【Parent Classroom】Manuscript of family education | preschool children

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Moderator: Hello everyone, welcome to this open family education class. Today, we explore issues related to the field of preschool education. It is a great honor to have two guests, and on my right hand side is Zhu Jiwen, director of the first kindergarten in Fengtai District, Beijing. She is the recipient of the special government allowance of the State Council and the recipient of the "Mingyuan Education Award". Thank you very much for the arrival of Director Zhu. On the right hand side of Zhu Yuanchang is the parent guest Teacher Zhang Chunyan, who is also the mother of a 4-year-old baby. Is it?

Zhang Chunyan: Yes.

Host: Teacher Zhang, is your child a boy or a girl?

Zhang Chunyan: Girl.

Host: In which grade of kindergarten?

Zhang Chunyan: Just started kindergarten.

Moderator: I think you may have a lot of questions about children, please ask Director Zhu.

Chunyan Zhang: Exactly.

Moderator: Today, we conducted in-depth exchanges on family education that should be paid attention to in the field of preschool education.

Chunyan Zhang: Okay. Thank you very much for this opportunity to ask And Learn from Mr. Zhu. My daughter is over 4 years old and has just started kindergarten. I would like to ask a question, but also for the parents who will go to kindergarten, for children who have just entered kindergarten, what aspects should parents cultivate the ideological quality of young children?

Zhu Jiwen: Early childhood education is to cultivate children's core literacy. We can cultivate children's self-confidence, sense of responsibility, critical thinking, creative skills, etc. These can be cultivated in kindergarten life. In the family we need to focus on life, that is, education. There is a lot of education in life that deserves the attention of parents.

Zhang Chunyan: When you mention life, I suddenly think of a problem, such as our children are particularly quiet at home and more sensible. However, when she arrives in public, she is obviously more active than at home. I would like to ask Teacher Zhu for advice, what kind of psychology is she? Are you looking for attention?

Zhu Jiwen: Yes! As a mother of a child, I think you know a lot about education. The child is like this a lot of times, and he wants to get attention. We must understand the child's behavior from the child's point of view. Do you think kids are naughty? Or do you want her to be the way you want her to be?

Zhang Chunyan: I want her to be quiet in public.

Zhu Jiwen: This is from the perspective of an adult. For children, he likes to be paid attention to by others, and we must satisfy the psychology of children. At home, we can use games to let children understand that there are rules and constraints in public places, and we can't think about how to do it.

Moderator: Yes, I think Director Zhu said it very well. Director Zhu analyzed the psychology of children, who want attention in public. I think another reason is that the public environment is not the same as the regular environment of the family, and there are many new things that stimulate children to be more excited. Because children have less control than adults, sometimes they can't control their emotions well. Just now, Director Zhu has given a good solution strategy, that is, to let children understand the basic norms of social life through games at home. Right?

Zhu Jiwen: Yes.

Host: For example, in public places, children are often seen shouting, or running around in high-speed rail cars, or watching cartoons, playing games without headphones and turning up the volume very much. In these questions, parents can tell their children the polite behavior or the code of conduct that should be observed in social life through the way of games just introduced by Zhu Yuanchang.

Zhu Jiwen: Yes. Parents want to turn this behavior into a family habit. If family members do not handle the relationship well, it will affect the growth of the child. The child will sometimes be with the elderly, and he can't help but show the attitude towards the elderly, which is the attitude of parents to the elderly. How do we treat our parents well? How do you treat your father-in-law and mother-in-law? These affect children. For example, when we were shopping with our children, we saw a beautiful costume and said, "Ah! This grandma must have loved it! Think about it, how tall is Grandma? multiple? What about the color of the clothes? Suitable for grandma? "It's a very natural communication, but the child will know that you are thinking of the elderly.

For example, I was paid two or three thousand yuan at that time, and every month I would save a hundred yuan for my grandmother and grandmother, which I put in two drawers. In this way, I let my children know that I miss my grandmother and I miss my grandmother. When he grows up, he will also miss the old man, buy bananas, he will think about whether grandma eats or not, grandma eats or not, whether they like it or not. These are all subtle, not "We must honor Grandma" and "We can't have the attitude toward Grandma" that you say with your mouth. The influence of parents' actions on children is natural, and the power is endless.

Moderator: Director Zhu, your approach is fantastic! The cultivation and growth of parents is very important, it is like air, like sunshine, like rain and dew, silently nourishing children. Through observation and imitation, children are deeply imprinted in their own values.

