and developing the idea that children are self-centered and parents must be solipsistic? Are you not too little companion to the child, do not give the child enough care and love, let the child lack of security.
Only paying attention to the education of children is the symptom, and changing the problem of parents is the root cause. Children are just children, and there are many truths that they do not understand, and they need the correct guidance of parents. Parents always want to make their children excellent, choose a house, choose a school, choose a teacher for their children, put the hope of educating their children in school, put on their children's self-growth, but rarely think about how to become a good parent. In the information age, children's thinking is more and more advanced, as a modern parent, if you still use traditional educational concepts and methods to educate modern children, there will be problems and confusion.
Children's problems never arise at once, but accumulate little by little. A lot of parents feel that there is nothing wrong with my child, so I don't need to learn, which is also wrong. Family education should be "immune", and prevention should be done in advance, rather than starting to remedy after an accident.
The moment you give birth to a child, you are promoted to a parent, however, only by teaching your child well, you are a real "qualified parent". What can parents learn if they want to educate their children well?
1. Understand the child's growth rules, know the problems that the child may have at a certain stage, and master the way to deal with it.
2. Understand the personality characteristics of children and teach according to their aptitudes.
3. Learn the method of cultivating children's comprehensive ability and let children develop comprehensively.
4. Learn to restrain emotions, self-extricate yourself, and get out of the influence of the "original family".
Education and learning are not easy things, but in order to have a happy family and raise a good and confident child, it is all worth it.