If you like a person, you especially want to be good to this person, but slowly you will find that the more you are wholeheartedly good to him, the more willing you are willing to think about him, the less he pays attention to you, because he feels that he does not have to do anything, he can get all your good, and he will not be willing to pay attention to you anymore.
Maintaining a relationship also requires wisdom, you have to be attentive to him, but also let him be attentive to you, let him understand that you are really precious, so you can't be too honest sometimes, you can't just know how to pay stupidly, people have to live for themselves, the same is true for feelings, you must know how to think for yourself, you have to know how to fight for each other's sincerity for yourself.
Many examples in life tell us that you can choose to be kind, but you must not be too cowardly, if you are too "honest" in these 4 things, you will only hurt yourself.
1, in terms of spending money
When two people are together, there are many places where money needs to be spent, such as two people eating together, watching a movie, or sending each other a gift, and sending each other a red envelope for the holidays.
If you are too honest, embarrassed to spend each other's money, every time you go out on a date, you are not embarrassed to pay the red envelopes sent by the past, and the other party may not be as embarrassed as you, he may still be in order to save money for himself and be complacent, he looks at you so generously, he will be more stingy in the future, more reluctant to spend money for you.
Therefore, you can not be too honest in spending money, when you should let the other party pay the bill, you must let the other party spend money, do not feel embarrassed, you can buy gifts for the other party, you can take the initiative to invite him to dinner next time, but you must not let the other party spend money for you, because then he will only care less and less about you, and even disrespect you.
2. In the event of an argument
There is nothing wrong with an argument in the relationship, what matters is the attitude after the argument.
Some people's hearts are relatively large, and they feel that after the quarrel has subsided, there will be nothing, so they take the initiative to find each other again. You do this the other party will not only not miss your good temper, but will also look down on you, the next quarrel will have no scruples, do not care whether you will be sad and sad, anyway, you will take the initiative to find him.
Therefore, you must not be too honest in this regard, even if you really are not angry, you can not take the initiative to bow your head, to put your attitude there, to let the other party know the consequences of making you angry, the other party will cherish you more, the next time will pay more attention, will not easily quarrel with you.
3. In terms of trust
You feel like two people have to trust each other together, so you give him a lot of freedom, never looking at his phone or asking him about his whereabouts.
But in fact, there should still be some constraints between couples, looking at each other's mobile phones is not because of distrust, asking about each other's whereabouts is not because of distrust, but because these things are the basis for building trust, and it is also what couples should do.
If you are too honest and never care about this, the other party has no constraints, you can play outside at will, anyway, he is not worried about being discovered by you, because you don't care at all. Maintaining feelings still requires some restraint on each other, both to trust him and not to make him unscrupulous.
4, in terms of the bottom line
There are many people in life, because they especially love their other half, they will pay a lot for the person they love in their feelings, and they will also give the greatest tolerance as much as possible.
But some things can be tolerated, and some things cannot be easily tolerated, because the more you tolerate, the other party will only gain inches again and again, and even break your heart. For example, in the matter of betrayal, if your other half betrays yourself, the other party hopes to be able to get your forgiveness, some people easily choose to forgive in order to maintain this relationship, but in the end you will find that your easy forgiveness is only the betrayal of the other party again.
So, in this case, even if you want to forgive, you must make the other party pay some price, and know what the consequences will be next time you do it. If you just forgive casually, the other person will feel that it is not a big deal, and it is likely to make the same mistake again, and he will only be in awe after he has paid a certain price.
Feelings are actually more like a game, the winner goes on happily, and the loser needs to accept defeat, start over, find a person in the sea of people who can make his heart move, and re-know and understand him.
Everyone wants a relationship to the end, no one wants to go through this complicated process, and they don't want to bear the pain caused by a failed relationship, I hope that every emotional road can be smooth, and I hope that everyone can be cherished by the people in front of them.
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