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The balance of the winter vacation is insufficient, and many parents are beginning to prepare for their children to close their hearts and cope with the start of school. Winter vacation homework was not finished, parents opened a look, language homework did not write a word, blood pressure rise is about to collapse. Parents have said that after the New Year, their children have no intention of learning, even if the winter vacation homework is written, there are still headaches. Children want to play mobile phone games every day, sleep lazily and do not get up, reading, thinking, interest practice, physical exercise are not carried out. Other children may have finished learning the texts of the next semester, and our children have forgotten all the knowledge points of the last semester. Parents are too busy to pay attention to the rest of their children's winter vacation, and the winter vacation schedule has fallen off the wall. In short, parents are on the verge of collapse and look forward to starting school soon.
Why is it so difficult for parents to control their emotions? This is because as long as it involves children's learning problems, parents solve difficulties. So is it not to share more experience in solving learning problems, parents can control their emotions and no longer collapse, be a gentle parent in the eyes of others, a reasonable person? I don't think this is the core problem, the place where parents collapse is that the children do not complete the learning goals according to their own ideas and requirements. This time there was no winter vacation homework written, and parents collapsed. Maybe when the school starts, forget to bring textbooks and school bags, parents will still collapse the moment they receive a call from the teacher.
Parents have to face the problem of emotional control, is the need to improve personal cultivation, find the outlet of emotional release, rationally look at imperfect children, just like Gu Ailing's mother, she never asked Gu Ailing to be a perfect child, you can not fold the quilt, do not have to go to the famous university, do yourself, keep learning. Is this because Gu Ailing's family has a high starting point? No, it's just that we parents think differently about their children's learning problems. We might as well think of it this way, if Gu Ailing's mother found out that she did not write the so-called winter vacation homework, what would she do? It will definitely not collapse, and it will definitely help the child finish writing quickly, so that he can take Gu Ailing to practice skiing.
1, the way to control emotions is to switch angles
Parents find that their children's winter vacation homework is not written, why does it collapse? It must be that the child did not follow the rules of learning to complete the learning goals, disobeyed, delayed the progress of learning, and also affected their rest time. Because after parents leave work, they will definitely spend a lot of time and energy to let their children finish their homework quickly. You may already know why your child is not writing homework, playing new year's games, or secretly playing games while they are at work. Is this something that parents can solve with emotional breakdowns? Obviously, it is impossible, once the parent's emotions cannot be controlled, affecting the parent-child relationship, it may be more difficult for the child to establish a correct learning awareness in learning habits and attitudes. Homework is not written, the more accumulated, the school starts immediately, and you can only stay up late to light the lamp to make up. Parents suffer, children will not be happy.
The first time parents find learning problems, the way to control emotions is to switch angles. With his blood pressure rising and his headache dazzled, he wanted to find a stick to beat up his child. This perception is the parent's physiological emotional perception, that is, before the parent's emotional collapse, it is fully aware that they cannot control it, and may yell at the child to reprimand the child. So the grasp of this point is to quickly switch angles, think more, why the child did not write homework? Usually he has less supervision of his children, the child is bored at home, he can only play games and watch TV to solve his boredom, which is the easiest way.
Writing homework is the most difficult way to solve boredom, because children will encounter problems in homework practice, and there will be pressure, and parents who can't write well will criticize me when they come back. Thinking of this, the parent's emotional control is half successful, because empathy with the child is generated, and you understand the child from the child's point of view. Parents know what to do next, how to help their children solve the current problem, anger is useless, collapse can only extend the process of solving the winter vacation homework is not written. Therefore, it is better to retract the collapse, quickly pull the child over, reason and lay out the facts, plan the time to make up the writing, and work with the child to finish the homework and cope with the opening of the school.
2. Improve parent-child relationship and reduce the number of crashes
In fact, most parents, when faced with their children's homework problems, are particularly prone to collapse because the parent-child relationship is not good. Parents know that I have a breakdown, at least the child will be afraid of me. I yelled and reprimanded the child, and he could be honest for a few days. This is the limit of my ability to solve the problem, for parents, can not control the emotions, affect the parent-child relationship, is the enforceable scope of principles. Anyway, the child can realize from my broken emotions how dissatisfied the parents are. Parents who do this, every collapse will affect the parent-child relationship, the accumulation is more, children often see the collapsed parents, they will also choose to shout in the way of emotional control, in order to find the outlet of emotions.
It is not easy to be a gentle parent, and what you can do may not be to help your child write homework, but to reduce the number of collapses, improve the parent-child relationship, and find a way to solve the problem after controlling your emotions. In fact, the method of helping children write homework is not applicable to all children who do not write winter vacation homework. It's just that this parent chooses to control his emotions by helping his child write homework. Doing this is not helpful for students with bad learning habits, they will also have a next time, anyway, I do not write homework, parents' feedback is also very calm, and finally helped me write it. Therefore, the real principle is that after parents calm their emotions, they reason with their children, improve the parent-child relationship, and the children know that it is not easy for parents, so that they can take the initiative to face their mistakes and complete their learning tasks.
3. Respect children and communicate more
Most parent-child relationships are not good, and parents who like to collapse have never respected their children. Because in the eyes of the parents, I am authoritative, the child's feelings are not important, they do not recognize their mistakes, and they are not qualified to communicate with the parents. Only after the collapse of the parents, obediently go to write homework, in order to make up for the cracks between the parent-child relationship. However, elementary school students will not understand, and in their eyes, parents seem to be never satisfied.
This time because I did not write homework collapsed, anyway, the next time, parents will lose their temper, I accept such parents, in the parent-child relationship, the child is powerless, there is no right to choose. Therefore, I hope that parents will communicate with their children more, control their emotions, give their children the space and channels to express, and do not write winter vacation homework compared to a healthy and positive parent-child relationship, excellent parents are standing behind the child's gentleness, willing to lift the child's protective wall. Welcome to leave a comment.