Text/Cicada Chanting Locust Rui. Write the warmest words to heal the lonely heart. Pay attention to me and warm you.
preface:
It is said that "young couples come and go." From this sentence, we can see the importance of the wife. After all, the three magic weapons that can make us happy in our old age: pension money, old house and wife, less are not complete.
In most people's cognition, when a person is old, if he does not have a wife to accompany him, he can only be called alive. In the old age of having a wife as a companion, that is a good day with fireworks.
However, sixty-five-year-old Aunt Li did not think so. She said that although she did not have a husband and her daughter was not around, she did not think that there was anything wrong with such a day, but she enjoyed such a life very much, and felt that it was not too cool to live alone.
Aunt Lee:
I am sixty-five years old, and my wife died of illness twenty years ago. I was forty-five years old when my wife died. At that time, many people advised me: let me take advantage of my youth and find a wife to support me. My attitude was resolute: unless I died, I was determined not to find a man to remarry.
To tell you the truth, I have lived enough married life, if it were not for the fact that my daughter could marry a good in-law, and she was not rejected by the in-laws, she was a child of a single-parent family, and I would have divorced my wife a long time ago.
At that time, I married my wife because of love, but he made me lose very badly. When I was in love with my wife, his good attitude of obedience touched the heart of my girl. Even though his family was poor, I did not abandon him and married him with joy.
Who knew that since we both got married, he had completely changed his face. He no longer clings to me in everything and still controls my behavior strongly. All my words and deeds must be done according to his will, otherwise he will smash the pot and smash the bowl, and the heavy will beat people.
I originally wanted to divorce him, but I was pregnant with a child in my belly, and I didn't dare to beat the fetus, so I had to give birth to the child. Ever since I gave birth to my daughter, life has been even more bitter than Huang Lian's. My wife hated me for not giving him a son, which was not good for our mother and daughter at all.
Not only did he not bear the cost of supporting the family, but he also did not do housework, even his own daughter. He pushed all the hardships of life to me. I had to work to earn money, do housework, and take care of my daughter.
After marrying my wife, in just two years, I was tortured by him like a person. At that time, my mother had retired, and she pitied me for having too hard a life, so she volunteered to come to the house to help me with the children.
My mother was not accustomed to my wife always bullying me, so she always helped me out, and when my wife saw my mother helping me speak, as soon as her temper came up, she beat our mother and daughter together.
The mother really couldn't stand the violence of her wife, so she had to go back to her own home. Before leaving, my mother hugged me and cried bitterly. She said that she blamed herself for not giving birth to a brother for me, and if I had an older brother and a younger brother, my wife would not dare to bully me so blatantly.
I was the only daughter of my parents, and my father died of illness when I was in elementary school. My mother raised me with hard work, but I not only did not filial piety to her, but also let her worry about me. Although I was ashamed of my mother, after all, my ability was limited, so I could only send my mother away so as not to affect her.
When my mother helped me with my children at home, my wife hated her and said that she was clumsy. After my mother left, my wife scolded me again, saying that I did not leave my mother behind, which caused the family to be in a mess all day long, which upset him.
My wife is a particularly picky man, and as long as he has a little thing that he is not used to, he will nag in my ear endlessly. Other people's families are all women nagging men, but my family is the opposite, all are old wives nagging me, but I don't say a word.
My daily life revolves around going to work, leaving work, coming home to serve my wife and children, day after day, year after year. I repeat the lonely and tasteless days every day, feeling that it is better to live than to die.
After getting married, I lived every day in the constant pickiness and nagging of my wife. Not only that, but he was also often violent to my family, and my life was exhausted and miserable.
Even so, I was reluctant to divorce, because the house in the family was the property that I and my wife shared, and if I divorced him, he would let me get out of the house, even if it was for the house, I could not divorce.
My wife and I have been married for twenty years and have never given me a penny. The cost of living at home and raising my daughter is paid from my salary.
Although my wife does not support the family, she has absolute authority at home, and he can't beat him with me, so he makes a speech at home, so that I must obey his command in everything.
This kind of life without freedom made me live a very humiliating life, but I could not resist and could only endure in silence. I had thought that such a painful day would continue to suffer like this until I was old, but the god of fate gave me a big turnaround.
In his wife's body, it is likely to carry the gene of cancer, because his grandparents, grandparents, parents and parents all died of cancer.
When his wife was forty-six years old, he had frequent stomach pain, and every time he went to the hospital to see a doctor, the doctor recommended him to do a gastroscopy, but he was afraid of the pain of doing gastroscopy and firmly disagreed with gastroscopy.
This dragged on for more than a year, until he had frequent vomiting, black stools and other symptoms, and then under the strong recommendation of the doctor, he had to do a gastroscopy, and the result was that his wife had stomach cancer, or it was advanced.
Although I have long since stopped loving my wife because he is usually not good to me at all, out of humanitarian thoughts, I still take care of him carefully, take him to do various treatments, accompany him around to seek medical treatment, and take care of his food, clothing, shelter and transportation.
Even if I am good to my wife, he is never grateful, he is not only not grateful, but also scolded me for being a mourning star, he said that marrying me made him touch the mold, so he suffered from cancer.
