In the description of Jiang Defu in "Parental Love", her ex-wife, Jiang Changyi's mother Zhang Guilan, is a shameless woman who does not keep the woman's morality and incest the second brother.
But when Jiang Defu went back, Zhang Guilan wanted to see Jiang Defu and couldn't get what he wanted, when Anjie and them left, they looked at the direction of their return from the commanding heights of the village, who could not be shocked by that lonely, miserable expression. Whether the truth is what Jiang Defu said, we can't unilaterally believe it, even if it is so, she is heinous? Who has forgiven her suffering?
When Jiang Defu returned home to visit his relatives, he discovered the adulterous affair between the two people. In an era when there was no telephone and no rural people would have a telegraph, Jiang Defu's return home was unexpected, or it was unimaginable that he could return. After all, he went to war, and whether he had a life or not, it was not controllable by human beings. Dehua's men are not gone forever, and they do not see people dead or corpses.
Theoretically, the concept of discipline at that time was still very strong, and Dehua had always guarded her man. So when that happened, it showed that Jiang Defu had been gone for a long time, and it was the news that people in the village kept dying in battle. Second, a slap can't make a sound, is this matter Zhang Guilan's fault alone? No, Jiang Defu's second brother didn't know that this was his younger sister? You know, but if he is a little courteous and honest, even if he goes to hook up with someone else's daughter-in-law, he will not hook up with his younger sister. Even if the younger sister takes the initiative to throw herself into the embrace, she will not agree.
The rural daughter-in-law does not agree, not to mention the old society, that is, modern, remote places that are not good for wives, brothers die, in-laws in order to save a dowry money, let the daughter-in-law marry their other sons.
Obviously, it was not one person's fault, just because Jiang Defu's second brother died, and all the punishment fell on a weak woman. At that time, the status of women was not like now, from Jiang Changyi complained to Dehua, saying that the person who had always thought that he was his father scolded him and knew that Zhang Guilan was pregnant with someone else's child and married Jiang Changyi's later father, and the man also knew it. Scolding Jiang Changyi was still so embarrassed, you can imagine how Zhang Guilan would be treated.
Don't forget, throughout the ages, a man who can't marry a daughter-in-law will not blame himself for incompetence, only blame himself for his bad luck, and then sprinkle all his anger on the daughter-in-law he marries, whether she is ugly or because she is a second marriage, in short, he himself has fallen to marrying a woman who is married a second marriage, but he feels that everything is wrong caused by this woman. This woman didn't deserve him. Take the wife and children out of anger to cover up their incompetence.
Not to mention the old society, women were originally enslaved to less self-esteem and sense of resistance. But Zhang Guilan is a person with a heart, after learning that Jiang Defu is rich and noble, he will let his son go to the cheap, and even after he is pregnant, he will not marry Jiang Changyi's stepfather, but let Jiang Defu give an explanation or ask for more benefits with the child in his belly. Especially Jiang Defu's second brother died soon after, as the only flesh and bone of the second brother, if Zhang Guilan did not want to raise him and gave it to Jiang Defu, would Jiang Defu refuse? Dragging his eldest son (who at the time he certainly did not dare to say that he was a nephew), he could find some good family, at least someone like Anjie would not marry him.
If Zhang Guilan is a little more ruthless, he can force Jiang Defu not to divorce him. After all, if this kind of incest were to spread out, Zhang Guilan would certainly be humiliated, but their Jiang family would be even more humiliated, especially Jiang Defu, who already had an official and a half-job, and his future would definitely be affected.
But Zhang Guilan did nothing, she silently undertook everything, fulfilled the reputation of the Jiang family, and fulfilled Jiang Defu's reputation and future. Then he married someone else with his son, and endured the accusations and mistreatment of his husband. Looking at Jiang Defu's glory and wealth, his wife and son, she did not bother.
A woman of the old society, how big a mind to be able to do this. Don't say that in the original work, she instigated her son to destroy Jiang Defu's despicableness, even if it is, it is reasonable. After all, she is just an ordinary woman, she looks at the good days that should belong to her and belongs to others, rather than the mistakes she makes alone but lets her bear it alone, and people with weak will basically do the same as her. Moreover, she only let him go when the child was older, and more for the future of the child.
From her repeated desire to see Jiang Defu, it proves that there is Jiang in her heart. But with the passage of time, Jiang Defu always attributed the death of the second brother to her, the deceased is the greatest, and the living deserve to suffer. Then the reasonable Jiang Defu always forgot that this woman was also harmed by their brothers, and was only alive walking dead. Sure enough, people are selfish, and when things are spread out to themselves, it is someone else's fault. Why don't you think about it, his second brother is the initiator. The two brothers were the initiators of her miserable life. Is it that she also looked for short-sightedness, which is what Jiang Defu wanted?
Just by virtue of her giving birth to Jiang Changyi and raising him to adulthood, Jiang Defu is not qualified to complain about Zhang Guilan anymore, if she is a selfish person, she can completely beat up the child and find a better family, there is no need to suffer the blank eyes of her husband because of a drag oil bottle. Even if there is no description, you can imagine how much grievance and bitterness she usually has to suffer in order to defend this son who is not her husband's own son.
In the play, she silently endured all the punishments, and for many years after knowing what happened to Jiang Changyi, she did not wait for Jiang Defu's understanding, understanding, tolerance, forgiveness and gratitude. Jiang Defu, who never calmly said two words to Zhang Guilan, was so cruel. Although Zhang Guilan is not innocent, how much reason does Jiang Defu have? It's just a gap in status that makes him feel very entitled to blame others.
They all say not to punish yourself with the mistakes of others, although this sentence is inappropriate for Zhang Guilan, but even if there is a mistake, since you have chosen to survive, since you have chosen to live again, you will forget the past. Everyone is selfish, and even if the accusations of others are reasonable, there is no need to impose them on themselves. After all, strictly speaking, no one is innocent, and who is not a victim.
As long as you don't maliciously hurt others, learn to let go, learn to ignore, learn to be cold-blooded! Everyone has pain, including themselves! No one understands, learn to understand themselves, forgive themselves, be fair and at ease, be worthy of the conscience of heaven and earth, and do not need to be responsible for too many people.