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What does a mother who has given birth to a second child feel? It is nothing more than a few joys and a few sorrows, some are happy and harmonious, and more than two treasures are equal to double happiness; but some bao mothers are helpless and lost, saying that they really should not be born, they deserve it.
The second-born mother laughed at herself: give birth to a second child, deserve it! Netizen: I'm talking about myself
A bao mother complained about the life after the arrival of the second child on the Internet: after giving birth to the second baby, I felt like a gyroscope, busy for the family and busy with the children, my husband said that I used to be a beautiful conch girl, and now the whole gyro aunt.
All day long, when I woke up, the child cried and laughed, didn't even have time to wash his face, and took off a lot of hair. Want to let the husband help to see the child, people immediately incarnated Lin Daiyu, shouting back pain tired, but also said that he is responsible for making money, I am responsible for watching the baby, I really want to change with him, I went to work, let him watch the baby at home, but also experience how tired the full-time mother is. Having a second child, I really deserve it!
A remark resonated with netizens:
"I actually thought it was my own post, isn't that a reflection of my life now?" "Looking so eager to cry, I gave up my job after giving birth to my second child, and I really felt sad when I was looking for money from my husband, the key is that people still think that it is a comfortable job for you to watch your children every day." 」 "What I regret the most is that I gave birth to a second treasure, full of stretch marks, and fell into confinement disease, and now I have a yellow face, and I don't want to look in the mirror." Many second-born mothers have a stomach full of bitter water, can not recover the body, health is damaged, give up the future for the sake of the child, but the family does not understand, and so on.
If there is a mother who wants to have a second child, but think well, having a second child means going through the ghost door again, can your body bear it? Does being pregnant and having children mean that you can't work for a long time and your family is financially well-off? Is the child born to be a full-time mother or looking for someone to bring, are you at ease if you are looking for someone to bring, and are you willing to do full-time?
Before the second child, these need to think carefully, and they can't think about it, but also want a guarantee with their husbands
One: Take your husband to check together, and let your husband guarantee that the daughter-in-law's body is the most important.
If you want to conceive a second child, you must ensure that your body has recovered well, take your husband to check together, let your husband have a comprehensive understanding of your recovery status, know what are the dangers of having a second child, otherwise he will only wait for the moment when the melon ripens and falls, but he does not know that the soil for cultivating fruits needs to be carefully maintained, thinking that the ass will come out as soon as the child is plucked.
If the mother's body is no longer suitable for having a second child, then bite to death and not give birth, and her own body is the most important.
Two: Check your husband's small treasury, calculate the family's savings, and let your husband guarantee that he has the ability to support your mother-in-law.
One of my relatives, regardless of the difficult family environment, gave birth to a second child at the age of 44, the child just threw it to the elderly belt when she was full moon, she helped her husband sell breakfast together, because the second treasure cost was large, and the big child also ended the college entrance examination, waiting for college tuition.
Mothers, if you are not willing to worry about money while confinement, check how much money your husband has, how much money you have at home, and when you have children and can't work, this money is not enough for you to raise your body and raise children. If it is enough, we will hold it in our hands, and if it is not enough, it will be two words: not born.
No mom wants her baby to eat cheap formula, right? No mother wants to drink even a good soup during confinement, right? Then let your husband promise that he will not lose money and hand it over to you.
Three: grasp the husband's working hours and intensity, let the husband guarantee: will not let the daughter-in-law tired.
Many mothers understand their husband's body, think that their husband is too tired at work, so the housework to see the baby are their own bags, in fact, see the baby can be more tired than going to work, strong women do not get the husband's pity for a long time. Since this is the case, the laborious and unflattering work of watching the baby clean up the house should not be resisted by one person, and it is himself who is tired and suffers losses.
Mothers should often ask their husbands what work they are doing today, tired or not, by the way, hand over a cup of hot tea, gossip to grasp the work of their husbands, and then you can formulate a "husband parenting table", assign tasks to their husbands every day, such as changing diapers, such as painting picture books with children, for a long time will become accustomed to nature, someone helps to bring a baby, and the mothers also have time to dress themselves well, not to become yellow-faced women, right?
In the end, having a child is never a matter of one person, but a family affair, if the mother wants to have a second child, it means sacrificing health, energy and even the future, you need to pay a huge price, since the hardship of childbirth has been borne by the mother alone, the process of parenting hopes that the father will participate, and the understanding and support of the father is a solid shield to protect the family.