There is such a sentence in "First Make a Living, Then Love": "The person who loves you loves you and your added value, so behind all the impossible feelings, there is a logical reason." ”
Under the blessing of multiple elements, emotions gradually become confusing. The story behind what we once thought was "simple love" is no longer simple.
He Ya and her boyfriend have been in love for 2 years, and the boyfriend proposed marriage, which was originally a matter of great joy and you and me, but it went wrong at the bride price.
In order to buy a house in full, the boyfriend's family has streamlined the wedding and omitted the bride price. The boyfriend said that this is affordable, the wedding is for others to see, and the house is in his own hands.
But in He Ya's heart, she always felt uncomfortable, but the feelings of the two people were still there, and He Ya's parents advised her to live behind closed doors, and you two were good, even if we gave the bride price, we were going to bring you back.
After the wedding was completed, there was no dowry, and the dowry he family was eighty thousand. Originally, He Ya's parents wanted to spend 100,000 yuan to buy a car for the little two, but He Ya, under the persuasion of her boyfriend, let her parents replace the car with the money in the bank card.
What surprised He Ya was that her husband wanted to use the 80,000 yuan to make up for the debt he borrowed from buying a house. He Ya knew that her husband's thoughts were four months after they were married, and He Ya was pregnant.
He Ya disagreed, and her husband softly and hard bubbled, saying that the money was only temporarily borrowed in an emergency, and in a few days, it would be able to return to He Ya immediately. Angry, He Ya wrote an IOU and returned it within half a year, otherwise he would do business according to the interest of the bank loan.
He Ya's husband was stunned when he saw the IOU, saying that He Ya was absolutely in love, and the husband and wife were still so calculated. He Ya said, how do I think you calculated me first?
The money was borrowed, the IOU was signed, and the days were still running as usual. Although there didn't seem to be anything unusual between the two people getting along, He Ya knew that something in her heart seemed to be broken, not the same as before.
Until a month after the birth of the child, He Ya asked her husband whether it was time for Zhang Luo to return his 80,000 pieces? Also, the money for the sister-in-law in the month is from her own mother-in-law's family, and then the cost of child-rearing sister-in-law must be borne by the little couple themselves, asking the husband what is the way to open source and reduce expenditure.
The result of the discussion was that the eighty thousand pieces could not be repaid for the time being, and there was still to wait. I want to ask my sister-in-law to choke, but I don't want to persuade my mother-in-law to bring it.
The reason given by He Ya's husband sounded grandiose: "Who is not as close as the ancestral relatives who are related to him by blood, where can outsiders really treat their children?" ”
Seeing that He Ya wanted to open her mouth, her husband immediately took over the stubble and continued: "My mother really can't open her body, my brother's child she has been carrying, it is not good to throw it halfway down and leave, right?" ”
He Ya said: "I know that I can't refer to my mother-in-law, so I proposed to ask for a child-rearing sister-in-law, but it really can't work, then I will resign at home, and you will raise us two." ”
He Ya's husband quickly dissuaded: "Daughter-in-law, you are not unaware of my salary situation, if you have to resign, then only the three of us can eat chaff vegetables all the time..."
"Please parenting sister-in-law is not OK, I resign at home with the child is not OK, the mother-in-law comes to take the child is not OK, you just calculated, you must let my mother pay and contribute, right?"
He Ya's husband sat there silently, and He Ya continued, "Good, yes." He Ya's husband's eyes lit up, but He Ya's next words made him jump like thunder: "Then let the child follow my family name, surname He." ”
"By what?" "Just by virtue of your family's dowry, I will subsidize you to buy your own house with eighty thousand dowries, just by virtue of your family's dime, my family will pay for and contribute with children!"
In this world, there are more and more people who want to "get something for nothing".
If a man wants to get the right to a surname, he must at least look like a husband and a father.
Preconceived not means that it is "natural and righteous", and whose surname the child is with can completely see who is more invested in the family and marriage, and the degree of contribution is higher.
Life exists in this world, and you must assume your own corresponding responsibilities. Most of the "get" in life has already secretly marked the price, and you have to pay if you want.
As for the question of whose surname the child is, we can consider it from the perspective of the husband and wife who pay more to the family's economy and life, and who is more qualified to make decisions.
Of course, in this measurement process, a woman's fertility efforts cannot be erased.
In fact, in marriage, as long as there is still love between two people and know how to give each other enough respect, this problem can be completely discussed.
Women can give for love, and many men who have nothing also marry and have children and get the naming rights of their children. But only if they have the ability to make their wives feel that it's all worth it.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]