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I have a better college male classmate (really just the kind of relationship that is a good brother).
Because this boy and I both stayed in the university city and did not return to our hometown, we would get together every New Year's Festival.
Of course, the party was not just me and him, there were a few other classmates who stayed behind.
Four or five years after graduation, everyone has been getting married and having children one after another, but the friendship has not diminished.
When my male classmate fell in love, he introduced his girlfriend to us, and we all participated in the marriage and children.
His wife was also familiar with a few of us, and when they quarreled, his wife would call me to complain.
I basically helped her and complained about my classmates.
However, my classmates are really... Not on the road, it seems that cheating was discovered by his wife...
Of course, when I asked him, he insisted that he didn't, and said that his wife thought too much.
He asked me to help him lie and pretend, and he didn't come home for one night last Saturday, telling me that it was too late to drink and sing with the guests that night, so he didn't come home.
His wife was so disgusted that he had nothing to drink and sing, so he lied to his wife that day, saying that he had come out to dinner with us.
His wife also called me, and I was very embarrassed but afraid of destroying their marriage, so I helped my classmates to lie.
Afterwards, I thought about communicating with my husband, and he said that he mainly felt that he should not take care of other people's business, but asked him what to do, he did not know what to do, or did not know how to refuse to help.
Later, I gently told my classmates that next time this kind of thing should not look for me, he said that it would not be, and said that fortunately I saved him this time.
The purpose of the submission is to ask everyone, if you encounter this kind of thing in the future, what should you do? Want to tell the truth to the person who was cheated on?
Classmates also said that in general, this kind of help, brothers will help, otherwise it will destroy other people's families.
What do you think?
-02-
This kind of thing is simply rejected! The affairs of the two couples are not mixed, and the province is finally found to conceal the fact that they are not people inside and outside.
People who can betray marriage, the friendship of the buddies will also betray, but now as a friend, there is still a value for him to use, and you must stay away from those unreliable people in life.
Your classmates have pushed you directly to the highest point of morality, if you don't help, you will destroy other people's families, and if you help, you will maintain a superficial peace. There is danger with such friends.
If you tell the truth and wait until two people reconcile, you are the communicator who destroys other people's families and is not flattering at both ends, if you help your friend lie, you think about it and think about what it feels like? The main thing is to stay away from this male friend.
It is his own actions that destroy other people's families, not other people's refusal to lie.
Whether he is really cheating or socializing, his wife's conflict with him is because of him, not because of you.
If he does cheat, what face does a betrayer have to accuse an honest friend of ruining his family? If he is socializing, knowing that his wife does not like to do it behind his wife's back, is it not unpleasant to make trouble?
This kind of help can't help. But with this, it can be summarized:
First, this "good brother" character is worrying, if you really worry about divorce, you can go through normal procedures, cheating 0 times and countless times, once or twice did not find, it is a fluke, often walk by the river, where there are not wet shoes.
Second, you told your husband about this matter, that is, you acquiesced in helping your "good brother", you asked your husband's opinion, and you asked him if he had any solutions, thinking that this was inappropriate, somewhat like a mine.
Third, since the help has been acquiesced. It should not be mentioned again and again, one more person knows, one more danger. Otherwise, your brother can't do it, and your brother's marriage is also dangerous.
It is best to persuade your classmates to cherish the current family, not to cling to it, and finally his wife is separated, and what destroys his family is always his disloyal behavior, which has nothing to do with others. If the oil and salt do not enter, it can only mean that your classmate not only has a problem with his character but also dies and does not repent, but also helps him to lie, a ghost lie. You think about it, you are also a woman, and your husband has done the same to you, and let his good brother help him lie, how do you feel. I feel that I can't say this anymore, and I will be scared to think clearly on your own.