Today's reading notes: Seeing a sentence, it is very intriguing to think: to help others is to help yourself. Isn't that a contradiction? The spear seller boasts that his spear is indestructible. At the same time, the spear seller also sold shields, and at this time, he changed his tone and praised his shield, the strongest shield in the world, and there was nothing to attack. A do-gooder asks: What will happen if you hit your shield with your spear? The spear seller was stunned and speechless. It's intriguing. When the water is full, it overflows, and the words will be lost, but nothing more. To help others is to help oneself, and the words are a bit too much!
Then I saw a story: a man walking at night, seeing a lamp in front of him and then slowly moving, illuminating a darkness. Near, it was a man with no eyes and no light, picking up the lamp and moving forward. You can't see the road, why do you have to light the lights? Isn't it blind people lighting lamps, in vain? The man smiled slightly and replied: "That makes sense." But then he said: Without the lights, can you see me? The man continued to grope forward. That's right! You just have to shine, illuminate yourself, illuminate the road around you, and others can benefit. At the same time, you illuminate yourself, others will know you, will not be foolish to bump into you, and minimize your own risk. To help others is to help oneself! That's how it came to be. Think of the man who asked the spear seller. What does it have to do with you that people sell things? You say, the man is gone, where will the other people who buy spears and shields go to sell?
There is a Saying in China that once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of well rope. To say the other way around, once bitten by a snake, I have been looking for a well rope for ten years. Gestalt psychology says that a person who experienced trauma in a nurturer as a child, and as an adult, it is particularly easy for him to find similar people to activate the trauma and try to repair it, which is an unfinished event. This unfinished event requires some similarity before it can be activated. So the reason why we always have repetitive experiences emotionally is because we want to repair the relationship with the snake, so we will definitely go to find a snake or a rope that resembles a snake. It is said that life is like a play, drama is like life, then we may find that life is only once, but there are many ways to act, and how to act, it is actually possible to choose. We are free.
You have a movie of this world in your head. The director of this movie is you, the producer is you, and the protagonist is you. Everyone else is a supporting character, and it's your own movie. No matter what people around you do to you, what happens to you, don't easily assume that it has something to do with you. Everyone's opinions are born out of their own system of creeds. So, your opinion of me has only to do with yourself; it has nothing to do with me. Don't assume that everything has anything to do with you. Don't assume that everything has anything to do with you, let it become your firm habit, and you will no longer be disturbed by negative whispers; you will no longer be angry, suspicious and jealous; you will no longer be sad and sad. Others can no longer push you into the abyss.
One of the most important aspects of personal growth is to broaden your horizons and make friends with people who are passionate about self-development and helping others develop. If you stay where you are, you will never rise to a higher level. Everyone needs others to help them stay motivated. In life, sometimes the flame inside us will be extinguished, but when we encounter the encouragement of others, it will burn again. We are grateful to those who have rekindled the fire of our inner spirit.
Psychological research has found that only 5% of the inner activities that we can usually perceive, while the remaining 95% are hidden in the subconscious, which dominates a person's personality and psychological processes, ostensibly waking decisions, but is actually driven by the subconscious, so the deeper the connection we establish with the consciousness, the higher the sense of control over life.
Human potential is deliberately exercised, just as muscles can be exercised. Geniuses are the product of deliberate training, and no matter what role genetic inheritance plays in the achievements of geniuses, they have the same brain and body adaptability as we do, but they use those abilities more than we do, and after deliberate practice, they can develop abilities that were completely absent in the past. Therefore, we say that outstanding people in various fields rely on a lot of deliberate exercise, and then have the so-called genius-like ability, from novice to master, from mediocrity to excellence are the result of strong practice, making full use of the adaptability of the human body and brain to gradually shape and improve people's skills, rather than the so-called experience and talent.
Any effort to drastically change a child will lay a terrible foreshadowing. Everyone has their own reasons for being what they are, and the best support we can give is not to judge, not to disturb. There is a beam of light in the heart, and a sea in the eyes. The true goodness of the world is silent. Kindness can scold you with a split head and cover your face, but silently help you clean up the mess. Kindness is not to fulfill one's own wishes, nor is it to cater to the desires of others. The most dignified way to express goodwill is not to condescend to sympathize with the alms, but to quietly preserve his dignity. Thank you for all the quiet kindness in this world. In "East Evil and West Poison", it is said: "Anyone can become vicious, as long as he has tried what is jealousy." "Jealousy is malice rooted in human nature and does not lessen because of age, gender, or identity. Psychologist Richard Smith argues in The Evolutionary Psychology of Jealousy that throughout the biological evolution of human beings, jealousy has in a sense driven people to seek the resources they need to survive and reproduce. Although jealousy has positive significance, its negative significance should not be underestimated, and there are too many examples of interpersonal relationships turning against each other because of jealousy in real society.
There is a natural competitive relationship between people and people, but the reason why we humans are human beings is that we can analyze the current situation from a higher perspective, so as to make the choices that are most conducive to the common progress of mankind. A lose-lose situation can never promote the progress of human civilization, and only cooperation can achieve a win-win situation.
