Today, a primary school teacher sent a voice, saying that oranges that are only in the second grade can be described as "famous" in school, but the teacher has a headache because of the "famous" oranges, why? Because the 9-year-old orange often has a physical conflict with his classmates at school, the teacher let orange's parents go several times, but orange and orange are more and more excessive, do not listen to lectures in class, deliberately find classmates after class, parents say that they also said, beat and beat, but to no avail!
In fact, many children have such a phenomenon, children fight, most of them are suffering from anger, pain or abuse, psychological imbalance, so as to mobilize the psychological defense mechanism, need to vent their own unhappiness! This phenomenon can occur in boys and girls, but boys will often use violent attacks, while girls will use abusive and slanderous language attacks!
Why do children develop psychological defense mechanisms? Children who appear psychological defense mechanism, most of them are in the family is not very harmonious, parental quarrels, or impatient parents on the naughty child to insult, and even violent means of punishment, which will make the child have a sense of resistance, because can not resist, so this emotion will start the psychological defense mechanism, when the child encounters some can resist or some weak groups, the defense mechanism will be transformed into an aggressive mentality to express their inner dissatisfaction, so this bad emotion "transfer" Go to others and find others to get angry!
Famous child psychologists pointed out that children who always bully other children actually feel that they are very weak in their hearts. Yes, only children who feel that they are very weak will prove their strength by bullying others.
So what are the factors that make a child position himself as a weak person?
1. Domestic violence by parents, children can not resist
Some children are naughty by nature, many parents are fighting without a word, many times, children do not know how they are wrong, they are beaten by their parents!
2. Excessive criticism by parents, feeling that criticizing children can be corrected
There are always some parents who think that their criticism can make their children strong, but the truth is the opposite, the child not only does not become strong, but will feel that he is not accepted by his parents. In this complex world, only you can help yourself, which will make children feel very small.
3. Coddling
Some parents' excessive doting will also cast this kind of troublesome "little bully", when the child provokes the parents to be angry, the parents' performance and usual and there is too much contrast, resulting in too much psychological gap in the child!
In fact, the child's aggressive behavior and parents have an unshirkable responsibility, want to make the child obedient and sensible, parents should first pay attention to is to teach by example, lead by example, stop those aggressive words and deeds, and create a harmonious family atmosphere! Secondly, try to let the child watch some violent TV shots, do not buy children toys with violent tendencies, see the children have violent tendencies, and carry out psychological guidance in time, such as teaching children to think differently and so on!