For many young mothers, the most annoying thing in life is not their own "noisy" baby, they not only like to "noisy" baby, but also incidentally "destroy" family relations, because of different educational concepts and out of doting on children, grandparents will usually support their children one-sidedly, resulting in tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, let you manage and not care about it.
In fact, when a child first arrives, he is full of curiosity about the world, has a strong desire to explore, is excited about almost everything around him, and wants to experience it for himself. If they are not allowed to "make a fuss", their exuberant energy cannot be vented, they will always find a way to "make a fuss", so they will fall into the embarrassing situation of "the more they don't let the fuss get noisy". Therefore, the best way to let the child quiet down is not to let the child "make a fuss", but to find a way to let the child's energy be vented in a way that is acceptable to both the child and the parents themselves.
Speaking of this, my cousin deeply understands.
She gave birth to a cute little baby four years ago, because she did not want to be a full-time mother, she wanted to work, so after obtaining her mother-in-law's consent, as soon as the weaning period arrived, she handed the child over to her mother-in-law to take care of, and she also went to work.
The child's grandmother is a retired primary school teacher, with a certain scientific method of early education, the cousin thinks that she can rest assured that the child can be handed over to the mother-in-law, but when the child reaches the age of one and a half, she feels more and more wrong: when the children of other families are so old, they are noisy, only their own children, in addition to going out to play for a while in the morning, play with stickers at home in the afternoon, quiet like a "stuffy gourd". His grandmother neither gave him early education, nor did she teach him to read and memorize ancient poems.
For this matter, the cousin has pulled the cousin-in-law to communicate with the mother-in-law several times, hoping that the mother-in-law will teach the child some knowledge and implement "real" early education, and every time the mother-in-law always pats her chest and says "rest assured" and "it's okay", but afterwards she still wanders around like this every day, and buys a lot of stickers and painting books.
Although the cousin was uncomfortable, after all, she repeatedly asked her mother-in-law to help with the child, so she still put up with it, thinking of letting the child "free" for a few years, waiting for the kindergarten to make up for it.
But the result made her overjoyed, when the child was sent to kindergarten at the age of three, he did not feel uncomfortable because he had never learned ancient poetry and English words, on the contrary, the kindergarten teacher often praised the child for having super concentration, the potential to be a bully, and encouraged her to continue to train the child's concentration.
It turns out that under normal circumstances, three-year-old children can only maintain concentration for about 10 minutes, while the children of the cousin's family can sit motionless for half an hour, listen to the teacher's lectures very seriously, and have a particularly strong ability to understand. The same thing, the teacher told other children for half an hour to understand, he understood in 10 minutes.
The teacher curiously asked the cousin how to bring out such an excellent child, and the cousin was embarrassed to say that she usually rarely brought children, mainly the children's grandmothers, and let the children play with stickers and graffiti every day.
And the cousin is also at this time to admire their mother-in-law's early education methods, more than 30 years of primary school teachers' teaching experience really has a set, let the child play stickers seem to be very out of tune, but it is the best way to seize the "critical period" of children's growth to cultivate children's concentration.
What are the benefits of playing with stickers and doodles before your child goes to kindergarten? To sum up, there are the following points:
First, train the child's sensory organ coordination ability to enhance the child's concentration
Before the age of 4 is the key period for the development of visual image, children have an extremely sensitive awareness of the environment, so that children can maintain long-term continuous observation of the environment without distraction, in fact, it is to train children's concentration.
According to her cousin, her child's favorite is to play a sticker book called "Left and Right Brain Development Sticker Picture Book", this sticker is rich in content and interesting, the child often opens it and is completely immersed in his own world, hands, eyes, and brains are busy with how to do better, and they will not be distracted at all.
After two or three years of hand, eye, and brain cooperation training, the child's sensory coordination ability, concentration and hand-brain coordination ability are far from being comparable to other children.
Second, exercise children's classification and sorting ability and spatial thinking ability
Kindergarten teachers said that the early childhood stage is the key period to cultivate induction ability, let children play stickers can effectively exercise children's spatial thinking ability, such as: what is round, what is square, what is the position relationship between different objects, etc., children in play stickers will be their own analysis and classification, so at the same time exercise the classification of collation, spatial thinking these two major abilities.
Cousin children's favorite "left and right brain development sticker picture book", there are many classification and sorting problems and graphic recognition questions, children play like this every day in the process, both exercise the classification and sorting ability and spatial thinking, but also exercise concentration, develop the left and right brain, for the future to learn the arts and sciences are very helpful.
Third, exercise your child's memory
"Left and right brain development sticker picture book" this kind of sticker paper is scientifically carefully designed, visually attract the child's attention at the same time, but also let the child to accurately remember the position of each sticker to do the right sticker, invisibly exercise the child's memory, play when remembering the type of sticker and page number, and according to the instructions to find the correct position of the sticker.
"Children are quiet, they must be making a demon", when we see children scribbling and scribbling around with a pen, many of our parents often think that the children are "making a demon" to make trouble, and then stop the children. As everyone knows, it is the child who uses his own nature to signal to his parents that "I want to draw things" and "I am cultivating spatial thinking", but we have wasted the best period for the child to exercise concentration, sensory organ coordination ability, classification ability, spatial thinking ability and memory, especially it takes several times the time and energy to cultivate, and even can no longer be cultivated, which is a pity.
Of course, the kindergarten teacher also said that any of the children's abilities are not given by others, and they need to be mastered in learning. When the child is playing with stickers, try not to disturb the child, let the child play to the fullest, when the child requests to explain, you can properly explain it to the child, but do not do it for the child. At the beginning, don't be disgusted with children clumsily doing slowly, everything is difficult at the beginning, when the child is skilled, experience the fun and know-how, it will be faster and faster, more and more perfect.
It is recommended that you also buy some stickers and painting books for your children to play, such as my cousin's favorite set of "Left and Right Brain Development Sticker Picture Books", which integrates knowledge and fun, suitable for 2-6-year-old children. The whole set of books has a total of 16 books, each of which has a theme, these 16 themes are intellectual development, moral business cultivation, situational ability, learning and business training, attention, hands-on ability, regular training, cognitive ability, financial and business training, reaction ability, memory ability, time play, creative ability, classification ability, space game, visual training, almost the most conducive to the cultivation of children's ability in the early childhood stage, the content has been, very comprehensive!
Everyone's energy is limited, let the children play in middle school, play in school, learn a variety of knowledge, exercise a variety of underlying abilities, and cultivate the internal driving force of independent learning, so that both "idle" parents, but also let the children unconsciously have a variety of underlying abilities required for future learning, do not worry about children's poor learning.
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