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Author: Reading Jun
"Hey, when I kissed, I was really kissed, and when I hit, I couldn't control this temper, and I regretted it after the fight."
How many parents, when playing, they are eager to "not see the heart is not bothered", and they regret it after the fight.
A mother in Longgang, Shenzhen, suspected that her daughter had stolen 28 yuan and beat her daughter, resulting in her death.
Netizens have exploded the pot:
As netizens said: the way of education is not right, hitting children is wrong, and you can't do it again.
"The child is the most pitiful, she has not come to this world to enjoy the blessings, everything about her is stifled in the emotions of her own mother." 」
As Sukhomlinsky said:
"If you don't educate your parents first, you can't talk about the correct education of your children."
Many times, in the eyes of adults, children are not right, but if you think about it, the "deeds" of children are the epitome of themselves.
Some parents have a temper and "punch and kick" their children, and some parents try to scare their children, this punch, that knock.
In fact, seemingly unimportant parts, but will cause great harm to children, especially these 4 parts, parents can not be angry again can not hit!
temple
The streets and alleys are counted as the "intelligence bureau with babies" of parents, and early in the morning, the alley mouths exploded in groups of three or five.
"Hey, did you hear that?" Whose child went to the hospital today, it is said that because his mother pointed to his temple and knocked a few times, the child suddenly dizzy, to faint, but the parents were frightened, rushed to the hospital. ”
"Really? What did the doctor say, just because the parents knocked on the temples? ”
"Yes, the doctor said that because the child's orbital lining is relatively thin, under the impact of external forces, it will produce a certain oscillation, fractures may occur, and the optic nerve is dysplasia."
Not only that, but the child may be blinded by your "gentle" tap! ”
"Oh, I don't care about this, sometimes I have a big temper, I just mean where to fight, which I don't dare in the future."
In fact, the thickness of the temples of the human body is the weakest in the entire skull, only one or two millimeters, especially for children.
Parents should pay more attention and resolutely not touch the place where the child's "spirit" gathers, so as not to cause danger.
Head
The fate of the hand, all because of the back of the head?
Looking at the child who did not finish her homework, Ling's mother was very angry, and hit the back of her daughter's head with her hand to send the child to the road of death.
Like Ling Ma, many parents will slap their children casually, whether it is the back of the head or the head, which is the most "handy" part of the parent.
But in fact, the head is a more vulnerable part of the child, a slap in the face, it is likely to cause damage to the child's nervous system, slight concussion, serious may lead to epilepsy and other diseases.
Especially the back of the head, the back of the head has important parts such as the cerebellum and brainstem, and the lower part is the cranial-cervical junction.
Hitting the back of the head can lead to serious consequences such as headache, dizziness, nausea, vomiting, paraplegia, and unconsciousness.
In addition, the respiratory center is also there, hit this part, it is easy to cause concussions in the respiratory center, which will affect the nerve center functions such as breathing, heartbeat, and body temperature, and even endanger life.
Many parents feel that "filial piety under the stick", a little unsmooth, they will pat on the back of the child's head, do not know, parents take a hand, but will take the child's life.
I hope that all parents will remember the "knowledge points" and never extend the "devil's hand" to the back of their children's heads!
back
If you look at the most "beaten" part of the body, parents will "aim" at the back of the child and "attack".
Many children have dodged the parents' "brain attack" and "point hole hand", but they have fallen on the parents' "back killing".
But what parents never expected was that the human nervous system was mainly distributed in the back, and beating the child's back was easy to damage its nerves.
When hitting the child's back, the child seems to have only added a few skin and flesh wounds, and as everyone knows, it will also touch the nerves.
Moreover, the child's spinal cord and spine are not yet well developed, and if you hit hard, it is easy to injure the spinal cord.
Not only that, the back is also close to the five internal organs and six intestines, if the adult is heavy, it is likely to cause damage to the nervous system of the child's back, and even make the spleen injured.
The neighbor's mumu, who grew up under his father's "back killing", had no other reaction at first except for pain, but he did not expect that his spleen was a problem when he was a little older.
Parents and children are also confused, thinking that the child is young, how can there be a problem with the spleen?
The family who came to the hospital with doubts and puzzlement found out after the examination that the child had been injured to the internal organs after a long-term beating.
At this time, the father was silent, and the mother complained and wept on the side, at that time, she just wanted the child to remember sex for a long time, what can I do now?
"Hitting children - long memory" is the ultimate weapon that many parents "deeply rooted".
But can hitting a child really achieve such a goal?
Even if it is achieved, it will be physically damaged like Mu Mu, not to mention, how can the "hatred" of parents in the heart be less?
No matter how angry parents are, they must not directly hit their children's backs, but also leave a "back" for themselves to rely on.
ear
A slap from a parent, a sad place for a child.
Slap is a "hand-picked" action of many parents, and on the road to growth, there are countless children who have been slapped.
Children who have been slapped not only have hot faces, but also the roots of their ears.
In fact, deep in the root of the ear is the brainstem and spinal cord connection, twisting the ear, slapping the child's hearing development, serious will lead to damage to the child's eardrum.
Just like the question of Zhihu netizens: Will a slap make a child's ear deaf?
The answer is possible, because the "late-onset deafness gene" is both a "slap deaf gene" and appears as deafness of varying degrees.
A slap from a parent will not only cause the child to be physically injured, but also leave a deep shadow in the child's heart.
Many children, because of the parents' slap began to change from "love" to "hate", and the parents gradually drifted away.
If parents want their children to really listen, they should not hit their children in a way that damages their children's dignity.
Take a deep breath and communicate again
Many children often say when arguing with their parents: "Fight, don't you like to beat me?" What else would you do? ”
In other words, the child's expression shows that in the child's heart, he is no longer afraid of "being beaten".
Because "being beaten" has become a common thing, they have no fear in their hearts for a long time, only a chill in their hearts.
The act of hitting a child is counterproductive and completely fails to achieve the effect that parents want to "hit the child - he reflects".
In fact, the "qi" of parents is also an expression of "love", because it will get out of control because it cares.
But after getting out of control, there is no regret medicine to eat, after hitting the child, the injury really happens, and it is difficult to recover.
Psychologist Ronald said: "Stormy emotions, often lasting no more than 12 seconds, destroy everything when they erupt, but after the wind and waves are calm, control these 12 seconds, you can dispel negative emotions." ”
In other words, when parents are angry, they can first take a deep breath, count 12 times silently, make their emotions stable, and then deal with things later.
He Jiong once said in "Friends Please Listen Well": "Things will not crush a person, but emotions will crush a person, so don't be kidnapped by emotions."
Think about it carefully, are the things that the "sky is falling" in your eyes that must be solved in a hitting way really that "big"?
Many times, the child's "mistake" is like a magnifying glass, and the parent's emotions are only magnified by the child's "mistake", along with the trivialities in life, and vented on the child together.
Parents must deal with emotions first, and then deal with things, in order to really solve the problem.
Writer Yin Jianli said: "The three points of temper you throw at your child will cause seven points of harm to your child." ”
This hurt will not fade with time, and it will not disappear because of remorse.
Do parents still remember the beatings and scoldings they were beaten?
Does that taste still remember clearly?
Do you remember, how can a child forget?
In fact, whether it is these 4 parts or others, beating children is an educational method of "losing the wife and folding the soldiers".
Click "watching" and "sharing" out, I hope that parents can give their children a warm and healthy growth memory, do not ruin a person with a pair of hands!