Good habits can lead a person to success!

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Traditional Chinese culture believes that "sincerity is in the middle, and form is outside." "The sincere attitude towards people and things is called behavioral habits.

It is very important to develop good behavior habits. "Inertia" refers to inertia, and if you continue to do it, you will naturally form inertia, and the power of inertia is amazing. There is a proverb in India: "Sowing behavior, reaping habits; sowing habits, reaping character; sowing character, reaping destiny." Good habits can lead a person to success, as the so-called "today's habits, will be tomorrow's destiny." ”

Habits of life are the basis and beginning of all habits. How can I help my child develop good habits? The "Disciple Rules" is a child's daily life routine, which regulates a person's cherished time, wearing food, living and sitting, social interaction, receiving people and treating things, etc.

First, help children do a good job of "time management"

What is time management? It means that parents and children jointly discuss and scientifically and reasonably arrange their children's daily life schedules.

Why choose time management? Because only time in the world is fair to everyone, it's all 24 hours, and no one will have more, no one will be less. Whoever clings to the time, he wins. Children who generally perform poorly are a waste of time. Therefore, the "Disciple Rules" say: "Get up early, sleep late at night, and be old and easy to arrive, but at this time." "From ancient times to the present, cherishing time has been regarded as the top priority of self-cultivation. What parents need to do is to find ways to let the child's good behavior naturally form habits, so as to subtly occupy all the time of the child, and the child can grow up healthily.

How do I manage my time? It is very simple, help the child to arrange the 24 hours a day scientifically and reasonably, principled, flexible, what should the child do. Like what time to get up? What time to go to bed? What time is breakfast? What are the hours of learning, housework, and filial piety experience? What time is free time? Wait a minute.

Attached: My Daughter's Growth Action Plan

1. Lifestyle schedule

2. Living norms

(1) Provisions on "watching television and surfing the Internet". From Monday to Friday, if the teacher does not arrange, there is no need to watch TV and surf the Internet; on weekends and holidays, the total amount of time spent watching TV and surfing the Internet must not exceed two hours; it is absolutely not allowed to go to commercial Internet cafes to access the Internet; to watch healthy and upward TV and the Internet, away from low-level fun.

(2) Provisions on "self-directed learning". There are fixed locations, mainly at home; first complete the homework assigned by the teacher independently, efficiently, with quality and quantity; and then carry out diversified independent learning, such as reading outside the classroom, writing diary essays, sorting out wrong questions and study notes.

(3) Provisions on "autonomous activities". After parents know about it or solicit permission, organize and carry out individual or collective beneficial literary and artistic activities, social practice activities, and innovative activities.

(4) Provisions on "filial piety experience". Do something that makes Mom and Dad feel happy and happy, and observe and experience Mom and Dad's inner feelings. At least one per day from Monday to Friday, and at least two per day on weekends and holidays.

3. Scientific management

(1) Negotiate and do it

Because this is a child's business, it must be approved by the child's heart, at least his verbal promise, to be effective. If the child does not keep the promise, the child will pay the loss, the parent's education, the child is easy to accept.

(2) Careful management

Using human power to regulate is the most laborious and the most stupid. Can you control people, can you control your heart? Parents learn to "remote control management", if necessary, cold do not ding into the child's study to see what he is doing, cold do not ding to call home to ask about the situation, after returning home from work to ask him to report on the implementation of the day.

The highest realm is to manage with heart and manage with morality, that is to say, parents have examples by word and deed, morality, prestige, and the parent-child relationship is very good. At the same time, teach children to be moral, responsible for commitment, learn self-management, and learn to be "cautious and independent".

(3) Perseverance

The key to habit formation is in the first three days, decided in a month. At the beginning, parents must be kindly accompanied by their children to let their children develop habits, and parents must be able to persevere. Children can't stick to it, and they don't follow the rules because the parents themselves are lax and can't stick to it.

Parents can develop a "growth footprint book" that is persistently documented and evaluated. "If you do simple things repeatedly, you are the expert; if you do it repeatedly, you are the winner." Such "repetition" and "seriousness" are good habits.

(4) Timely encouragement

At the beginning, parents do a good job of daily records and evaluations, and later become children's own records, parents evaluate and motivate, and gradually become the footprints of children's growth. Parents should summarize the overall situation of their children in a timely manner, focusing on the advantages and progress. Parents must express your feelings to their children. Leng Buding can reward him with something, it can be material or spiritual, but do not make a deal in advance, whether to reward, reward what does not need to be discussed with the child, do not let the child do it for the reward, but let the child feel that the reward is a kind of kindness. Because that's what children should do.

(5) Step by step

Impatient to eat hot tofu, do things step by step to meet the avenue. Parents can not be anxious, parents should set a bottom line according to the specific situation of the child, so that the child has room for maneuver, but can not break the bottom line. After a period of time, you can go up and discuss the appropriate progress.

Story: The Three Saints of Ancient Greece

A student asked Socrates how he could learn his profound knowledge. Socrates did not answer directly after hearing this, but said: "Today we will only do the simplest and easiest thing, and each person will throw his arm as far forward as possible, and then throw it back as much as possible." Socrates demonstrated it and said, "From today onwards, do 300 times a day, can you do it?" ”

The students all laughed, such a simple thing, what can not be done? After a month, Socrates asked the students, "300 times a day, which students insisted?" Ninety percent of the students raised their hands proudly. Another month later, when Socrates asked the students again, eighty percent of them raised their hands.

A year later, Socrates asked everyone again: "Please tell me, the simplest hand-waving action, which other classmate insisted?" At this time, only one student raised his hand, and this student was Plato.

Parents, as long as you insist, you are Plato and your child is Aristotle.

The cultivation of the above-mentioned good living habits needs to be sincerely helped by parents, and can still be carried out in the form of "Daily Practice Table of disciple rules" and effectively promoted by scientific management in "time management".

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