There used to be an advertisement that said", "If I don't mix well, I won't come back." This may be the voice of many dream seekers who have gone to other places, and they all feel that if they do not break in, life will be in vain.
A person who has been working outside for a long time and has experienced more experience is really easy to form a terrible habit, and this subtle habit will slowly change yourself and eventually let you embark on a road without a way back!
1. Missing
In August 2020, a 65-year-old father in Guangxi wrote a letter of help and sent it to the Public Security Bureau of Foshan City, Guangdong Province, in search of his only son, Meng Zhiyong.
After graduating from Wuzhou College in June 2011, Meng Zhiyong went to Foshan with his classmates to find a job. Until the Spring Festival in 2012, his family's phone calls to him were not answered, and Meng Zhiyong disappeared.
When the police received the letter, they still felt very strange, because usually they were basically missing elderly people, or there were more women and children who were abducted, and it was still relatively rare for young lads to disappear.
Although I was confused, the police felt that such a thing was still easier to handle. Because in addition to the letter, the father also sent a photo of his son and an ID number. Moreover, how can someone in society not use an ID card now?
Life is always inevitable to deal with transportation, hospitals, banks, as long as you deal with them, id cards are indispensable. Today's society is difficult to walk without an ID card, and many software also need ID card binding to be able to use.
However, a surprising situation occurred, and the police checked several systems and did not find relevant information about Meng Zhiyong. I even thought of an extreme possibility, whether it was possible to be cracked down by the public security organs and entered an information system like this, but I didn't find it.
It turns out that reality is more bizarre than the script, disappearing out of thin air without a trace. In the eyes of the police, things are still a bit strange, a big living person has lost track in various civil affairs networks.
After all sorts of speculation, the police decided to try another possibility. If Meng Zhiyong has worked in Foshan, there should be social security, even if the recent check can not be found, you can also check further.
2. Clues
In this way, under the unremitting efforts of the police, an important piece of information was found, and the system showed that nine years ago, there was a young man named Meng Zhiyong, who had used this ID number and registered for employment. However, after searching through all the systems, there is only one clue.
There was a person in a factory in Nanhai who had the same ID number and name as Meng Zhiyong's father. But this is already the record of nine years ago, is Meng Zhiyong still in this factory? The surprise was to contact the factory to verify that there was indeed a person named Meng Zhiyong.
Therefore, the police immediately rushed to the factory and successfully met Meng Zhiyong. The process of confirming his identity was smoother than expected, and Meng Zhiyong happily admitted that he was a young man who had been away from home for ten years and had been concerned by his father for ten years.
The police struggled to find someone, but Meng Zhiyong was reluctant to go home. Although some people doubt whether Meng Zhiyong has a heart knot and whether there is a contradiction with his family, the family unanimously denies it.
Family members said that Meng Zhiyong had always been a child with excellent character and excellent learning during his school years, and after graduating from college, he also took the initiative to ask to go out and break into the world. Although his family arranged a job for him, he still respected the child's choice and did not obstruct him.
What the family did not expect was that a year after coming to Foshan, Meng Zhiyong disappeared. No one answered the phone, and then even the Q number was blocked, and the family began to worry.
Since he has a family that fully supports him, and now he has a stable job, what kind of concern makes him take the initiative to cut off his social relations?
4. The truth
After a period of silence, Meng Zhiyong finally spoke. He said that these years of experience are not worth mentioning on the surface, but inside they are suffering from the impact of the terrifying waves, so that he loses his armor and completely loses the course of life.
When Meng Zhiyong was in high school, he was once an excellent student and the pride of the family. At that time, I liked the liberal arts the most, and the liberal arts at that time were all in the top three grades. But many people later said that learning science may be easier to find a job, so I learned science.
The more excellent students are, the more they will feel that they have many choices, but not every choice is suitable for themselves, and Meng Zhiyong is not good at science. The first college entrance examination was smashed, so he re-read for a year and reluctantly admitted two books, although he was not satisfied with the way.
After entering the university, he faced another test. In the majors he was not interested in, he learned subjects that he was not good at, and soon he could not keep up, even if he used the vacation time to make up lessons.
There is a saying that choice is greater than effort, ideas determine the way out, and ideas determine destiny. Choosing areas that you are not good at, even if you make more effort, you will feel weak.
Chicken soup text always encourages people to win the day, and those who have aspirations can achieve things, but in the specific direction of study, there is indeed such a dilemma, and people cannot be good at all things.
People who have lost their self-confidence are like porcelain dolls spliced together, and a gust of wind blows through them, which may crush them at any time. For Meng Zhiyong, he had other options, he could change majors or find things he was really interested in, but the teenager's will collapsed in the face of successive setbacks.
Later, Meng Zhiyong became addicted to online games, and often did not go to class, failed in multiple subjects, and faced the risk of not graduating. What's worse is that I missed the final exam later.
