Evolutionary Psychology: Men's "Virgin Complex" is to ensure the uniqueness of genes From 2018 to the present, people have done quite a lot of questionnaires on virgin complexes because of this topic

Evolutionary psychology: Men's "virgin complex" is to ensure the uniqueness of genes

From 2018 to the present, people have done a considerable number of questionnaires on the virgin complex, because this topic has remained hot from beginning to end, and finally found that among all the men who participated in the survey, 85.82% of men with "virgin complex" accounted for 85.82%.

Many men say "it's okay, I don't care, I love you as a person", but there is still a hurdle in their subconscious, there is no doubt that men always care so much about women's "first time".

In another set of data, it is also shown that 83.6% of men will be better off with their virgin girlfriends.

Seeing this survey result, not only did it give many women who advocated women's freedom a slap in the face, in fact, the virgin complex is not unique to Chinese men, and the virgin complex is a social phenomenon that is common in the world.

We go back to evolutionary psychology: from this point of view, the "virgin complex" stems from the deep anxiety of the male psyche, the concern about whether his genes are unique, in other words, the excessive emphasis on the female body to ensure the uniqueness of genes.

In ancient times, when humans were still primates, the fertilized egg was fertilized in the mother's body, so there is no doubt who the child's mother is, "only know its mother does not know its father" has become a common phenomenon, this uncertainty of patriarchy has promoted the birth of matriarchal society, it does not matter who the child's father is, the child is brought up by the mother, whether there is a man or not.

Until human beings enter the patriarchal society, men bear the burden of society because they are physically strong, so "hard work" is handed over to men to do, and the responsibility of naturally raising offspring is also handed over to men, while in ancient times, society was cruel and resources were scarce, and everything had to be desperately competed, and men even had to pay the price of life in order to raise wives and children.

So is this child biological? However, ancient medicine was not developed, where to verify DNA. Like the ancient blood recognition, bone recognition, in fact, there is no science. As a result, men evolved a virgin complex to ensure the uniqueness of their genes.

Judging from the evolution of China's virgin complex alone, in fact, the ancients were far more open than we think, even more daring than contemporary, and whether they were virgins or not was not a big deal for a long time.

As early as the Book of Poetry, there is a record of nori, and instead of being considered shameful, it became a capital for boasting. In the Qin and Han dynasties, the customs and culture were also quite rough, just take Cao Cao, who specifically looked for beautiful local widows during the Three Kingdoms period and never looked for a virgin.

And his son Cao Pi also married someone else's wife, and it is reasonable to say that if chastity threatens royal etiquette, they must not do so.

Not to mention the Tang Dynasty, the status of women rose sharply, and the late Tang Dynasty recorded that the wife of a man named Hu Yanji once stepped down from Mawei: "If you don't follow me, then I will leave you, and there must be a man who accepts me." ”

As a result, not long after this Hu Yanji left, he received a parting letter from his wife, saying that she had a new man and gave him a green hat. This woman's sense of freedom is stronger than many women today.

The shame of Jingkang in the Song Dynasty is the reason why Chinese men really began, and since the Spring and Autumn Period, there have actually been remarks about female chastity, but most people have not paid attention to it.

After the events of the Southern Song Dynasty, the concept began to change dramatically, and the women who were humiliated in the shame of Jingkang left a deep shadow on Chinese men, and people's concepts changed from "heavy survival, light chastity" to "heavy chastity, light survival".

In the Southern Song Dynasty, the social atmosphere was also very debauched, the number of private qinglou was far more than before, the prostitution industry was very developed, and social morality was degraded, so Cheng Zhu Lixue was born, and they felt that their obligation was to support social justice.

A typical example is that Zhu Xi painstakingly stipulated the concept of chastity of the three from four virtues, which was implemented from the time of Emperor Lizong of Song, which greatly rectified the social atmosphere.

Under the admiration of Song Lizong, the science of science rose to the level of official learning, stipulating that the masses should refrain from self-denial, until the Ming and Qing dynasties, it became more and more distorted, and finally even women's hands could not be touched, and their faces could not be exposed.

Although women's rights and interests are squeezed, Cheng Zhu Lixue is considered from the perspective of the whole society, which better regulates monogamy and is conducive to protecting the development of the small peasant economy.

Judging from the traditional Chinese culture as a whole for thousands of years, China has always been a country that emphasizes the culture of premarital chastity, but it has been further strengthened after the shame of Jing Kang.

If you take the world's ranking to compare, China in this area is either the first, or second, and the United States is the opposite, the United States in this area of the degree of importance ranked 18, which shows that the two countries of openness are very different, China's virgin culture is like a traditional custom, passed down to today.

Cheng Zhu Lixue's culture from the four virtues, the foot binding system, the women's chastity archway, the chastity lock invented by men, etc., these are actually the products of the virgin plot, but with the progress of the times have been eliminated, but the concept of the virgin complex has not been eliminated, it still subtly affects people's intimate relationships.

In modern times, the virgin complex has no practical use for society, but has become a personal spiritual purity of men.

Although many men say that they don't care, in fact, the author can tell everyone very clearly that every man must have a virgin complex, and subconsciously must want his woman to belong to himself completely.

This is both about the possessiveness of men and the lack of heart in every man's heart, and the virgin complex is a plus, but it is not a must.

Contemporary women still have to clean up and love well, if you are a beautiful and optimistic woman who loves life, then I am sure your future husband will not mind.

When you are good enough to be valuable, you are entitled to enjoy both physical and mental freedom.