The child's mode of getting along with the mobile phone is also his attitude towards his future life.
I have read a report, which is lamentable.
An American psychologist selected 100 children from ordinary families and divided them into two groups: one group had no access to mobile phones, and the other group was obsessed with mobile phones.
A follow-up survey 10 years later found that almost all children who did not play mobile phones were admitted to college, while only 2 children who were obsessed with mobile phones were admitted to college.
Many people sighed: Is the gap in life ruthlessly opened by a small mobile phone?
It is undeniable that electronic devices, including mobile phones, are indeed very harmful to children!
Eat with my sister's family during the Chinese New Year.
The 3-year-old nephew watches cartoons on his phone, rubbing his eyes as he watches.
The sister said that the child had dry eye disease because he often played with mobile phones, and he was taking eye drops these days, so he snatched the mobile phone back.
As a result, the little nephew cried "wow", shouting "stinky mother, stinky mother" while stomping his legs.
Helplessly, my sister tucked the phone back in, and the crying stopped abruptly.
Since when has the mobile phone become a "coaxing artifact"?
Children do not eat;
Children disturb our work;
The child is noisy in public;
.......
One phone can do it all.
Surveys have shown that:
Children aged 0-5 have more than 80% smartphone usage and more than 30% of children who play with mobile phones since the age of 3.
However, Jobs, the "father of Apple's mobile phone", did not let his three children play with iPads and mobile phones before he died.
"We restrict kids from using smart products at home," he said.
As a developer, he knows the harm that smart products can do to children.
A German child psychologist did a test:
They had three groups of 5-year-olds draw villains on paper.
As a result, children who hardly watch TV every day draw the most complete and beautiful villains.
Children who watch TV for more than 3 hours a day draw small people who are simple and dull.
And children who are not restricted from watching TV content, the little people drawn are either broken hands, broken feet, or incomplete or only partial, obviously the child is affected by some bad content in the TV.
Psychologists have concluded that premature and excessive exposure to electronic products can greatly damage children's brain development and affect cognition, imagination and creativity.
Moreover, this damage will be difficult to repair in the future.
Now, many children wear glasses early, mostly because of problems such as amblyopia and astigmatism caused by premature contact with electronic screens.
Because most of the cartoons or children's games are colorful, the picture changes too quickly, and it is easy to fatigue the child's visual nervous system.
The University of Washington has an experiment that proves:
For every additional hour a child spends looking at an electronic screen from 10 months onwards, the risk of developing "ADHD" increases by 10% at age 7.
The light and shadow stimuli from electronic screens are intense, adapted to the fast-paced child, and it is difficult to concentrate attention in a relatively bland, static real-life environment.
A primary school teacher said that 80% of children who can't sit still in class, love to wander, and can't sit still and read books have the habit of playing with mobile phones and watching TV too much.
In addition, playing with mobile phones will also increase the obesity rate of children, weaken immunity, and affect height growth and physical development.
Children who love to play with mobile phones are being stolen by mobile phones little by little because of their health and learning ability, and they have long lost their competitiveness among their peers.
I watched a video of a seven- or eight-year-old boy holding a kitchen knife confronting his grandfather, shouting, "Hack you to death without paying."
The reason is that he was hooked on a mobile game that cost money, and Grandpa didn't give him money.
Mobile phones make children have demons and lose the last of their sanity and moral self-control.
Psychologists say:
Excessive exposure of children to electronic products is damaging to the formation and development of children's personality, and children will have anxiety, depression, irritability, apathy, autism, split personality, and even violent behavior.
If left unrestricted, the children we work so hard to raise and have high hopes for are easily devoured by mobile phones.
At a family gathering, the two boys touched me a lot.
A boy sat there from the moment he walked in the door and started playing with his phone, not caring about the people and things around him.
Dad urged him to eat several times, and he "hmmmed" a few times and didn't move at all; so Mom fed the fruit into his mouth, and he chewed it mechanically. A big man of one meter and eight meters, he was taken care of like a child of several years old.
