Narrator: Ajay
Rebellious teenager
30 years old this year, his hometown is in the mountains of rural Hunan, because he was naughty and mischievous from childhood, did not love to study, had poor grades, and dropped out of junior high school without graduating.
After dropping out of school, my father was afraid that I had no culture, and the trust relationship sent me to a car repair shop in the town to learn to repair cars.
From the beginning as a car washer, the whole boyhood was spent there, working there for four years, 14 years old to 18 years old.
At that time, because there was no ID card, I had not yet reached the age of applying for an ID card, and I did not dare to go to a distant place to work, where I said that I was learning to repair cars, but I actually studied for four years, and I only learned some fur, and I was tired of being in that car repair shop.
After getting the ID card, I thought of going outside to break in, and went to Shenzhen with my compatriots, at that time, because I had no academic qualifications and could not find a better job, I had to return to my old business and go to a repair shop to apply for a car repair master.
But because my skills were not good, I did not apply, and in the end, I could not do it, or continue to do apprenticeships, but slightly higher than the average apprenticeship salary.
At that time, I also understood things, and felt that I should not go on like this, to learn the technology of car repair at home, and in the metropolis of Shenzhen, unlike our countryside, the cars that are generally repaired are trucks or cheap cars, Shenzhen to repair, often encounter Mercedes-Benz BMW luxury cars, relatively speaking, the technical content is a little higher.
After two years of hard work, he was finally no longer a car repair apprentice, but a master, who could get six or seven thousand a month at that time.
My first love girlfriend
For me, who was 20 years old at that time, the salary of six or seven thousand was indeed a lot, the salary was high, the money was also generous, I went to the bar to drink and sing, and I met my first love girlfriend.
First love girlfriend Xiaowei is a bar waiter, every time we go there to drink, we will look for her to buy wine, and we are more familiar with each other.
I am not bad at your length, with a height of one meter and seventy-five, and at that time I loved stinky beauty, and I would dress up every time I went out.
Xiao Wei was the kind of girl who was more vain, thinking that I had money at that time, and I was willing to spend money with her, and soon we were together.
At that time, Xiaohui was also very good to me, every time I worked overtime, she would send me a supper, and others envied me for finding such a beautiful and good girlfriend.
But the good times were not long, once sick and hospitalized, to do an operation, and the money I usually earn was spent by me in a big way, but I couldn't come up with so much money for surgery, I knew she saved a sum of money, hoping that she could help me get through it.
But what I didn't expect was that at that time, I borrowed from her, Xiaowei directly blocked me, and also moved out of the house I rented, not only that, but also moved some of the valuable things I bought in our house, including refrigerators, air conditioners, and washing machines.
Later, there was no way to advance two months' salary to the boss, and the operation was done in the hospital, but Xiaowei did not come to see me once, and when I returned to the rental house, I took out the key, but found a mess, the rental house was like a thief, the only thing left for me was a bed and a broken wardrobe, and pots and pans.
This was my first love, how happy I felt at the beginning, how embarrassed I felt when I saw everything. This is my first love, people say that first love is the most memorable, and my first love is so ridiculous.
My true love
My second relationship was when I was 24 years old, the garage came to a front desk, the person looked very beautiful, beautiful air bangs, shoulder-length short hair, more than one meter and six height, looking like the little sister next door.
The first time I saw her, I was deeply attracted to her appearance, and I said that once I was bitten by a snake, I was afraid of the well rope for ten years, because of the matter of my first love girlfriend, I did not dare to touch my feelings for more than two years.
Until I met the new front desk Lin Xiaowan, because of her outstanding appearance, when she first came to the repair shop, she was looked at by many male colleagues in the factory and pursued, and I was also one of them.
And my only advantage is that Lin Xiaowan is also hunan, although we are a little far away, but it is always a province, and it can be regarded as a hometown, I have the only advantage.
Maybe it's because of my hometown, he doesn't have much defense against me, every day he changes the law to be good to her, I know that she likes to eat hand grab cakes, it takes forty or fifty minutes to get up early to ride a bicycle back and forth, I am happy to help her buy hand grab cakes every day, and wait for her at the factory gate on time.
It wasn't until more than a month after eating the pancakes that she told me, "Tomorrow you don't have to buy hand-grabbed cakes, I've had enough!" "It's really delicious, and it's enough to eat every day."
