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"White Night" said: "The most difficult thing in the world to look at is the sun, and the other is the human heart." ”
The human heart is the most complex and cool thing in the world, and making friends requires exchanging sincerity for sincerity in order to win true friendship. However, many times, we are faced with emotional choices and do not know how to choose.
The same is true in marriage, husband and wife need to treat each other with sincerity, so that the marriage will last forever. However, you never know what exactly is in the heart of the man who ostensibly says he loves you.
In fact, real feelings can withstand the long-term tempering of time and the test of running-in with the years. Whether a man really loves you or not is often reflected in the details of life.
For example, the following aspects:
01. Men who take the initiative to serve soft after quarrels must really love you
Life is not perfect, in marriage, husband and wife will have conflicts because of household chores, and quarrels are inevitable. However, a man who truly loves you will coax his wife to make her happy immediately after the argument. Men who don't love you will play cold violence with you after a fight, play missing...
So, whether a man is truly in love with a woman, a quarrel will reveal the answer.
The marriage of the famous actor Liu Qingyun and Guo Aiming is like this.
Actor Liu Qingyun is majestic and atmospheric on the screen, but in real life, Liu Qingyun is a warm man in the family. He would accompany Guo Aiming to do housework, cook, walk...
There are inevitably contradictions in life, but after every quarrel, Liu Qingyun will first apologize to Guo Aiming. And Guo Geming also understands her husband's hard heart and will not be angry all the time. As long as Liu Qingyun apologized, she would be happy immediately. The relationship between the two people is very good.
A reporter once asked Liu Qingyun: "If you go back to 25 years old, what do you most want to do?" Liu Qingyun replied, "I want to see Guo Aiming." ”
At an award ceremony, Liu Qingyun once delivered an acceptance speech, which was full of heartfelt thanks to his wife, he said: "To thank my wife, whenever I fly a spaceship to an unknown corner of the universe, you always have a way to let me return to the earth safely." ”
When you are lost in life, the other half appears in time to illuminate the way forward for you like a lighthouse. This is the most beautiful love.
In fact, between husband and wife, all quarrels are derived from the word "care", if he does not care about you, he can't quarrel if he wants to quarrel.
Just like Xu Bochang in "No East Asks West", he and Liu Shufen have no feelings, and the two people have lived together for three years, sleeping in separate beds without saying a word. In the end, Xu Bochang's Cold War forced Liu Shufen to commit suicide by jumping into a well.
Sometimes, women quarrel not to care about winning or losing, but to verify again and again whether men are truly in love with her. And the man's attitude towards the woman after the quarrel clearly highlights whether the man really loves this woman.
Men who truly love women will not quarrel, and even after quarrels, they are full of care.
02. Not abandoning you when life is proud is true love
If at this time, the woman is still around you, it means that she loves you enough. And after experiencing the wind and frost and snow and rain together, the man's career has become successful, and at this time, the man will also take tea and pour water on the woman's side, which is enough love for the woman by men.
However, once some men have a successful career, they will get carried away and slowly treat their wives who are struggling with them. Such a man doesn't really love you.
In the TV series "Snail House", Song Siming and Mrs. Song once had a very beautiful marriage, when Song Siming was still a poor and white young man, and he and Mrs. Song lived from scratch. Mrs. Song has always believed that after the two people's lives are good, she will be very blessed.
However, the good times did not last long, and with the help of Mrs. Song, Song Siming made steady progress and achieved success. However, when he was rich, he abandoned Mrs. Song and fell in love with seaweed.
He hoped to get seaweed, and after this matter was known to seaweed mother, seaweed's mother was not optimistic about Song Siming. She commented on Song Siming: "It is not so much that he likes seaweed, but that he is enjoying the glory that rights bring him." ”
In the end, Song Siming left Mrs. Song to pursue his own happiness.
There is a saying that "when a man has money, he becomes bad." "That's right.
Man is a creature driven by desire, and there are too many men in life who cannot resist the temptations outside because of their popularity. It is said that "the spring wind is proud of the horseshoe disease, once you see all the Chang'an flowers." "Not at all.
If a woman in life meets such a man, she must make a decisive choice. His life can afford to pay, but our youth is not waiting for anyone. A woman's years are quiet for a few years, and to miss is to miss a lifetime.
If men really love you, it is not too much to throw blood, if men do not love you, no matter how much love you pay, it is in vain. Therefore, when you meet a man who treats you slowly when he is proud, he should still carefully consider it.
03. Men who only care about themselves in life must not love you
Romain Rolland said: "In marriage, everyone has to pay a price, but also to take back something, this is the law of supply and demand. ”
There is no perfect marriage in the world, there is no perfect partner, and feelings rely on mutual tolerance and courtesy exchanges between each other.
But there is a kind of man in life who only cares about himself, even in front of his wife who sleeps in the same bed, he is selfish.
In the TV series "Mobile Phone", Liu Baigang is very polite and acts opportunistically. I heard that the famous host Yan Shouyi was a relative of Niu Caiyun, so he took the initiative to communicate with Niu Caiyun.
A treacherous, cunning, and profit-oriented man cannot hide his selfishness at any time. At the beginning of the two people's acquaintance, it can be clearly seen from the fact that Niu Caiyun and Liu Baigang invited each other to eat sugar gourds.
Niu Caiyun bought him a one-dollar sugar gourd, and Liu Baigang bought a one-dollar pudding for Niu Caiyun; Niu Caiyun bought Liu Baigang a sugar gourd of one yuan and five yuan, and Liu Baigang bought Niu Caiyun a green tongue of one yuan and five.
Back and forth, it was always Niu Caiyun who began to "pay tribute" first, while Liu Bai began to "exchange" at the same price.
The two people later fell in love, and Niu Caiyun's mother firmly disagreed after learning about it. Mother Niu said that a man like Liu Baigang is even more terrifying than a man who slammed the door.
Open-minded men not only have a sincere attitude toward people, but also have excellent character cultivation; while narrow-minded men who only care about their own interests, even if they have higher academic qualifications and more wealth, it is difficult to maintain the feelings of two people.
Living with such a person, even if all the marriage conditions are beautiful, it is still difficult to escape a hypocritical mentality. In a person's life, no glory or wealth is as warm and pleasant as a sincere and heartfelt heart.
Men can be poor, they can be of low status, they can have no rights, but they must be warm to their wives. In this way, two people will be able to live a solid life.
epilogue:
Each of us in our lives is looking forward to the appearance of people who truly love ourselves, and look forward to finding a sincere partner in life.
However, the years are hurried and life is long. Countless people have passed by us, which one is the heartfelt partner who guards their lives. It takes time to verify, years to test.
Only in the tempering and test of time, the man who wins in the end is worthy of our lifelong support.
May our sincerity not be betrayed, meet the other half of our lives, and live this life together.
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