Every child is a jewel in the palm of their parents, and parents want their children to be closer to themselves. But some parents find that their children seem to be reluctant to sleep with themselves, or even to let themselves touch, which also makes many parents feel distressed.
Although Xiao Li is a man, he is also a full-time bao dad. His wife works outside every day, so the burden of taking care of the children is entrusted to him. Every day Xiao Li needs to wash and cook, and then also needs to take care of the children, it can be said that every day is very tired. And Xiao Li's mother really couldn't see it, so she said to Xiao Li: "You must be too tired to take care of the child every day, otherwise it will be like this, at night I sleep with the child, and you have a good night's sleep." ”
Xiao Li felt that such a method is also very good after listening to it, after all, the pressure of taking care of children every day is very large, if you can sleep on your own, then you can quickly fall asleep, and you can also make your body recover quickly, so he agreed. At the beginning, Xiao Li felt that such a result was very good, but later he found that there were many drawbacks to this practice.
Once Xiao Li's mother went out to visit relatives, so this night, Xiao Li had to sleep with her children. But at this time, he found a very helpless thing, that is, the child did not want to sleep with himself, he wanted to follow his grandmother.
This makes Xiao Li feel very heartbroken, knowing that he is so good to the child, why does the child intentionally want to alienate himself? And Xiao Li also told his friends about this matter, and his friend told Xiao Li: "In fact, whoever the child sleeps with will be closer to whomever he sleeps." Xiao Li didn't believe it at first, but now he understands that the real situation is like this, and it is difficult to make up for it now.
In fact, this is a very realistic thing, especially at this age, children will be closer to whoever sleeps with them. If you miss this critical stage, it will be absolutely difficult to make up for it.
So before which age?
In fact, for each child, before the age of one and a half they will build a sense of trust through physical contact and emotional communication. Therefore, at this time, as parents, we should appear more around our children and sleep with our children at night. In this way, the relationship between each other will become closer, and the child will not resist the parents and even become closer to the parents.
If the parent's identity is replaced by someone else in the process, the child may become closer to the person. In fact, through this angle, it can be seen that in the process of parenting, companionship is very important. Companionship will make children feel safe, will make children feel trusted, and will make children familiar with us.
If children lack the company of their parents before the age of one and a half, then they will feel that they will lack the presence of parents in their lives, which will affect their relationship with their parents. The period from one and a half to three years old is a critical period for the establishment of trust, and this stage is also very important for children.
Therefore, we should always be by the child's side and sleep with the child at night. When a child clearly realizes that his parents are the ones who accompany him the most, they will let down their guard and their relationship with their parents will become better and better.
Elders can help, but don't raise children
In fact, in real life, some young people are very busy at work, and the pressure is also very large, so after returning home, there is no time to take care of children. In addition, many novice moms and dads have no experience in taking care of children at all, so they will always show a passive look in taking care of children, so at this time, the elders reflect their unique value.
For example, some people think that their grandparents can take care of their children, and once their grandparents take care of their children, then they will become very relaxed and can complete what they want to do. It is important to know that elders can indeed help with children, but they must not be allowed to devote all their energy to children.
Because it is very easy to make them closer to their children, so that children will ignore the existence of their parents, so it is not difficult for children to be strange from their parents.
Through this incident, we can see that parents must establish an important position in the child's heart, only in this way can we ensure that the child is closer to the parents. So when the child is about one and a half years old, be sure to sleep with him, and then give them plenty of companionship when they are young, otherwise they will feel that their parents are very strange.