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Many women, after discovering their husband's betrayal, are always thunderous and rainy. When I first found out that my husband had extramarital feelings, I might cry and toss for a while, but after that momentum, most women will choose to forgive their husbands and let them return to the family after calming down.
After that, the woman acted as if nothing had happened and lived a life as usual. They think this is called generosity, this is called virtuousness, this is called compromise for life. They believe that their tolerance will make men feel guilty, will make men wake up, will make them rehabilitate, and in the days to come, will be better for their wives and children.
Women who think this way are not one or two, but their subsequent experience tells us that these are women's self-righteousness, and men don't think so at all.
When women let go gently, men will not be grateful to Dade, they will feel that women are confused, they will feel that the mistakes they have committed are not big mistakes at all, so when they have the opportunity, they will still be unable to hold back their inner desires and take that step.
Women should understand a truth, men and women's way of thinking is not on the same channel at all, do not use your own ideas to speculate on men's ideas.
When the husband returns to the family after betrayal, the wife should not easily forgive, if it is easy to forgive the husband, then your husband will only gain inches, and will not be grateful to you, you have to punish your husband appropriately, let him realize the seriousness of the problem, three ways of punishment, you can choose one of the three ways.
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The first way: to grasp the economic power of the family.
This is actually the most effective way, you know, the reason why a man has the capital to go out and stir up trouble is because he has money in his hand, and with money, men want to go out to eat, drink, and stir up trouble.
Don't think that men are serious at home and work, just think that men are also outside, what is going on in men's hearts, that is, your wife who has slept with him for more than ten years will not know.
You may think that even if a man has money in his hands, he doesn't have much, and the salary is not enough for him to spend. The woman out there is certainly not looking for his money. It is true that if your husband is not the kind of person who is particularly rich, then the woman outside will indeed not be your husband's money, but two people talk about extramarital feelings, always have to make an appointment, have a meal.
If you want women to come out of this date money every time you go on a date, eat a meal, watch a movie and ask a woman to come and please, then come a few more times, women will definitely feel special when they see men.
Don't think that the woman is a city servant, this is not a city servant, women naturally worship the strong, when a man can't even afford to eat money, even if the man is very good at coaxing women to be happy, it will still make women think that this man is particularly cheap. As long as this thought arises in her heart, the woman will soon propose to break up with the man.
Therefore, the punishment method of controlling the economic power of the family, that is, the opportunity to cut off a man's extramarital affair from the root, is the most effective and the most insignificant punishment.
Take advantage of this opportunity to grasp the economic power of the family, and only give men the most basic living expenses in the future, so that men will naturally accept it.
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The second way: let him "be a cow and a horse" for a period of time.
The reason why men dare to make mistakes is because the cost of making mistakes is too small, they can fully bear it, they feel that after making a mistake, they are found, at most, it is a disturbance in the early stage, and it will not be how, so there will not be much psychological burden, so when it is time to make a mistake, it will still make a mistake.
Therefore, when a man makes a mistake, if you still want to continue to live with this man, then you must let the man have a long memory, and don't think of using his love and selflessness to impress the other party. Now in this society, the feelings between people are becoming more and more indifferent, and you even want to impress a man? Isn't that a fool's dream?
This kind of low probability thing, we still don't want to try, if you insist on trying, then it will definitely be disappointed. Therefore, it is still necessary to solve this problem in a simple, fast and direct way.
That is to let him "be a cow and a horse" for a period of time, only in this way can men remember sex for a long time. Don't be upset with him, if you do something wrong, then you have to accept the punishment, which is still light. Let him wrap up everything in the family outside of work. In the past, it may have been you who were in charge, you were tired and tired every day, and your husband was out with other women, and now you have a good rest, and everything is done by your husband.
Let him also feel your difficulties, but also let him suffer, let him know that if you want to get good treatment at home, you must keep to yourself and not make mistakes, otherwise you have to "be a cow and a horse" at home like now.
When he does it for a while, there will definitely be a lot of feelings in his heart, and then it may be better for you, and the next time, when his heart is ready to move again, he may weigh it up and choose to give up the opportunity to have an affair outside of marriage.
So, sometimes women really can't be too soft. When the husband returns to the family after betrayal, the wife should not easily forgive and let him "be a cow and a horse" for a period of time, which is also a good way.
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The third way: let him endure a period of cold violence.
The husband returns to the family after betrayal, the wife should not be easily forgiven, you can let him endure a period of cold violence, of course, not too long, if the cold violence lasts too long, it may really affect your marriage.
So, just let him endure a period of cold violence, just to make him remember sex for a long time, let him know that you care about this matter, let him know that the next time he dares to have an affair outside of marriage, you will definitely give up on him. You have to let him see this determination of yours.
Many times, if women do not show it, men will not know, so there will be so many seemingly detached couples in China. Many couples until divorce, men do not know where the problem is, women hold back for a long time, feel that this marriage is not satisfied anywhere, and men feel that they are very good, there is no problem anywhere. After being divorced, he was still confused.
This is how women are usually too weak, many times, when something happens, women must put their attitude out, let men deeply realize their mistakes, do not scold a few words, make a fuss and it will be over. If this is the case, the man is not aware of the seriousness of the problem.
Be sure to make the man clearly aware of his mistakes, but also let the man know your attitude, so letting him endure cold violence for a period of time is a good way to punish.
In this way, the man realizes the seriousness of the incident. He knew that the next time he dared to make a mistake, his wife might really divorce him, so he would consciously restrain himself.
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Therefore, when a woman chooses to let her husband return to the family after encountering her husband's betrayal, she should not easily forgive him.
If you easily forgive your husband, then your husband will look down on you, think you are very confused, will feel that your ability to bear is very strong, he will feel that his affair outside of marriage is not a big deal at all, anyway, the wife will always forgive him, and what is there to worry about.
Once a man has such an idea, he will completely release himself, and then he may get used to having sex outside of marriage. And this is the courage brought to him by his wife's attitude.
Therefore, after a woman has suffered betrayal from her husband, if she still wants to live with this man, she must learn to be smart.
The three punishment methods mentioned above, if you can't use them all, then at least one must be used, only in this way can men see your attitude, understand that mistakes are made, they all have to pay a price, only in this way, men will wake up, will know that this kind of thing can not be done outside of marriage, if you do, then you will be punished, and even may face the consequences of wife and daughter separation.
Men understand this, then he does not dare to easily touch the extramarital feelings, even if there are some heartbeats, then he will control himself, will not make trouble to the step of extramarital affairs.
Text/Fenghua