Ever since my wife was diagnosed with stomach cancer, his attitude towards me grew worse and worse until he swallowed his last breath, and for a year or two, I was tortured to death by him every day.
Since my wife fell ill, she has not worked a day,000, so she can only take the basic living expenses. Even with such a little money, he was not willing to give it to me to live.
Although I hate my wife for being too stingy with me, he is a cancer patient after all, and I don't want to worry about him, so I go back to my mother's house to borrow money to treat him and fulfill my wife's responsibilities.
Penniless, in order to treat my wife, I had to borrow 100,000 yuan from my mother, which was a drop in the bucket for a patient with advanced cancer.
The hundred thousand yuan was quickly spent, and my wife forced me to go back to my mother's house to borrow money, and if I didn't agree, he said that I was Pan Jinlian, said that I hoped that he would die early, and scolded me for being a snake and scorpion woman.
Even if he scolded me at home every day, I would never go back to my mother's house to borrow money, because my mother's savings had long been hollowed out by me, and even if I went home to borrow money, I would have no money to borrow. When my wife saw that I really couldn't borrow money, I had to stop and stop forcing me to go back to my mother's house to borrow money.
Since she can no longer borrow money, her wife can only choose conservative treatment. At that time, my daughter had already joined the work, and the sensible daughter gave me all her monthly salary, leaving only a little living expenses for herself.
I used my income, plus my daughter's salary, to maintain my husband's conservative treatment. I took him to see a Chinese medicine doctor, drank Chinese medicine, and prescribed pain relief medicines to relieve his pain.
My wife passed away a year and two months later, and before he died, he reluctantly handed over his passbook, which had half a million yuan in the passbook, and I couldn't help but cry when I saw that there was so much money in the passbook.
I wasn't overjoyed that my wife had left so much money, but I was in a lot of pain. The source of my pain is that my wife obviously has so much money, but she is not willing to take it out to improve the life of the family, which has led to my daughter and I living so many years of hard life and enduring so much suffering.
The year after my wife died, my daughter got married, and since my daughter got married, I finally became myself again. I no longer need to be bound by family chores, to be the woman who goes around the pot all day, serving her husband day and night, taking care of the children, but she can't take care of herself at all.
Although I lost my wife forever, my happiness index has improved rapidly. I no longer need to put up with my husband's arrogance, I don't need to follow him every day, clean up his dirty clothes, smelly socks, and die of exhaustion every day, and I can't get his gratitude.
Now I live every day when I want to eat and sleep when I want, and I can arrange my life at my own pace. When my daughter is not married, as a mother, I have to take care of her three meals a day and take care of her diet and living.
My daughter and I are two generations after all, and her lifestyle habits are completely different from mine. On her day at work, I would get up early to make an early breakfast for her, buy a bunch of meat dishes in the afternoon, and cook a hearty dinner for her. In fact, I'm a vegetarian and don't like to eat meat.
On my daughter's rest days, she would sleep until one or two o'clock in the afternoon, and in order not to disturb her rest, I couldn't do anything at home, even if I watched TV, I could only choose to mute. By the time my daughter finally got up, my stomach was so hungry that my chest was pressed against my back.
Since my daughter got married, I was finally able to arrange my life according to my preferences. I no longer need to spend time making complicated meat dishes, but simply make two small dishes and let myself eat beautifully. This not only saves time, but also frees up more energy to do what you love.
Since the death of my husband and the fact that my daughter has her own small family, I have finally regained my unmarried self and found my lost self. I finally found the beauty of life, and I felt that it was so cool to live alone alone.
Conclusion:
Every woman, before they became a woman, before they became a mother, was an innocent, carefree little girl. When they were not married, they had nothing to worry about, nor did they have any worries. They don't have heavy family baggage, they just need to be happy to be themselves.
Everything has changed dramatically since women got married. They not only have to work, but also take care of their husbands, serve their children, and never live the life they want again.
They are like a gyroscope every day, busy with work and busy with the family, not only that, they are often disturbed by complex family relationships, which can be said to be both tired and tired.
If a woman marries a man who does not know how to feel sorry for herself, and lives with a man who is unwilling to share the burden of the family, the burden on her shoulders will be overwhelmed. Because of this, in real life, we often hear women complaining: "Why should I live so tired?" ”
In real life, many women who do not feel the joy of family life, they actively choose divorce, they would rather be lonely until old age, rather than re-enter the marriage.
In marriage, happy women are all similar: they have husbands who love themselves, and children who are sensible and obedient. Unhappy marriages, though for different reasons, basically have one thing in common: a selfish husband in the family.
Many women, after experiencing the pain of marriage and bravely walking out of marriage, vowed to live for themselves in the second half of their lives and no longer live as a victim of others. When they enjoy the beauty of living alone, they find that a person's true happiness often begins with pleasing themselves.
Author: Cicada Yin Huai Rui. An old post-70s aunt who looks down on the fireworks in the world and tells the story of the world. If you have stories and troubles, welcome to send me a private message. Like my article, please click on the upper right corner to follow me, take you to listen to different stories every day, feel a different life, thank you!
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