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Author | Rose Qinghua Editor | Xiao Liu
1. What should I do if a well-connected colleague leaves?
At the beginning of 2020, the outbreak of the new crown epidemic, our company started work a month later than usual, coupled with the epidemic
The next business is not easy to carry out, the salary of sales staff has dropped significantly, and many colleagues have jumped ship to seek a way to survive.
Hu Shi also resigned under such circumstances, but compared with other people's other highs, Hu Shi's departure is more like a farce under emotional matters.
During that time, Manager Zhang was the first person to give a resignation application. During the epidemic period, the salary has declined, and Manager Zhang needs to support his family, otherwise he will not even be able to pay the mortgage, and the company's leaders also expressed understanding.
It's just that Manager Zhang's walk seems to have suddenly sucked out Hu Shi's enthusiasm for work.
Because Hu Shi came into the company for two and a half years, it was Manager Zhang who has been guiding the work. It is no exaggeration to say that Manager Zhang is The Bole of Hu Shi's work, Hu Shi can become the company's new sales champion, and Manager Zhang is indeed a great credit.
As soon as Manager Zhang left, Hu Shi's state at work was a bit sluggish, and our leaders had euphemistically criticized Hu Shi and should not work with private emotions.
The resignation of Liu Miao, who has a very good relationship with Hu Shi, is completely deviating from Hu Shi's rhythm.
Because Liu Miao's health is not very good, he is not able to adapt to the need to travel frequently, so he wants to change to a more stable job.
Liu Miao and Hu Shi are classmates in the same university and the same batch of interns who came into the company, and the friendship between the two has been extended from the university to the work.
When Liu Miao left, Hu Shi also simply proposed to leave his post.
Because Hu Shi and Liu Miao have left their jobs one after another, coupled with the good relationship in their daily lives, we all thought that they would jump ship in the same company.
More than a month later, Li Jie chatted with Hu Shi privately and asked Hu Shi how her new job was.
Hu Shi said awkwardly that Liu Miao only told herself after leaving her job that she had actually found a home, that is, to go to work in a factory with relatives.
Hu Shi suddenly felt that he was too impulsive to resign.
Fortunately, Hu Shi was born in finance, and it was difficult to find a job during the epidemic, so she first went to a relative's factory as a finance, and waited until the epidemic was not so serious, and then looked for a new job.
If we talk about the salary treatment, it is definitely not as good as Hu Shi's salary for sales. After the epidemic in early 2020 passed, our company regrouped and reopened the market, and the treatment of sales staff was even more impressive than before.
We have privately discussed Hu Shi's departure, if Hu Shi did not impulsively leave, with her ability, buying a house and a car before the age of thirty is not a dream.
The relationship between colleagues who are gathered together because of work is very fragile once they leave the environment of work. Don't confuse the distance between colleagues and friends, otherwise you can easily be emotional at work.
2. No matter how well-connected colleagues are, don't say what they shouldn't say
When I first started working, I mistakenly treated well-connected colleagues as friends, and I once made such a mistake.
As a result, the leader criticized me at the meeting, both overt and covertly.
The reason for the matter is this, when I was a sales white, when I was working with a colleague Li Rui to discuss the project, the customer group that originally belonged to me was privately snatched away by Li Rui.
Although I know that it must be that I have not done enough in one link, the customer will finally choose Li Rui. But I couldn't hold my breath in my heart, so I privately asked Ling Jie, who had been guiding me in my work, to raise doubts.
Because Sister Ling and I are fellow countrymen, they have always taken good care of me in work and life. Occasionally, sometimes, they will chat with me about gossip, talk about their outlook on life, and complain to me about which colleague is not easy to get along with.
In my heart, Sister Ling has always been a bit of a half-friend, so I subconsciously complained to her.
At first, Ling Jie also expressed understanding. Later, when I mentioned this matter in front of Sister Ling a little indignantly for the second time, Sister Ling was silent.
Two days later, when the team leader held a meeting, the leader said something in the open and in secret, which made me suddenly understand that I took the friendship between me and LingJie too seriously.
The leader said that some people, obviously their own ability is not enough, customers take the initiative to choose others, but also to complain about others' not. If it is a customer who is handled by me, it is absolutely impossible to run away. Instead of having time to complain, it's better to improve your business.
Sister Ling does take better care of me at work, but she is also my superior, and she has the responsibility to supervise the shortcomings of colleagues in their work. In fact, strictly speaking, I know that it is indeed because my business ability is not so strong that the customer took the initiative to choose Li Rui.
It's just that I held my breath in my heart and needed to find someone to talk to, but this person was wrong. Since then, I have only regarded Sister Ling as a colleague, and I hardly discuss personal topics except for work matters.
Since then, I have really realized that in the workplace, you and your colleagues get along very well, and you shouldn't say anything you shouldn't say. Your private negative emotions are not suitable for showing in front of your colleagues.
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In the workplace, there are several obvious lines of distinction between colleagues and friends, and I will summarize three points for you.
1. Do not discuss workplace-sensitive topics
Sensitive topics at work, such as salary, your private complaints and evaluations of leaders and colleagues, your plans to get married and have children, and whether you will transition and jump jobs in the future, these are all minefields between you and your colleagues.
Our company once had a new employee who asked our old employees in person about their salaries, and our old employees thought that this new employee did not understand the world.
Because of the salary and treatment matter, the personnel will definitely explain to you clearly during the interview. If you're still curious, it's a private inquiry, not a face-to-face inquiry.
2. Discuss less personal topics
Colleagues are not friends, do not talk with colleagues about the length of the family, to gossip about others.
True workplace elites know how to maximize their time and do not put extra energy into discussing the topic of colleagues' gossip. You carefully observe that the people in each company who like to gossip about right and wrong are also mediocre in their work.
Because discussing personal topics in the workplace will not only distract your work energy, but also affect your interpersonal relationships.
3. Help between colleagues is a paid service
How to distinguish the dividing line between colleagues and friends, there is a very important criterion, that is, the help between colleagues is paid.
When you help your colleague, the next time you need help, you can justifiably ask for his help. When your colleague makes an unreasonable request, you can rightfully reject him.
Even friends have no obligation to help you, let alone colleagues in the workplace.
In the workplace, when you attach too much importance to friendship with colleagues, you will be prone to emotional things. Work, on the other hand, requires rational thinking to deal with. No matter how good the relationship is, colleagues are not friends, and no matter how well colleagues get along with each other, they must also grasp the sense of boundaries.