Want to be happy, but, you know what it is? Do you really know how to get it? Many family problems are not caused by a moment. Some parents go through some tutoring

Want to be happy, but, you know what it is? Do you really know how to get it?

Many family problems are not caused by a moment.

Some parents seem to realize that there are some problems in their education through some family education lectures. Also learned some methods. But when you go back, the result is often meaningless.

Remember, I asked a male classmate whose temper was not very good in junior high school, but he was still able to communicate.

I asked him: Your parents learned these homeschools, do you feel useful to you and your family?

He replied: It may be useful, after all, he can also have the heart to improve, but he understands, does not mean that I can also understand. I don't think that the personality they have cultivated for 3 or 40 years will change because they have learned so many lessons. Even if they can change a little bit, they are acting for me, or to prove that they are useful for spending that money, not being deceived. In fact, the purpose is to think that I can do what they think is right according to their ideas. They simply don't want to take the time to really get to know me, much less how to respect me. They say they love me, but in fact, they love themselves more, or they love the son they imagined needed.

At that time, I was amazed at the depth of this child's thinking and cognition.

He saw it so thoroughly that he was much more thorough than his parents.

However, he also deeply felt helpless for his parents.

So how can such a "smart" boy be so "rebellious" and so bitter in his heart?

In the inquiry, he learned that his parents like to watch TV, watch mobile phones, and go out to socialize, and rarely communicate with him, the family rarely does something together, they all play their own, there is no complete concept of home, and they do not appreciate what warmth and different love understanding this home can bring to themselves. Mom and Dad talk about things either arguing or complaining to each other.

He also tried to tell his parents about the pressure in school, but got the words "others can do it, why can't you do it". He knew what to do, but he just felt that no one at school and family could comfort and care for him, even if he couldn't hold on a little, just give him a silent hug. This "indifference" prompted him to choose to "do" to resist, he did all the things that the school did not allow him to do, tossed his parents hard, spent their money, and smashed the things in the house or other people's things to make them lose if they did not give. Since you don't make me good, don't think about it. Countless threats to ZS, etc. It is to annoy all the people around him, so that he feels pleasure and has a sense of existence.

A plant, we raise it.

It needs light, it needs water, it needs to be trimmed and maintained.

Is it okay to let it shine more in the sun?

Is it okay to pour some more water on it?

Then it's dead.

Is it okay to pour less and be less exposed to sunlight?

It will either be unhealthy or it will still be unsustainable.

But how can a gardener feed?

And it seems that as long as it is not a rare variety, it is a gardener, and it can raise flowers very well.

Even Grandpa and Grandpa are well taken care of.

Why?

There is a saying: it is not difficult for those who will meet, it will not be difficult for those who are difficult.

The quickest way to solve a problem is to know the answer.

Educating children is the same in itself.

There are some methods and considerations, but they are not as difficult as imagined.

But anyone who can master some laws and pay attention to some methods, and who is also a very positive and loving person, in fact, there is no problem in thriving itself.

Moreover, man is not a plant or an animal, and his self-learning ability and perception ability will also allow him to know how to heal and grow.

There is still a saying circulating in China:

Any good man has a great woman to shape behind.

I firmly believe in this statement.

From childhood, it is shaped by the mother, and when it grows up, it is shaped by the wife who sets up a family.

Most men in China can ignore outsiders, but they are obedient in front of their wives.

The phrase "Happy Mother, Happy Family" is a true portrayal of today's Chinese family.

Chinese men generally take care of their wives, because of love, they can make all the compromises for the people they love. I mean most of it.

So since compromises can be made, how to compromise is what women say.

If it is a person who understands the interest of life, loves life very much, and knows how to respect and understand the requirements of women behind the scenes, he will naturally follow this aspect, because in this way he can get the like of the other party, and he can feel the love given by the woman (the person he loves), and he feels so happy. So is it not very crucial to shape the woman of the man?

The combination of love and family is definitely a two-way choice for people who have the ability to think independently on both sides. They know what kind of people are right for them, because they know in their hearts what life they want and what life and happiness they want.

What is not available is that there is no such thing as a two-way choice. It is generally followed by feelings or constantly with material superiority. Because they can only recognize this level, it is natural to deal with problems in these ways. But it doesn't mean you won't feel happy. Low cognitive demand is also good.

Then having this kind of independence is not something that can be achieved overnight.

The formation of independence will naturally bring themselves convenient problem-solving skills, and a higher quality of life experience.

However, if you don't give it to him or her, and he is not a magic beast, he can accept the inheritance at what stage. Then there is only one way to have this kind of independence, that is, to have received this education and personal experience from an early age, and with this experience and ability and feeling, you will know what love is and how to create love.

Knowledge is unlimited.

Life is not infinite.

Is the pursuit of infinite knowledge with a finite life really the purpose of your life?

Feel the existence of love, seek the embodiment of your own value, and achieve the self you want to achieve. Isn't it important?

But, will you?