It wasn't until a few years later that Meng Zhiyong realized that his life had come to a fork in the road from that moment on, and he had wasted four years of college and had not yet received his diploma. When he got home, he finally began to panic, because his family had found a good job for him, and he waited for him to report with his graduation certificate.
However, Meng Zhiyong did not get a graduation certificate, and he carried a heavy burden on his thinking, and he also knew that his parents had great expectations of him. Meng Zhiyong felt sorry for his family, he chose not to tell his family the truth, in fact, he did not dare, he refused the job provided by his family, said that he wanted to go for a walk, and thus came to Foshan.
5. Apologize
After he changed his phone number, he "hid" in the factory. He thought that after waiting for a long time, maybe the family would not be so angry after knowing it, so he kept dragging on, but this delay was ten years.
Avoidance doesn't solve the problem, it only solves yourself. Although you can get temporary peace, it will continue to interfere with you and even form dependence.
People may encounter many life problems in their lives, and the ability to resist pressure and solve things often determines a person's courage to face difficulties. Because if you can't properly place yourself, once you fall into extremes, it is difficult to get out of the predicament.
During this decade, he reminded himself of his failures every day, also because without a diploma, his salary was always much lower than others. With this loss, Meng Zhiyong began a "secluded" life, he broke off contact with everyone, and every day he was two points and one line with the factory and dormitory.
Although the wages in the factory were not high and the overtime work was also very hard, Meng Zhiyong has been conscientious and hard-working, and he was promoted five years later. Meng Zhiyong has already passed his own efforts to correct the direction of life, so he does not have to deny himself, because it is not too late to start working hard at any time.
But why didn't he contact his family, did he not miss his family, it seemed that he was not. Meng Zhiyong said that he was brought up by his grandparents, and in the years he left home, he missed his grandparents the most, and Meng Zhiyong's relatives have not given up looking for him in the past ten years.
In the summer of 2015, Meng Zhiyong's grandfather was seriously ill and hospitalized, that is, at this time, Meng Zhiyong found that his ID card had been invalidated because it had expired, he could not buy a ticket, could not get a bank card, or even called, and then he kept dragging.
In this way, Meng Zhiyong could not go back if he wanted to go home, and the hospital gave Meng Zhiyong's grandfather a critical illness notice, and Meng Zhiyong did not know that the only thing his grandfather left before he died was to find him.
His ID card was gone, and his heart was full of entanglement and regret, so he had to stay in the factory every day, two points and one line, and live a life of painting the ground as a prison.
Since he knows that he is ashamed of his family, why not use other ways to make up for his mistakes and have the courage to assume the responsibility that he should take on to his family? Perhaps not everyone can withstand the pressure of facing reality, and escaping is a kind of self-protection for him.
6． Go home
Until August 3, 2020, the police came to the door, it was a sudden decade, like a big dream, when he learned the news of his grandfather's death, Meng Zhiyong really regretted it, he finally revealed the idea of returning home, but for him now, it is really difficult to walk without an ID card.
Just when the police felt that it was not difficult to apply for an ID card, but in the system, it was also a national network, and it could not find his household registration at all, and suddenly Meng Zhiyong became a black household, and not only the expiration of the ID card, but also the hukou was gone.
Before, it was because he did not get a university diploma and had no face to see Jiangdong's father and elder. However, when he finally had the idea of returning home, he found that he had become a black household, had no household registration, and his identity card had been cancelled.
It turned out that Meng Zhiyong had not graduated from college and had not gone to the school to go through the procedures for moving out of his household registration, and his household registration had been cancelled. Only by going to the school to go through the relocation procedures can he restore his household registration and then apply for a replacement identity card.
Because he could not buy a ticket without an ID card, the police could only accompany Meng Zhiyong to the school to handle the household registration migration, and then took him to the household affairs center and handled the file transfer procedures.
In this way, the police drove more than 500 kilometers, and along the way, they went to the local household registration department in Meng Zhiyong's hometown to help him transfer this household registration information, and then went through the household entry procedures. When Meng Zhiyong said he wanted to go home, the police decided to open the last kilometer distance for him and send him home to reunite with his relatives.
I have to say that the masses have difficulties, the people's police are very warm-hearted, wholeheartedly serve the people, they deserve the admiration of the broad masses of our people.
In the face of Meng Zhiyong's reckless youth, squandering his youth, and disappearing for another ten years, his family was worried. His father said he wouldn't blame him and would just come back.
Maybe this is the precious point of family affection, your solid backing, and your courage to move forward. The family will also respect Meng Zhiyong's wishes and agree to let him go back to Work in Foshan, they only hope that the child will remember that the meaning of home is that it has always been there, and you can always come back.
Maybe everyone who chooses to wander away and don't want to go home has their own story in their hearts, do you also have a poignant story of not wanting to go home?
The source network of the illustrations
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