Author | Inspector (total 1442 words, about 4 minutes to read)
In today's society, there are many young parents who tend to show "excessive concern" for their children.
"The child that was born so hard, of course, how to spoil how to come." "The baby of my own province, how to spoil it is not tired!"
As everyone knows, many "spoiling" behaviors are not conducive to the growth of children.
Many folk rumors say that if the child reaches the age of six or seven, he still sleeps with his parents and does not divide the room, which will have a certain impact on the child's mental health and will lead to precocious puberty...
So, are these claims really scientific?
★ Children have not been sleeping in separate rooms with their parents, which may be detrimental to the child's "sexual perception"
Before the child is 3 years old, they are inseparable from the company of their parents, and they cannot and do not want to stay alone. But after the age of 5, the child's gender cognition has matured, and the parents should gradually maintain a certain distance.
Precocious puberty is generally divided into "true" and "pseudo" precocious puberty, the former is mostly caused by trauma or infection, and the latter is mostly stimulated by some diseases, resulting in chaos in the secretion of "sex hormones".
In daily life, long-term consumption of hormone-containing foods, drugs, etc. can also cause precocious puberty.
Therefore, in general, the cause of children's precocious puberty is mostly long-term exposure to inappropriate pictures for children, and the thinking is too mature, resulting in precocious puberty. The long-term and parents do not separate the room, which will make the child "precocious", which is not scientific.
However, as children grow older, "children avoid mothers, and women avoid fathers" is still particularly important.
Sleeping with parents for a long time, children will often inadvertently see the privacy of their parents, and if parents often have some more intimate actions, it may lead to "precocious puberty" in the child's thinking.
Prematurely let children know some gender knowledge, but they may not be able to fully understand, and will also make children have a certain psychological shadow, resulting in children's psychological unhealthy development.
Even more frightening than precocious puberty is this "risk factor"
Many parents at this time will think that since sleeping with their children is not the determinant of precocious puberty, they don't have to care too much, and the baby can sleep with them as soon as they are born.
●However, the most common occurrence of sleeping with parents is "fever syndrome."
That is to say, when the baby is still young, they will not turn over on their own, will not send out their own calls for help, the body temperature regulation ability is not perfect, then sleep with the parents, the parents sleep too deeply, it is easy to press the quilt on the child, or three mouths sleep together, the surrounding temperature is too high, cover the child with a quilt, the child is easy to sweat, and if the parents do not find out in time, it is easy to appear hypoxia, coma and so on.
Therefore, the child is not suitable for sleeping in the same bed with the parents, but it is better to share the bed and the same room, which is convenient for taking care of the baby and can also make the baby sleep more comfortably.
When is the best time to sleep in separate rooms?
At the age of 3 to 5 years old, it is the time to form gender cognitive ability, and after the age of 5, the child's gender cognition has matured, and slowly can gradually maintain a certain distance from the parents.
For children, this is just the right time, and a little earlier, the effect is greatly reduced;
Later, it will be difficult to correct.
Of course, this time still depends on the child's ability to accept, and parents must not force it.
When children grow up, parents should minimize "physical contact"
We sometimes see that children are already taller than their parents, but they are still very close to their parents, and they will hold hands or parents together.
Although this kind of behavior feels that the child and the parents have a better relationship, after all, the child has grown up and needs to pay attention to the measure. Children should learn to think independently, if they are too intimate with their parents, they may have a wrong understanding of sexual perception.
As the children continue to grow older, parents should reduce their intimate contact with their children little by little, of course, not suddenly. If it is suddenly reduced, it is possible for children to think that parents do not love themselves, which will bring great disadvantages to children's mental health.
Spicy Mom Quotes:
Parents do not need to worry too much about whether they will be precocious to sleep with their children, but to consider the safety and health of their children, so that children sleep alone, but also for their own good.
When the child "does not go", parents should not be soft-hearted, must be firm in their own decisions, slowly guide the child, encourage the child to sleep by himself, and cultivate the child's ability to be independent.
Parents, have you ever let your children sleep independently from an early age?
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