Harvard University released the 2021 freshman family background data report: nearly 30% of the students have at least one relative who graduated from Harvard, 30.1% are from private middle schools, and about 46% of these students are from wealthy families. Most of these students don't play social networking sites, and most of the pressure comes from self-expectation. These school bullies all appear as family units.
At the same time, in this survey we can summarize and find some common characteristics, analyzing them one by one:
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Thirty percent of students have relatives who graduated from Harvard
Many times, the parents' every move, every word and deed, will be subtly imprinted in the child's mind, affecting the child's key choices and decisions on the road to the future, and ultimately affecting their fate; if you want the child to become a literate person, first of all, you must become what literate person.
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30% of the students come from private secondary schools
Compared with the universal public education environment, the emphasis on individual differentiation, the emphasis on multiple literacy, and the pickiness of parents' qualities in American private schools are all "barriers to entry". It also indirectly requires parents to invest more energy and time, and it is also inseparable from the solid foundation of parents' economic and educational capabilities themselves.
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Fifty percent of wealthy families
This is a cycle - the literacy and education of parents, the economic ability of the family, the family sentiment and educational atmosphere, the degree of educational importance, the ability of family education, the ability to choose school and social education, the comprehensive literacy of the child, the child's achievements and ability performance..... Especially in the American higher education system, compared with children's grades, competency, critical thinking, leadership, creativity, action, expression, learning, etc. are more important factors.
Finland, for example, has always had a world-class education system. But in fact, Finns don't care much about the index ranking between schools, and the Finnish government believes that the most important thing in education is to teach children the skills they need in their future lives, which include creativity, action, and expression.
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Less social networking time
In the 1980s and 1990s, the "nipple music theory" was put forward internationally, and too many young people focused their time and attention on meaningless entertainment, abandoning the pursuit of meaning and sense of value, and the less action and learning led to more decadence and complaints. Even wealthy families like Buffett and Bill Gates limit their children's "screen time." Electronics are true, but without the tools themselves, it is difficult for children who are enslaved and consumed and filled with entertainment to focus their attention and sense of accomplishment on things that are truly meaningful and growing.
Moreover, experiments have also proved that long-term use of electronic products will affect children's brain development and attention, the most important factor in children's healthy development is a positive parent-child relationship, which is characterized by warm and caring form of interaction, parents respond to children's behavioral cues the fastest, provide appropriate interaction, can be a good encouragement of children's curiosity and learning.
The variables of education itself are ultimately strongly correlated with the "family"
Children growing up in different environments will be affected by the environment, forming different personalities, worldviews and attitudes towards life. Children who grow up in pickiness learn to be harsh, children who grow up in tolerance learn to tolerate, encourage children who grow up in tolerance to learn self-confidence, children who grow up in fairness learn to be upright, and children who grow up in friendship learn to care, it can be said that children's growth depends largely on the surrounding environment and the influence of the family.
Give children more high-quality companionship, give families more growth experience, and give parents higher literacy requirements. It is the foundation of cultivating future excellent children in times of anxiety.
For example, many parents like to hold their mobile phones to browse the circle of friends or web pages when they take care of their children, and they will have a certain interaction with their children when they ask. In fact, what is most needed at this time is the high-quality companionship of parents, we must give the child warm love, sensitive attention to his needs, express positive thoughts and feelings for him, put down the mobile phone, let go of anxiety, turn off the TV and computer.
Education is the most complex science in the world. There are many variables like stars, and everywhere there is peddling anxiety and uncertainty on the tip of parents' hearts. So what is certain? Parents who are more able to grow, parents who are more willing to take the initiative to take responsibility, and families who are more able to find "themselves" in the complicated trend of public opinion.
"Hope to become a dragon" or first "hope to become a dragon"
Parents who are lucky enough to think that "the child has his own life" will most likely be disappointed, because "the child has a problem" is the reason why most parents choose to escape, because a sentence of "This is the child's fault" throws off their responsibilities. There are also many parents who believe that if they give their children to the school, the school should be responsible for all the content of the child, and if the child makes a mistake, it is the teacher's education is not good, and the school is responsible.
These are all wrong, and the shortcomings or advantages of the child will find traces in the body of their parents. Every child's personality and habits are taught by parents, and parents' words and deeds inadvertently affect children, and children are the epitome of parents.
For example, some parents react with us, children always love to eat snacks, eat endlessly, cooked later we learned that the original parents are very fond of eating snacks, the food at home is on the basket to count, parents tell children to quit snacking at the same time, but they do not restrain, how to set an example for children? There are also parents who do not let their children watch TV, lock their children in the house, but they see the middle of the night in the living room, these behaviors are not very good for the children to set an example.
There is a book that once wrote: "As a parent, all you can do is straighten your waist and set a good example when you walk in front of your child." When you are behind, tell him that I can take care of myself, and ask you to move forward bravely and happily, and see more magnificent scenery for me. ”
To "hope to become a dragon", to improve themselves, but also to give children more and better support. Help children improve their learning ability, so that children can walk more easily on the road of life in the future.
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