The water static pole is clear in image, and the mind is quiet and wise.
The Meditations read:
Talk should not be messy, work should not be anxious, the soul should not be uneasy, and the life can be smooth and worry-free.
In a person's words and deeds, there is a hidden quality of life.
Speaking is not casual, acting is not impatient, and being a person is not willful, in order to be the real controller of your own life, the more comfortable you are.
The top cultivation of adults is nothing more than: to hide words, to calm down, and to keep the heart.
01
Everyone hides the words
As the old saying goes: "People who know do not have to say everything, leave people with three points of leeway." ”
If you say too much, you will lose, and if you don't speak out of proportion, you will easily incur the disaster of innocence.
In the Southern Song Dynasty Wu Zeng's "Records of being able to change the Fast", such a story is recorded.
In the second year of Xiangfu, 25-year-old Liu Yong took the rebbe exam, and he was full of confidence and felt that he would be able to take the first place.
Unexpectedly, his article was regarded by the emperor as "false and untrue" and was tragically listed.
Originally, this was not a big deal, accept this result, prepare with peace of mind, and strive for the next exam.
However, Liu Yong was not convinced, and he said to everyone, "I can't look at the false name of fame and fortune at all."
He also wrote a poem "Crane Chaotian", which contains the sentence "Endure the floating name, change the shallow and low singing", expressing his disdain for the name of the gong.
Liu Yong's words and words quickly spread out, and even the emperor heard them.
A few years later, he took the scientific expedition again.
When he was released, he had already been admitted, but the emperor remembered what Liu Yong had said before, and he couldn't help but be angry, saying: "And go shallow and sing low, why should you float your name!" ”
So with a big stroke of the pen, I crossed out his name.
In fact, Liu Yong was incomparably talented and could have made a big show of his grand plans in the official arena, but because of a momentary indignation, he broke his own path of advancement.
As the saying goes: "A word can bring blessings, and a word can bring misfortune." ”
In life, we will also have times when we can't control our mouths, spit randomly in life, and make jokes with people.
The result is often inadvertently, causing dissatisfaction to others, attracting the envy of others, and ultimately bringing disaster to themselves.
As Zhu Ziqing said in "Silence": "Your words should be like the stars in the night, not like the firecrackers of the Chinese New Year's Eve, who is rare in the firecrackers that last all night?" ”
Speaking is an instinct, and knowing how to speak is a skill.
Only by holding back our tongue-in-cheek can we be at ease in life.
Life in the world, hide their desire to express, talk less, do more, and move forward silently in a low-key and calm manner.
02
Calm down in case of trouble
There is a hot question on Zhihu: "What ability is important, but most people do not?" ”
One of the high praises replied: "The ability to quickly restore calm in the event of trouble." ”
Life is always full of changes, the plan is always unable to catch up with the changes, and when things are stable, you can see the tricks and tricks, and you can be at ease.
I've seen such a story.
During the reign of Emperor Wenzong of Tang, Pei Du was appointed Zhongshu Ling (中書令) and held the position of The Great Seal of The State of Xiang.
One night, he was watching a opera performance with the guests.
Suddenly, a subordinate subordinate official pushed the door in, looked panicked, and said to him in a panic, "No, something big has happened, my lord, the official seal is gone!" ”
Officials lose their seals, just as soldiers lose their guns, and the nature is very serious.
After Pei Du listened, he took a sip of tea from his cup and said lightly: "I know, you go back first, don't be silent about this matter." ”
Turning his head, Pei Du continued to beckon the guests to watch the play, as if nothing had happened.
Although the guests were secretly anxious for him, it was not easy to say anything.
In the middle of the night, the subordinate officer pushed the door again and excitedly said to Pei Du, "Your Honor, the official seal has suddenly returned!" ”
Seeing that Pei Du still looked indifferent, he nodded his head and said, "I know", and continued to watch the drama with the guests until they dispersed.
Later, someone asked him: "The loss of the official seal, the situation is very urgent, the subordinates reported to you, why don't you rush to find it, and don't let people make a sound?" ”
Peidu smiled and said:
This is a subordinate petty officer secretly taking out the official seal to write the deed, and when it is used up, it will be put back in its original place.
If the news leaks out, or the chase is too urgent, and the dog jumps under the wall, they may destroy the official seal, so that they can never find it back.
After listening, people admired PeiDu's composure and calmness, and his subordinates were also in deep awe of him.
In life, we will always encounter many big and small things.
Many times, the matter itself is not serious, and your panic will expand the situation.
The more anxious you are to sort it out, the more you will be in a hurry and make things unmanageable.
In the "New Edition of Zhaode", it is said: "The water quiet pole is clear, and the heart is quiet, and the wisdom is born." ”
When you are not flustered, you can stabilize yourself and face everything calmly.
You will find that most of the problems encountered in life have their own workarounds.
03
Keep your heart in the world
Mencius said: "People do not do something, and then they can do something." ”
If a person wants to make a difference, he must first know what can be done and what cannot be done.
For people to deal with the world, only by keeping the principle, can we keep the boundaries of life.
The Biography of Zeng Guofan records two such events.
The first thing was that when Zeng Guo was the governor of Liangjiang, there was a county order that sent him a picture of Wang Xizhi's true deeds.
At that time, many people knew that Zeng Guofan loved to collect calligraphy and paintings in his lifetime.
And Wang Xizhi's ink treasure is simply a priceless treasure for those who love calligraphy.
Zeng Guofan got this character, looked at it, and said, "There are special things in the world, and I don't dare to take them in vain." ”
So the messenger called the county order back and returned the calligraphy.
The second thing, in the fourth year of Tongzhi, because of zeng guofan's recommendation, the diplomat Rong Hong was sent to the United States to purchase machinery.
After returning, in order to thank him for the kindness of zhiyu, Rong Hong took the gift to visit zengfu.
Coincidentally, Zeng Guofan went out for an incident, but deliberately left a message: "If the value of the gift brought by Rong Hong does not exceed 20 taels, it will be left behind, and if it exceeds it, it will be returned and not allowed to receive it." ”
"Three years of Qing prefect, 100,000 snowflakes of silver" is a true portrayal of the Officials of the Qing Dynasty at that time.
However, Zeng Guofan had been an official for decades, his power was tilted to the opposition, and his family did not have much property, and his son Zeng Jihong treated his family and even needed to borrow money.
Zeng Guofan had a reverential heart all his life, a sober mind, and a disciplined behavior, which made him a "half saint".
Man is human because of the word principle.
The attitude of adhering to principles determines the height of a person's life.
As it is said in the Zhuzi Language Class:
"If a man's heart is right, everything is right, and if the heart is not right, nothing is right."
The heart is not disturbed, all things are at peace, and The Blessings follow.
Life is in the world, doing things in a down-to-earth manner, and being a frank and honest person.
Keep the inner principles, maintain good character, and finally be able to inherit the moral load and achieve a career.
There is a line in "A Generation of Grandmasters":
To make soup, we must pay attention to the heat, the heat is not enough, the mouth is difficult to adjust, the fire is over, and things are scorched.
Mastering the heat is the method of cooking, and it is also the way to deal with the world.
Speaking and knowing the measure, doing things without panicking, and having principles in dealing with the world can make people comfortable and make themselves comfortable.
Point in the view, out of the words, guard against arrogance and impetuosity, abide by the original intention, firmly take every step of life.