Recently, CCTV's opening year drama "The World of Man" was a hit, and the first round won the first place in the golden file ratings.
The original book of the same name of this drama won the 10th Mao Dun Literature Award. Netizens said that the "Chinese-style" family education concept in the film is too heartfelt!
In one of the clips, the father of the Zhou family angrily rebuked his third son, Zhou Bingkun: "Which parent does not want his children to be glamorous, is this a snobbery?"
Zhou Bingkun was aggrieved: "They are all born and raised by a father and a mother, as far as I am concerned, how uncomfortable I am, do you know?" ”
However, as the plot progresses, many people finally realize that the most "stupid" children are the blessings of their parents.
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The Zhou family in "The World of Man" has three children.
The eldest son, Zhou Bingyi, was intelligent and studious from an early age, and has always been a bully, and was later admitted to Peking University.
After graduation, he went from a top man in a state-owned factory to an employee of a central government, with unlimited scenery.
He also thought about staying by his parents' side and being a teacher in his hometown, but in the end he was driven by the career and dream pursued in his heart and went to the bustling city.
The second daughter, Zhou Rong, is also talented, and after being admitted to Peking University, she became a university professor.
She was full of ambitions and later lived in France for more than a decade and became a writer.
Her experience is like that of a new-age woman, independent and assertive. But like her eldest brother, she is destined not to stay for affection.
On the other hand, the third son, Zhou Bingkun, has not studied well since he was a child, his qualifications are mediocre, and his grades are far inferior to those of his brother and sister.
Coupled with his thick and honest personality, everyone thought he was "stupid".
Destined to fly not far, he first worked as a worker in a timber factory and soy sauce factory, and later opened a pasta shop.
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Often, we may think that good children will be the protection of parents' future.
But in reality, the eldest son Zhou Bingyi and the second daughter Zhou Rong have long been away.
After the mother was paralyzed, it was Zhou Bingkun who took care of her seriously ill mother while helping her sister with the child.
He went to work and took care of his family, even if he wanted to enter the university by himself, he could not free up time and energy, and he suffered silently.
Zhou Bingkun, who seems to be the most "stupid", has become the pillar of the family and the only thing his parents rely on.
Whenever the New Year comes, relatives and friends visit the New Year, and the father always feels that his face is shining because everyone praises the eldest brother and the second sister.
Zhou Bingkun, on the other hand, tried to shrink in the corner, not wanting to attract attention.
A word his mother said to him gave him some comfort in his heart.
"Mom has always felt that you are better than your brother and your sister. After your brother and your sister left home in six or nine years, my mother really felt that they were gone. When you are at home, your mother is at ease. ”
Zhou Bingkun's brother-in-law once said: Since ancient times, there have been two kinds of filial piety, one is to nourish the mouth and the body, and the other is to cultivate the mind.
To take good care of your parents in life is to nourish your mouth and body; to achieve achievements in your work and make your parents proud of them is to nourish your mind.
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The root cause of parental dissatisfaction with their children is actually vanity.
A child like Zhou Bingkun is not a "nother person's child" who makes his parents' faces shine, but he is the most down-to-earth reliance on his parents.
But in real life, they are often beaten and ignored.
Zhou Bingkun said that satisfying his parents has become his greatest wish in this life.
In order to achieve this goal, he desperately proved himself, played a big role in publishing houses and restaurants, achieved formal establishment, lived in a big house, and looked forward to giving his father a surprise.
As a result, the unsuspecting father came back and felt not surprise, but fright.
Zhou Bingkun finally broke out, he cried and complained about his grievances and unwillingness for many years: "All are born of one father and one mother, all are raised by one father and one mother, I am not out of breath, how uncomfortable I am, do you know, you do not comfort me not to say, I will sprinkle salt, what words are difficult to hear what you say, where it hurts you to cut where ..."
"What did I say?" Father asked.
"You said that your brother and your sister studied well, and you came in the first place..."
"Isn't that true?" Father was righteous.
But should it be said? Across the screen, the audience felt suffocated and desperate for Zhou Bingkun.
No matter how filial the child is, it is not as good as the promising child, which is an inescapable curse for many Chinese families.
Many children have tried to make up for their shortcomings in school and work, but they have not met the standards of their parents.
Zhou Bingkun in "The World of Man" is the epitome of countless Chinese children, they are ordinary, ordinary, busy, but they sparkle in the corners you can't see.
And they can often be the backbone of a family.
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Not long ago, a very popular video circulated on the Internet, and the photographer was an 80-year-old man living alone.
"I'm so lonely, alone. My children are not with me. I have worked hard all my life, worked on the education front all my life, more than 50 years of teaching experience, but I am now alone, so lonely.
In fact, the old man's family was thriving, with two daughters, two sons, 8 grandchildren, and 7 great-grandchildren.
The sons and daughters are very filial, but in order to live, they work in the United States, Guangzhou, Zhuzhou, and Chaling County, and there is really no way to take care of it.
They go home once a year or two, and they have filial piety, but it is difficult to fulfill filial piety. On the balance of choice, you can only helplessly owe your parents.
Some children drift apart from their parents.
Zhou Guoping once said: "Everything in the world is extraordinary, and in the end it must return to the ordinary, and its value must be measured by ordinary life." Great, wonderful, successful is nothing, only the ordinary life is really good, life is complete. ”
99% of children will eventually go to the ordinary.
And can we embrace the ordinariness of our children in the face of them?
There is no unified measure of whether a child is good or bad, success or failure.
Psychologist Li Xue once said: "Seeing is true love." ”
Looking at the child peacefully, we will find the real shining point in the child.
We should not neglect the nurturing of the day after tomorrow because the child is smart, nor should we ignore the child's other qualities because he seems stupid.
Looking directly at the differences of each child is the future direction of education.
Whether they are gifted such as Zhou Bingyi or have mediocre qualifications such as Zhou Bingkun, they should not "hammer and nail" their lives.
Love work, hard work, kindness and filial piety... These qualities are becoming more and more valuable in today's impetuous society.
As it is said in "The World of Man": Ordinary us, dressed in rain, snow, wind and frost, do not ask where to go, and still sing with the wind with the four seasons of withering glory.
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