Zhu Jiwen: Yes. My home was originally rural, and in my memory, the culture of our village is "eat a hundred meals and wear a hundred clothes". We have three girls in our family, and I'm the eldest, and I'm going to be particularly economical in getting dressed, because I'm going to leave it for my two younger sisters to wear. We have a date tree in our house, and the dates are particularly large. Every year when the dates are ripe, my mother will let me beat them down, and only by beating them with a stick can we make more dates next year.

Moderator: You can also add this kind of knowledge.

Zhang Chunyan: Life experience.

Zhu Jiwen: Yes. After the dates were knocked down, my mother put the smashed dates in a basket and the dates that were not smashed in a basket. Our whole family ate the smashed dates and distributed the dates that were not smashed to more than 200 families in the village. Now that I think about it, my mom knows so much about education! You think, when I divide the dates, I have to think that there are more than 200 households in the village, and I have to divide more than 200 parts; when I send dates, I have to think of what the uncle and aunt say; after I send the dates, I have to think about how to make records... It's all learning. There's sharing, there's categorization, there's how much, there's language, and there's social emotion.

When I chatted with a friend some time ago, I said that when I was a child, my family was not rich, but every day I was particularly happy, especially happy, and enjoyed my childhood life. I remember one New Year's Day, my mom made me a pair of card pants, which I especially cherished.

Moderator: Dress with special care.

Zhu Jiwen: Be very careful not to wear it badly. However, children like to show off.

Moderator: There is a sense of pride.

Zhu Jiwen: Yes! I remember very clearly that there was a water canal next to my house, and the water channel had a slow slope made of cement, and the sand grains were very large and thick. At that time, I thought I couldn't break my pants, so I squatted there and grinded the soles of my shoes to play. However, when I had a good time, I forgot, sat down, and grinded my pants into a hole.

Moderator: Broken.

Zhu Jiwen: Broken! What can I do when I get home?

Host: We specifically want to know how your mom reacted? Was he beaten up?

Zhu Jiwen: If it was other families in our village, they would have criticized it a long time ago: "You see, the family is not rich, and it cost you so much money to buy cloth to make these pants, and after wearing it for a while, it was broken." "I was very nervous and wanted to cover my ass. When I got home, my mother found out at once. No matter how you cover it, she can find out. Isn't it?

Moderator: Yes.

Zhu Jiwen: What kind of way did my mother use? I still remember it vividly. My mother took out a few pieces of cloth for me to choose, and she said at the time: "I have already found out, is there still a pair of 'eyes' behind you?" But it's a little unsightly. Which piece of cloth do you prefer? What kind of big 'eyes' do you want to turn it into? I'm going to give you a big 'eye' in front of you and a big 'eye' in the back. That way, when you play the game, you can see all the children. "My mom really patched me two patches, and I saw every kid twist their little butts, 'Look, I still have a big 'eye'!" "Although I have not been blamed, I have also warned myself in my heart that I must cherish it and not let it wear out again, because I will leave it for my younger siblings to wear." You see, that's the impact of family. Many times, parents like to use language to express what they want. However, I think action is more important.

Moderator: Director Zhu, we were touched by the two stories you told.

Chunyan Zhang: I was inspired.

Host: Hats off to your mother, who was a very great mother. You see, the matter of dividing dates, let's leave aside the mathematical cognition of classification and equal division, it teaches you generosity, which is a good quality. At the same time, your mother did not preach, but let you learn this good quality in a subtle way. There is also the need to respect and understand children from the child's point of view, and communicate in a language that the child understands. I think this is a very wise mother.

Zhu Jiwen: Indeed, family education is very important.

Zhang Chunyan: The inspiration I just shared with me is that no matter what profession you are engaged in, whether you live in the city or the countryside, you can become a good mother.

Host: Isn't it?

Zhang Chunyan: I also reflect that when a child makes a mistake, I have to take care of her self-esteem.

Host: Very good, I hope we can all become great mothers like Zhu Yuanchang's mother.

Zhu Jiwen: Some time ago, parents discussed whether to tell their children that their families are very poor.

Zhang Chunyan: It's not easy to make money.

Zhu Jiwen: Yes, it is not easy to make money. I thought, why should we give our children this kind of education? This kind of education is from the perspective of parents, without taking into account the needs of children. Children are innocent. Many parents will force their children to learn every day, especially when it comes to young articulation, but also let their children learn Chinese Pinyin and learn addition and subtraction. I'm not saying it's not important to learn these things, but it's important to learn when and how you learn them. Many parents ask me: "Teacher Zhu, when do you think we will connect?" ”

Author: Zhu Jiwen, Director of the First Kindergarten in Fengtai District, Beijing

This article is excerpted from the exclusive article of the propaganda family network "Zhu Jiwen: [Parent Classroom] Family Education of Preschool Children"