Looking forward to the child's success is the dream of every parent, and parents also spare no effort to cultivate children.
Especially in the era when knowledge and academic qualifications are king, parents pay a strong attention to their children's education.
Most parents have a certain degree of comparison in the process of their children's growth, hoping that their children will be better and more dazzling than students of the same age.
Even a small result can make parents feel extremely happy.
When there is only one child in the family, the parents will spare no effort to cultivate the child to become a talent, and will give all the advantageous resources in the family.
When there are multiple children in the family, not only financially, it will face strong pressure, and even many unexpected problems will occur.
A few days ago, the quadruplets of the Shen family in Shandong province stood tall, and 4 girls appeared on the Internet, which suddenly aroused the attention of the whole network.
The four twins who learned dance from an early age were admitted to the Shandong Academy of Arts together and were assigned to the same dormitory.
After years of dance practice, the temperament of the four sisters is very outstanding, and participated in the recording of variety shows, and their appearance on the Internet has also aroused the attention of many netizens.
The names of the 4 girls are "Ice Qing Yu Jie", which shows that their parents gave them strong expectations when they were born.
The 4 girls who did not live up to their parents' expectations bloomed their own light in their youth.
As their parents, spare no effort to cultivate, presumably the heart must be very happy.
Many netizens saw this scene and also praised their parents, wanting to cultivate such an excellent child, it is not an easy thing, not to mention that 4 children grow up together.
Presumably, in the process of growing up in these 4 girls, the parents must have paid endless hardships, which also brings a powerful reminder to all parents who have multiple children in the family, and in the process of their learning and growth, these problems cannot be ignored.
[When there are multiple children in the family, parents should pay more attention to these]
1. Equitable distribution of educational resources
When there are multiple children in the family, the fairness of education is likely to determine the direction of future children.
Although many children have mediocre qualifications, parents also spare no effort.
However, when there are multiple children in the family, parents often have no way to take such good care, and even uneven distribution of resources.
Parents doing this is a great harm to their children, not only to their confidence, but even to the extreme.
The more there are multiple children in the family, the more equity of education should be maintained, and only in this way can children encourage each other and develop in a better direction in a positive environment.
2, pay attention to the child's inner emotions
When there are multiple children in the family, the parents' emotional changes and behaviors are likely to adversely affect the children.
Children will also emerge negative emotions that cannot be ignored, so parents should pay more attention to their children's inner emotions and behaviors.
Only in this way can we provide them with a healthier and better growth environment and avoid turning against each other.
3. Set a benchmark for good learning
When there are multiple children in the family, as parents, if you want them to form a healthy competition in grades and have a stronger future, you may wish to encourage your children to grow in a better direction by setting a benchmark.
Although there may be a certain competition between brothers and sisters, this competition is only to encourage each other, but parents should grasp the scale.
4. Pay attention to communication with children
When there are multiple children in the family, it is inevitable that the parents' energy will often not be able to take care of the emotions of each child.
However, in the leisure time of parents, we must also pay attention to communication with children, do not be parents on high, and become friends of children growing up.
Only in this way can we avoid the various problems and contradictions in the process of their growth.
Stable and orderly communication can make them grow into better people, while the guidance and promotion of parents make their relationship more harmonious.
5. Respect your child's choice
When there are multiple children in the family, parents should respect the child's choice as much as possible, each child has the right to choose the road to take in the future, as a parent, you can only give advice to avoid the child taking a detour.
When children are fully respected and recognized, they move in a better direction and the atmosphere between families becomes more harmonious.
【Author's Message】
Ushinsky once said that learning is labor, not relying on any unrealistic superficial article.
Education should be fair and provide an equal platform for all children to compete.
As for whether it can stand out from the crowd, this is inseparable from the child's own conditions and is closely related to the parents' education methods.
When there are more children in the family, whether it is from energy or from the distribution of funds, there is no way to maintain absolute fairness.
The more this situation, the more parents should pay attention to the above problems, otherwise there will be regret or be blamed.
Today's topic sharing: Do you think: When there are multiple children in the family, especially on issues such as education, what problems should parents pay attention to? Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences below.