I was bullied, but I couldn't resist immediately, I felt weak, what should I do?

You are not weak, you just have weaknesses.

Your weakness is not good at expressing it, but that doesn't mean you're a weak person.

Weak people do not refer to people with weaknesses, nor to people who cannot overcome weaknesses, but to people who are defeated by their own weaknesses.

What is defeated by weakness?

Is you not good at words OK, introverted OK, slow response OK, bad temper OK, after a lot of outstanding efforts or not much improvement this is OK. But, therefore, I think that I am a loser, worthless, and look down on myself for giving up on my efforts, which is not OK! It's called being defeated by weakness.

Your "weaknesses" are not you, they are your attributes, but no attribute can represent you alone.

Your "attributes" determine your "experience", which is actually the meaning of the existence of "weaknesses". The quality of "experience" is not in what attributes you have, but in how you perceive and use them well.

You can dislike an attribute that has brought you unpleasant experiences and is therefore seen as a "weakness", but you cannot deny the meaning of its existence.

For example, stuttering brings a strong sense of inconvenience, embarrassment and even humiliation to most people, right? But had it not been for severe stuttering, would George VI's speech in World War II have been as moving as we hear today?

So what is the "weakness"? It, like the "merits," is relative, temporary, something that can be changed by narrative.

They serve the soul, which is eternal and immortal.

Human attributes are relative and temporary; while "man" is absolute and eternal, please do not define eternal existence by temporary things.

If "weakness" is used well, it can completely create people. If it is not used well, even "advantages" can destroy people.

So what does it mean to "use it well"?

Intuitively, it's about seeing if it makes a person "stronger."

Man is strong not to see who wins the argument, who knocks whom to the ground, who has the upper hand for a while. Rather, it depends on the "vitality" – who is more durable, who is more flexible, who is more able to withstand the devastation of the environment and not easily damaged.

And this kind of strong, "weak" people are more likely to get.

Because they are "weak", they need to learn the way of survival. They are good at observing the color of words and being cautious. I learned how to adjust the atmosphere very early on, and I am also very sensitive to know how to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. They are not so stubborn in the face of the law, and their bodies are softer. They crave love, they crave intimacy. In order to maintain a relationship, they do not hesitate to wronged themselves and please each other, because they know that they are weak and weak, and they need companions, many, many companions.

To tell the truth, in this world, the survival of the "weak" is the king.

Because man's strength is fundamentally an illusion, and man's weakness is the truth.

At a certain point in life, sooner or later, people will encounter obstacles that cannot go on, innings that cannot be turned out, experience disillusionment and disappointment, and face parting and life and death.

These are actually old friends of the "weak". They can survive these "darkest moments" in life, and those "strong" who have always been smooth sailing and calling the wind and rain are easy to collapse.

Therefore, for people who feel "weak", the life experience experience experienced in "weakness" is very precious, do not easily discard it, and do not despise yourself because of these experiences.

What you have to do is not to give up on yourself because your skills are inferior, but to find another way and use your strengths and avoid your weaknesses.

I just can't do this, then I have to find out how to live well and happily in "people who can't do this aspect".

But what are many people? The more I lack this, the more I want this; the more I can't do this, the more I have to develop in this area. The more you compete with yourself, the deeper your obsession.

Have you ever had this experience? It is where it hurts, obviously it hurts when it moves, and I want to move it, as if I can move it a few times without pain, and the wound miraculously does not exist.

Unfortunately, this miracle does not exist in itself.

Do you know who this one is below?

Gillian Lynne

Her name is Gillian Lynne, Britain's most famous ballet queen, who only passed away in 2018.

When she was a child, she was a child who could never sit still, could not concentrate, did not perform well in school, and was regarded as a freak by teachers and classmates. Her mother had to take her to the doctor. It was the 30s of the last century, 10 years before the "discovery" of "autism".

The doctor didn't make any diagnosis for Gillian, just turned on the radio and let her mother watch outside. Her mother saw a girl dancing to the music. The doctor told the mother that there was nothing wrong with the child, that she was just a natural dancer.

The thing is like this, because of the lack of a certain aspect, people who are inferior and self-pitying, who give up on themselves, are looking in the wrong direction to solve the problem, and they are comparing their weakest horses with the strongest horses of others.

You have to admit that some people are just not good at expressing themselves, that is, clumsy and stupid. This is very normal, as if some people can't sit still when they are too active, some people have poor logical thinking ability, and some people have weak spatial imagination ability, which is the difference between people. Each person has its own strengths, each person also has its own shortcomings, you take your own shortcomings every day compared with others, can you not pity yourself?

No one is perfect, and only by taking advantage of their strengths and avoiding their weaknesses can they be content and not humiliated.

So how do people with weak language and expression skills survive? Is it destined to be ravaged and crushed by people with sharp teeth?

Of course not.

Not everything in this world depends on one mouth.

Since the ability to express is weak, it is necessary to avoid the dispute between words and words as much as possible, and avoid entering the environment where debate is needed.

For example, in choosing a major, don't choose those majors that require high expression. You can choose some practical, scientific or technical work.

And in choosing friends and objects to associate with, pay special attention to whether he often uses verbal advantages to oppress you, or will he listen patiently to help you express clearly?

You have to find areas where you are good at. Art, writing, handmade, programming code, analyzing data... There are too many survival techniques that don't require verbal expression. When you become an expert in your field of expertise, you don't need to say it at all, someone will say it for you.

You can't say clearly, someone makes up for you, you say wrong, someone rounds for you, you don't say it, someone will help you to say it. If you can become a master in a field, I don't know how many disciples are eager to pass on the teacher's words.

In short, there are too many people in this world who are silent and shy of words. This kind of person has his own life experience and way of survival.

What you're looking for is not to turn yourself into a sharp-toothed person. Of course, there is nothing wrong with doing some further training in this regard, but the most important thing is that you have to find a way to live a healthy and happy life, even if you can't have sharp teeth.