When they have not yet entered the marriage, everyone has great illusions and expectations for it, but when they are really in it, they can't help but regret it, because all the beautiful fantasies are shattered by reality.
A couple enters the hall of marriage with an incomparably beautiful vision of marriage, but in the end they are disappointed, so they blame the marriage, saying that marriage is the graveyard of love, but in fact, what is really to blame is themselves.
The existence of marriage itself is formed by people, so there is no difference between fortunate or unfortunate marriages, and the reason why it will cause everyone to have different marital feelings lies entirely in the operation of the person who formed it.
If one day, you find yourself more and more unable to stand your partner, you may wish to look at this story.
The little king that Chestnut knew when he was 20 years old, the two married at the age of 27, 7 years of love and long-distance running, so that their feelings have become very firm, but also let the two know each other well enough, feel that no matter what kind of problems they encounter in the future, it will not become a stumbling block to their happiness, but they still ignore the cruelty of reality.
In the first year after marriage, they were happy, and although Xiao Wang would have various problems, they were all okay, so at this time Chestnut's face was more full of smiles.
The problem did not start until the middle of the second year, when Chestnut was pregnant, and in order to facilitate her care, the mother-in-law moved in with her.
The mother-in-law's cooking skills are very good, but she also has a lot of problems that the elderly have, coupled with the identity of the mother-in-law, so that Chestnut can not be very close to her, but the relationship is also passable.
And since the mother-in-law came, Xiao Wang completely let go of himself, the housework is not done at all, as long as the chestnut said that he, the mother-in-law said that men can't do housework, what work to let her do.
At this time, Chestnut was embarrassed, really let the mother-in-law do it, and could only help with her big belly, and after giving birth, this problem became more serious.
Perhaps it is because of the postpartum hormone disorder, which makes Chestnut's patience worse and worse, or perhaps the contradiction has been backlogged for too long, making her more and more unaccustomed to Xiao Wang.
The baby's clothes are all washed by chestnuts, and every two hours at night, the child has to be fed, and during the day he has to help do a little housework, and Xiao Wang will lie down on the sofa every time he comes home from work and do nothing.
At this time, Chestnut regretted it immensely, thinking that she had not seen the true face of Xiao Wang in the first place, and if she came again, she would definitely not marry him.
When he saw Xiao Wang lying on the sofa playing with his mobile phone again, Chestnut finally broke out, regardless of the quarrel with him, Xiao Wang was still coaxing her, but seeing that Chestnut was getting more and more out of control, he couldn't stand it.
It turned out that Chestnut had not gone to work since they got married, and in the past, the consumption of the two of them was enough for Xiao Wang's salary alone, but after Chestnut became pregnant, the situation changed.
In order to give them a good living condition, Xiao Wang began to work part-time, every day at noon and at the peak of the evening, he would go to deliver takeaways, and would also play some mobile games to increase his income.
So every time Chestnut sees him playing with his phone, he's actually making money, and he doesn't really want to play at all, because he's really tired, he just wants to rest.
Although he rarely did housework, he would help take care of the children every night, and almost in the second half of the night, he never let the chestnuts get up, and the children changed diapers and drank milk, all of which he made.
Therefore, he is not at all useless as Chestnut said, and he is not a person who only wants to have fun.
It seems that in many people's families, there will be such a problem, women always feel that they have paid the most for this family, men do nothing but make money, the key is that many times the money they earn, they can not support this family at all.
Such a man who cannot take care of the family and cannot provide basic material needs is something that many women cannot tolerate.
But in fact, this is just a one-sided view of everyone, because from the beginning when the two are together, these problems of men have already existed, so when you choose to continue to be with him, you should be prepared accordingly.
For some men, there will also be regrets about getting married, perhaps for them, they did not expect that the woman who once looked good has now become a "yellow-faced woman", all day long.
Bargaining for a few dollars and hawkers for a few dollars, this look makes them feel embarrassed, and more importantly, they can quarrel for a small matter, which makes them feel very tired.
But a large part of the reason for this situation today lies in the men themselves, if you can provide a good and comfortable living environment for women, who will want to become the appearance of others?
Marriage itself is not right or wrong, depending on what attitude you have toward her, a harvest of hard work, what seeds are sown, what flowers and fruits are produced, and this has always been the case.
A good marriage is the result of two people's careful management, and a bad marriage is also caused by two people together, not one person's fault.
So when you can't stand each other, first introspect yourself and reflect on what role you played in this marriage and what kind of sacrifices you made for each other. 、
When two people can do this, many problems will be self-defeating.