Every day to her boo cold greeting warm, a flash of three months has passed, she has not expressed a position on me, until once, I saw that he has been sitting at the front desk, and at that time another front desk also took a leave, a customer came, but he did not get up to entertain the meaning, the boss looked at him inexplicably wrote, seeing that the boss was about to get angry, I quickly went forward to ask Xiaowan what was going on?
Xiao Wan whispered in my ear, "Her aunt came, and she didn't bring a sanitary napkin herself, and she grabbed the top of her pants." ”
Without saying a word, I took off my clothes and tied them to her waist, blocking the position of her ass behind her, and rushed to the commissary next to her to buy sanitary napkins for her.
That time was really embarrassing, because it was the first time to buy, and I didn't know what to buy, so I took a black bag and took at least a dozen bags.
When I came back, I also encountered a particularly embarrassing thing, my colleagues thought that I bought delicious food, had to grab me to see it, pulled the black tape was broken, the sanitary napkins inside were leaked out, and many colleagues saw it. I quickly took it to the front desk to Xiaowan.
Because that experience was laughed at by colleagues for a long time, two days later, others joked to me that I was a pervert, until later after my relationship with Xiaowan was clear, I knew that I bought it for Xiaowan, and I did not laugh at me.
Together for six years
The days we both had together were very sweet, we went to work together, we left work together, I occasionally worked overtime, and she would accompany me and prepare food for me.
I also cherish the fate of the two of us, and I don't spend a lot of money like before, planning for the future of both of us, hoping that I can become her safe haven.
Two years ago, we were getting married, and I had enough money to pay for a down payment in our city, but instead, my mother fell seriously ill and spent very little of my money.
In addition, there is a younger brother in the family who is in middle school, and it is the time to use the money that the matter of buying a house is shelved.
And our wedding was also shelved, for various reasons, Xiaowan did not go to my hometown, originally planned to get married, both parents made an appointment to meet, and then go to my house to see, because of her mother's illness, everything changed.
At that time, I believed that as long as the two of us worked hard, everything would be fine, the house and the car would have everything, but as the house price became higher and higher, the wage increase was far from catching up with the price increase of the house, resulting in me not making up enough money for the down payment.
We've been together for six years, and this year I'm 30 years old, and everyone says that I'm thirty and standing, and it's impossible not to get married because I don't have a house!
Take Xiaowan home to meet her parents
Just three months ago, I discussed with Xiaowan to take her back to meet my parents, and if the problem is not big, I will get married this year.
After buying some things and clothes for my parents, we got on the high-speed train home, and after three hours to the provincial capital, turned right and sat in a rocky car for more than three hours, and finally arrived home.
Looking at her parents waiting for us on the path next to the highway, this is the first time her parents have seen Xiaowan, and Xiaowan is also very nervous.
As soon as she got out of the car, her mother quickly stepped forward to take Xiaowan's bag and the things she was carrying and said, "Tired, huh?" Hurry home and rest! "As soon as I got home, my mother brought tea and poured water.
Knowing that Xiaowan was coming to the house, her mother kept the bacon that she had been reluctant to eat for most of the year until October, and also killed the big rooster in the family, and the fish in the fish pond were caught and placed in the water tank, just to entertain this unmasked future daughter-in-law.
This is also the highest standard for our family to entertain distinguished guests, Xiaowan also seems to be at a loss, although her parents are very warm to Xiaowan, I can see from Xiaowan's expression that she does not like my hometown.
I can also understand, after all, Xiaowan grew up in the county, and seeing my family in such a mountainous place, it is inevitable that she will be a little disappointed.
At that time, Xiaowan was on video with her parents, and I knew that the future father-in-law and mother-in-law wanted to see what kind of family their daughter was going to marry.
And that night my girlfriend talked to his parents on the phone for about half an hour behind my back, and when I saw my girlfriend come in through the door, my eyes were red.
What happened to the person I asked? The girlfriend said: "Nothing, the wind is too strong, and something is in the eyes." "Actually, I know, what did her parents say?"
Stayed at my house for one night, early the next morning, Xiaowan proposed to go back to her home, my parents tried their best to keep her, wanted her to stay for two more days, but the girlfriend was not willing, must go back, I proposed to send her back, did not expect Xiaowan to refuse.
