Hello everyone, I'm Cocoa.
It was the school season again, when Coco's mother sent her baby to the kindergarten, she saw a child crying and making trouble at the entrance of the kindergarten, and she was unwilling to enter the kindergarten.
Should we turn around and leave, or should we just leave?
After carefully reading the following 5 methods, you can solve this problem very well.
First, calm your child's emotions.
Children cry at the door of the kindergarten, the first thing we have to do is to soothe the child's emotions.
When many parents cry when their children cry, the first thing they think of is not to appease and guide, but to stop the behavior of their children from crying.
Crying in itself is not a bad thing, but if you strongly stop it, your behavior becomes a bad thing.
Because the child cries, you can vent the emotions in your heart, many children will be fine after crying, but if it is forcibly stopped, the child's emotions will be buried in the heart for a long time, which is very harmful to the healthy growth of the child.
Therefore, we should accept the child's emotions and hold the child.
You can tell your child, baby, mom knows you don't want to be separated from me, I don't want to be separated from you, but you go to school like your mother goes to work, it's something you have to do every day, and I'll pick you up on time in the afternoon.
With such a hug, a reassurance, a word, the child's emotions will be sucked away a little and a half, and then the child will gradually calm down after you understand and accept his crying emotions.
Second, send to the door and leave with confidence.
If at this time there is already a teacher waiting at the door to pick up the child, and the teacher clearly says, you can rest assured, just leave it to us. At this time, parents should leave firmly.
Gentleness and firmness are the principles that parents should grasp the most. Because the reassurance has just been gentle, it is necessary to be firm at this time.
Many times, it is a small number of parents who do not sort out their emotions, they have not gone at the kindergarten door, reluctant to children, some mothers even see their children crying so sad, they have tears in their eyes, then it will infect the child's emotions, the child will be more sad and sad.
Parents should think about it, what is the purpose of sending our children to kindergarten? Isn't it a chance to give children a chance to practice their ability to live independently?
So, after arriving at the school gate, give the child a warm hug, and then turn away firmly, the adults do not have any emotional fluctuations, and slowly the children will accept the reality.
Isn't the process of children's growth the process of our parents gradually withdrawing?
Here is a little trick, when sending into the kindergarten, you can let people with general relationships send it, so that the child's mood will be slightly better, and in the afternoon to pick up more intimate people, so that you can happily finish school and not bring negative emotions home.
Third, prepare small things like attachment objects.
In order to make the child better and faster to adapt to the kindergarten, parents can prepare a small thing for the child, similar to attachment, or the bond between the child and the parent, which can enhance the child's sense of security.
For example, we can put a cartoon label on the child's school bag, quilt or water bottle, which is what the child likes, such as Peppa Pig, Rainbow Huskies, baby buses and other cartoon characters, or the child's favorite hair card, small hanging ornaments, etc., in order to increase the child's sense of security.
While bringing these things to your child, you should say good to your child, when you think of your parents in kindergarten, touch the cartoon characters or small hanging ornaments on the kettle, and your parents can feel it, because they are the little angels sent by their parents to protect you.
Let the child pin his thoughts on the trinkets, and the parents can feel it.
In this way, in fact, to convey a belief to the child, parents may not be by your side to accompany you, but the love of parents for you, as well as the attention and concern for you, will always accompany you, which can effectively alleviate the child's anxiety.
Fourth, do not overly beautify the kindergarten before entering the kindergarten.
Parents are advised not to overly beautify the kindergarten before their children enter the kindergarten. Don't try to coax your child to kindergarten, just desperately describe how good kindergarten is, there are many delicious, fun toys, and many children.
In the kindergarten, from the perspective of some children, no one plays with me in the kindergarten, these toys are not what I want to play, but I feel strange and lost, I will feel different from what my parents say, my parents are deceitful, and the contrast will be greater.
The right thing for parents to do is to objectively describe what will happen in kindergarten with their children, such as accompanying their children to see some picture books that can truly show the kindergarten scene, including fun parts and challenges he may encounter.
When the child has a comprehensive and true understanding of the kindergarten, it will be found that I am not the only one who has these problems, everyone is facing the same, and the child's anxiety, nervousness, and fear will slowly disintegrate.
Fifth, cultivate children's self-care ability in advance.
The last point is to cultivate the child's self-care ability at home in advance.
Some children cry because they are afraid that they will not be able to cope with what is about to happen in kindergarten.
For example, eating by yourself, going to the toilet by yourself, undressing, etc., some are very anxious when they see other children will, they will not, and some are afraid to even dare to tell the teacher and seek the teacher's help.
Therefore, parents at home, to cultivate their children's self-care ability, let the children do their own things, teach children to eat by themselves, drink their own water, wear their own clothes, and take off their shoes.
When the child can basically take care of himself in life, he may no longer be afraid, because these things that need to be experienced in kindergarten are all he will do, and he is also good at, within his control and ability range, the child will not be so reluctant to go to kindergarten, and even his self-care ability is stronger than his peers, and he can find a sense of superiority and will like the kindergarten environment.
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