One of the most commonly heard questions is, "How do we normalize our relationships?" The answers are complex and varied, and after a while, they sound like clichés.
However, these commonplace claims are reused because they are effective! With that in mind, we've collected 12 clichés that, in fact, reveal simple, reliable love advice on how to have a healthy, happy marriage.
The 12 Golden Rules of Marriage that couples who maintain a marital relationship always follow.
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1. Be polite.
"Please," "thank you," and "you're welcome" can go a long way toward helping your partner remember your respect and love for him and not take him for granted.
2. Diversity is the spice of life.
Research shows that dullness leads to dissatisfaction with a relationship. Trying something new can be as simple as going to an unfamiliar restaurant or backpacking in Tibet. Your common discovery will keep you feeling intimate.
3. Couples who play together will always be together.
Find a sport or hobby that you both enjoy (watching TV doesn't count) and make it a priority in your relationship. Camping, biking, making model airplanes. Whatever it is, find something you like to do together.
4. The right quarrel.
To make the argument more productive, remember the following rule: Don't call your significant other by name. When things get tricky, stop arguing. Have the other person finish his/her sentence. Don't start discussing when you're angry.
5. If you help me, I will help you.
No one likes to ask, but everyone appreciates compromise. If you want your lover to do something for you and you're not sure if he'll agree, the quickest way to avoid conflict is to give him some sweetness. For example. "Of course, if you take me to the movie I choose, I'll accompany you to the basketball game."
6. Three stinky cobblers, the top Zhuge Liang.
In a relationship, it basically means that you have merged; you not only have common assets, but you also inherit each other's problems. Instead of seeing his problems as his own, we should solve them together.
For example, if he gains weight, instead of forcing himself to diet, join an exercise program.
7. Distance produces beauty.
Maintain your own friendships and occasionally hang out for a night without your significant other. Doing things alone will not only make you miss him or her, but it will also keep you sane. And in case the relationship doesn't work out, you still have your friends.
8. Speak up.
In other words: communication! Talking about tough topics – money, religion, loyalty, raising children – won't be the happiest thing for you, but it will be valuable.
9. Laughter is the best medicine.
Learn to laugh at yourself and laugh at stupid mistakes. If he throws your $3,000 cashmere sweater into the dryer, it's better to laugh than to get angry in the long run. It's just a 3,000-dollar cashmere sweater, not the end of the world.
10. Focus on your goals.
Yes, he forgot your colleague's name for the tenth time, but that probably doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. If you pin your perspective on goals — to maintain a happy, effective partnership — you're less likely to get tangled up in every little annoyance. Remember, you want the same thing.
11. The one who gives up will never win.
Find a ritual and keep it alive no matter what happens. Whether it's kissing each other and saying goodnight, revisiting your wedding vows every year, getting a lazy night's sleep once a month, or committing to having sex once a week, choosing something that makes you both feel good and sticking with it, even if you want to give up.
12. When things get tough, strong people go and fix.
Studies have shown that couples who seek counseling during difficult times are more successful in resolving the issue than those who do not.
Whether from a counselor or a mental health professional, having an expert help sort out the dispute is as wise as giving up self-installation and hiring a plumber to install a new sink.
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