After the girlfriend went back, she received her breakup message!
I couldn't get my girlfriend, so I dropped her off at the town bus station and told her to get home and give me a message back.
I'm worried about my girlfriend and have been using WeChat to chat with her, but no matter what I say? She didn't reply to me with a word, not even a word.
At nine o'clock in the evening, I finally received her response, but her response completely broke me down, and she replied: "Let's break up!" We don't fit in, I want something you can't give! ”
Receiving this news, I was not calm, I quickly called her, but she did not answer my phone, I called her like crazy, I remember like 20 times, Xiaowan did not answer a single one.
I messaged her again and asked her what she wanted, but I never got a response from her.
I wanted to go to her hometown to find her, but she told me not to go, even if I did, she wouldn't see me, and her parents would sweep me out of the house.
I originally thought that I could go to the marriage hall of six years of feelings, but I didn't expect to go home once and let her mention the breakup for me.
Two months later I learned of her that she was married
After that, I contacted Xiaowan again, she blocked my mobile phone, WeChat can not send messages, has been blocked, did not expect her to be so desperate.
After the holiday, back to the house we rented, opened the door but found that what belonged to her, everything that was left was taken away, and I learned from the landlord that Xiaowan's parents accompanied her back to the rental house the day before.
When I came to the repair shop, I thought that Xiaowan was still working here, looking for the whole repair shop, and did not see her figure, and then I learned from my colleagues that Xiaowan had resigned, and knowing this news, it was a thunderbolt on a sunny day, and even the last opportunity was not given to me.
She did this to completely distance herself from me, recalling the bits and pieces with her, tears flowed unconsciously from the corners of her eyes, and Xiaowan completely disappeared from my life.
Since then, I have been drinking all day except for work, trying to numb myself with alcohol, and as long as I am drunk, I will not think about her.
And the night is also a whole night and a whole night can not sleep, tears inadvertently flow from the corners of the eyes, people say that the boy has tears do not flick, but not to the sad place.
In two months, I lost weight from 140 pounds to more than 120 pounds, and when I knew her news again, I still came from my colleagues' circle of friends.
She blocked my circle of friends, colleagues are not, but also can see her friend dynamics, she sent a wedding photo, everyone feels incredible, just over two months, how to marry themselves out?
Later, I learned from a girlfriend who was good with her that after he returned, under the arrangement of his parents, I taught you a rich second-generation blind date who did business, and the other party also fell in love with her, and under the control of her parents, married into a rich family.
No wonder she replied to me that I couldn't give what she wanted, my mother wanted a luxury car and mansion deposit, and indeed I didn't have any of these.
Unexpectedly, six years of feelings have failed to these things, although these I think are worldly things, but I have not, it can also be said that I have lost to reality.
Although I have come to this situation with her, I still bless her, after all, she has accompanied me through six years of green years, in my mind, she has become a relative, and I am still very grateful to her.
I want to pack up the mood and start again, I don't want to buy any house now, I want to take the money I saved to make a small repair, make myself strong first, marriage is mutual achievement, I hope that I can become a safe haven for the other half, can bring a sense of security to her in the future.
Do you think it is to start a family first and then start a business, or to start a family before starting a family? Do you have to have a house, a car and a deposit to get married?
Conclusion: @ Third Sister Piaopiao I feel that the sense of security is to give to myself, not to others, like the hero in the text is adhering to the first career, and then start a family, I think it is not necessary.
The two people should not be in love for too long, talk about two years almost married, there is a saying called the seven-year itch, some are divorced after seven years of marriage, not to mention that you are just talking about friends, there is no marriage license.
If you had proposed to her earlier, she might have been your wife by now.
But then again, you and your girlfriend are doomed not to come together, after all, her parents can't look at your conditions, your girlfriend may be a person without opinion, is a mother treasure, as a parent, must hope that their daughter married a good family, your girlfriend's parents are not wrong to do so.
You are a good person, self-motivated, I hope you can find a girl who is good to you, as long as you keep your current mentality and work hard, you will be able to find the one you are destined for.
Do you think it's desperate for girls to propose to break up? What would you do if you were the parent of the girl in the article?