Mobile phones are like mental opium, sucking away a child's original full and vigorous mental state.
The other boy has been patiently chatting with relatives, humble and polite, exuding youthful vitality, making people feel very comfortable.
Listen to his mother, she bought a mobile phone for the child, but the child rarely plays, and has time to exercise and read. It is naturally not unusual to hear that this child has excellent grades and has been rated as a three-good student and an excellent class cadre every year.
Can a mobile phone predict whether a child will have a future?
Maybe not.
However, the child's attitude towards mobile phones, in a sense, will affect his attitude towards life and the future.
I've seen two news stories before:
1, a 13-year-old girl in Hebei did not study at night, secretly played with her mobile phone, was broken by her mother,000 her mobile phone, and ran away from home in a rage.
2. A junior high school boy in Henan, with unsatisfactory grades, was criticized by his father and confiscated his mobile phone, and committed suicide by drinking pesticides in anger.
How can these children be so vulnerable?
Surveys in the United States show that the use of electronic products such as mobile phones has increased the suicide rate of teenagers by 31%.
In the mainland, more and more children under the age of 15 suffer from "network autism" because they are addicted to mobile phones - they are characters who are popular in mobile phones, but when they return to reality, they are cowardly and psychologically fragile, and it is easy to go to extremes because of a small matter.
Most of these children have no intention of learning, "in Cao Ying's heart in Han", playing the image of "pseudo-learners" every day, and are far behind their peers.
In addition to being moved, it is not only sighing.
It is said that "a strong youth is a strong country".
The gap between children who love mobile phones and children who do not love mobile phones may be farther away than we think in ten years.
In such an intelligent era, it seems difficult to do without letting children play with mobile phones.
But what is the right thing to do?
Develop the habit of reading before touching electronics
Children's institutions in many countries recommend:
It is best not to touch electronic products until the age of 2.
3-6 years old can use the mobile phone appropriately, within 3 times a day, for ten minutes at a time.
Daily exposure to electronic products should be limited to 2 hours for 6-18 years old.
Brain scientist Hong Lan suggested: When children's reading habits and interests are cultivated, it is better to contact the dynamic electronic screen.
Make an appointment about when you play with electronics
Many times, children play with mobile phones are improvised and unrestricted, which leads to easy addiction.
We can set a rule for children, such as playing mobile phones for half an hour after school, watching a movie on Saturdays and Sundays, and watching only one episode of cartoons a day for younger children.
When the habit is formed, both the child and the parent will become a kind of self-consciousness, and there will be no problems such as "tug-of-war" and "negotiation" because of the number and duration of play.
It is important for parents to lead by example
A friend's child once said a word to his father who played with the hand:
Dad, you're so ugly! Like a big stinky shrimp slumped on the couch!
A word awakens the dreamer.
It turns out that the way we play with mobile phones is so ugly in the eyes of children.
Wanting your child to play less with their phones and tell the truth a hundred times is not as useful as the power of an example.
The company of parents allows children to see the bigger world
Long Yingtai said, "Play is the foundation of learning between heaven and earth."
The best parents are the best parents who can play with their children.
Take children for walks, travel, and read books, children will observe insect dwellings, birdsong, grass dew in nature, perceive the beauty of mountains, seas, clouds, and fog, and expand their horizons and hearts in the book.
Children who have been irrigated by nature since childhood, infiltrated by humanities, and infected by the fragrance of books, are interested in the sky, and have a big world in their hearts, how can they indulge in electronic products such as mobile phones?
It is said that education fights for the parents' financial resources and the children's aura, and it is better to fight for the cohesion between parents and children.
Good parents care for their children, listen to their children, and guide their children, rather than throwing their children a mobile phone.
A small mobile phone often hides the philosophy of parenthood and the future of children.
May parents encourage you!