Children are growing up day by day, and parents are busy day and night. Although I live in the same space and eat together every day, I always feel that I am drifting away from my children. You feel good for the child, the child feels that it is a shackle; You think your child must like this, but your child thinks you are deliberately trying to please; I thought that being together every day was companionship, but I didn't realize that the two sides didn't communicate at all.
What is companionship, just being there? Of course not, only high-quality companionship is a weapon to repair the parent-child relationship, to truly enter the child's inner world, and to cross the gap of contradictions.
What is high-quality companionship?
When you are with your child, put down your phone. Many parents teach their children not to look at mobile phones, but they can't control themselves, no matter when they are mobile phones, they have not set a good example, and how to educate their children. Maybe the child will briefly succumb to the prestige of the parents, but the heart will not really identify with you, do not be proud because the child is now obedient for a while, not to the tipping point, at that time, you want to repair it is too late. So while the child still needs you, you still have prestige, put down the mobile phone, and accompany the child more.
When accompanying your child, leave enough private space for your child, listen more and nag less. Accompanying your child is not to ask you to take the opportunity to spy on your child's privacy, nor to ask you to talk to your child like a prisoner. If you want to have a harmonious parent-child relationship, you must learn to leave space for your children, ask less questions, and keep silent what you should not ask, which is a wise parent. When you really walk into the child's heart, you don't need to nag and ask questions every day, the child will take the initiative to share with you what is happening around him. If you do a good job of the power of example, the child feels your strength, and will consult your opinion when things happen, and will not hide it from you. Of course, the premise is that you have to enter the child's inner world. Of course, the repair of parent-child relationships cannot be rushed for a while, and a long-term process is needed, all of which are harmonious family relations, which is conducive to cultivating children's optimistic character. Don't think about rushing to change the child, don't impose your own point of view on the child, create a good family relationship, and subtly guide the child, this is the fundamental.
When accompanying children, praise and encouragement should be more. Parents should be good at using fragmented time, take their children out for more walks, and exercise their children's hands-on ability and ability to deal with things. Society is the best university, so that children have more contact with the outside world and understand knowledge outside of books, which can not only increase children's insights, but also increase the time spent with children. In this process, do not be impatient, to encourage and praise children, give children the opportunity to make mistakes, but also encourage children to admit mistakes, correct mistakes, slowly you will find that children's emotional intelligence and ability to resist pressure will be improved.
Don't envy other people's parent-child relationship anymore, and don't complain about how good other people's children are, instead of tangling in these things, it is better to accompany your children more!