Recently, the hot screen dominated by the Winter Olympic Ski Women's Big Jump Champion Gu Ailing, while touching the full positive energy brought by this 18-year-old girl, I can't help but think: Why is she so good? Why is it a "child of someone else"?
It turned out that behind her excellence, there was an excellent parent- her mother Gu Yan, an international student who graduated from Peking University and studied at Stanford University in the United States. Speaking of this, I can't help but recall the story of Chen Meiling, the doctoral mother who sent her three sons to Stanford, that is, the singer who sang "Wilderness Pastoral", and in her book, she talked about four wonderful ways to cultivate excellent children.
1. Don't make decisions for your child
2. Encourage children without material rewards
3. Do not report for extracurricular cram schools, read thousands of books, travel thousands of miles, and focus on walking and observing the world.
4. Let children learn self-affirmation and acceptance
I think that behind the excellent children, there is a mother who is strong in heart, accepts and embraces and affirms the child, gives the child more autonomy and choice, Gu Yan is also such a mother, with affirmation and love to guide the child to make their own choices, and gradually cultivate the child's self-confidence; communicate with the child in the way of talking with friends, equal and comfortable, so that the child gradually produces the consciousness that I am the protagonist; with no pressure to the child, in the far behind the leading mode to participate in the child's life, and gradually exercise the child's perseverance quality, Gu Ailing, who grew up in this way, must be a strong woman with love in her heart, light on her face, and no fear.
I was moved to tears when I saw her in an interview, responding to the criticism, and she said, 'I don't think I want to make everyone happy.'" I'm just an 18 year old girl and I just want to be able to enjoy my life. In fact, I don't really care if people are satisfied. Because I'm trying to be the best version of myself, I'm also enjoying the whole process. I want to use my voice to bring about as much positive change as possible in the areas that concern me; I have always been outspoken thanks to the United States and China, who made me who I am now, and they are very supportive of me and will continue to support me, because they understand that my mission is to use sport as a force of solidarity, to make it a form of promoting ties between countries, not as a force of division, so that everyone can benefit', how strong and determined it is, A kind of firmness in one's own inner convictions, a firm determination of national honor, and a firm determination of world peace.
Every girl has a dream in her heart, and every girl longs to be a girl with excellent wisdom like Gu Ailing. And what I want to say is that everyone has their own flowering period and opportunity in growth, as long as they live out the way they want, it is wonderful and unique. Do you, agree?
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