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There is a kind of helplessness called "abandonment by children."
The word "abandonment" often appears in the workplace or in the development of science and technology. But why is there also a situation of "abandonment" in the family?
Because reality and people's hearts are far beyond your imagination.
In this day and age, it is the norm for a husband to abandon his wife, or for a wife to abandon her husband. From the news, we can see that although there are many lovers, there are also heartless people.
Not only that, but this "ruthless" situation also arises in the relationship between children and parents.
It is rare for parents to abandon their children, at least "tiger poison does not eat children". Conversely, it is very common for children to abandon their parents.
Some people have not yet become parents, then they will not understand the hardships and difficulties of their parents. In this way, it is normal for them to "abandon" them.
More importantly, with the development of the times, the concept of material supremacy has penetrated deep into our hearts. In this way, there will be great contradictions in all kinship.
Take the post-60s and post-70s generations that we know as well, they eventually became the first generation abandoned by their "children". The reasons are particularly realistic.
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When it comes to the post-60s and post-70s, I believe we all have a feeling that they are particularly filial and particularly affectionate.
If others fail them, they will still treat each other sincerely. If others hurt them, they will tolerate it generously. How could they, who are so kind, face the risk of "filial piety"?
In fact, everyone's body is engraved with the imprint of the times.
In the era of simplicity and innocence, the three views and thoughts cultivated by people often do not go anywhere. In the era of materialistic desires, the three views cultivated by people are often related to "financial interests".
I have seen two such cases.
A 55-year-old middle-aged man takes care of his 80-year-old mother, not only contributes money, but even creates a high-quality pension environment for his mother, preferring to eat poorly and let his mother eat well.
For this kind of behavior, many people are particularly puzzled, why do they not get better? Why should we focus on our elderly parents?
This middle-aged man said a word, to be able to take care of his parents and accompany them, which is a blessing.
There is another case.
A 27-year-old young man resigned directly and went home to lie flat because his work was not smooth and his feelings were not smooth. There was no way, his parents could not persuade him, they could only keep raising him.
After two years, he found another girlfriend, almost to the point of talking about marriage. However, he did not have a penny of savings, so he could only let his parents contribute money, and even help him buy a house with a down payment.
He said that after more than ten or twenty years, my parents' money is my money, so why should I use their money?
03
The above two cases are actually the epitome of reality.
Some people can eat or drink for their parents, while some people can squeeze their parents dry for themselves. This is the gap between people.
This is not a question of which generation, but of perception.
The concept of post-60s and post-70s is actually very simple, we must attach importance to family affection, work hard, and live a good life. You only need to be "pragmatic and industrious".
And their descendants, the concept has become different. In the eyes of future generations, my parents' money is my money, so why should I work so hard? Is it bad to live this life comfortably?
In fact, these two concepts have their own advantages, and they are the embodiment of the brand of the times.
However, if the topic of "filial piety to parents" is discussed, there is no doubt that the concept of the former is the best. The concept of the latter has a feeling of "exquisite self-interest".
Although it is said that people must have a certain "self-interested" idea, if you still pay attention to "self-interest" when facing your parents, this is a bit unreasonable.
In dealing with parents, we must take care of them wholeheartedly. You know, financial benefits are just external objects, and parents are the two most important people in our lives.
04
There is a saying on the Internet that the post-60s and post-70s are the generation abandoned by their children, and the last generation to be filial to their parents.
The reasons often have these 3 points.
Reason one: conceptual problems. As mentioned earlier, because people live in different times, they have different ideas.
When there is a conflict of ideas, the situation of filial piety will appear, and the problem of loneliness and old age will be highlighted.
Reason two: material problems. Today's infighting is so severe that young people can't even afford to support themselves, let alone their parents and the whole family.
In the case of extreme inward rolling and no way out, young people can only go home to "nibble on the old" and seek the protection of their parents. However, parents also have the day of aging. If young people adhere to the Buddhist concept, then the parents' old age is at risk.
Reason three: the generation gap problem. The contradiction between middle-aged and elderly people and young people is ultimately difficult to reconcile. In the case of "filial piety," when young people can't support their parents, they change their minds.
More importantly, the parent-child conflict will only become more serious with the development of material society. Among them, the inner volume and internal friction are even more indispensable.
It can be said that the problems of the post-60s and post-70s in their later years, as well as the contradictions of their children's filial piety, are related to the general environment and concepts. Everything is particularly complicated.
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