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Tutoring determines the child's appearance, and the door style determines the child's upbringing!
China has always attached great importance to tutoring and door style, and the reason why those famous and prestigious families in history have cultivated countless great figures has benefited from this.
In most families today, children can be described as "high authority".
The whole family revolves around a little guy, the child plays the role of being loved all the time, and any parent will try to satisfy them.
Over time, many children take things for granted from their parents, so that they only know how to take, do not know how to reciprocate, and do not think about caring for others and appreciating others.
Parents always want to give their children the best thing, the best thing to know is good upbringing and excellent character, and having a grateful heart will also benefit him a lot...
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Children know how to be grateful, and only then will they be happy!
Once a wealthy old overseas Chinese wanted to sponsor some students in poor areas after returning to China, so with the help of the relevant departments, he found the contact information and addresses of some children who received donation needs, and each of them sent a book and some pens and marked their phone numbers, contact addresses and mailboxes with the book.
The family and friends of the old overseas Chinese do not understand the old man's approach: why do you have to leave contact information when you send a book? In the midst of confusion and doubt, the old man seemed to be anxiously waiting for something, or standing by the phone, or going to the letter box at the door several times a day, or opening his mailbox on the Internet.
Until one day, finally a child who received a book sent a congratulatory card to the old man (and the only child who contacted the old man), the old man was very happy, and on the same day, he sent the first considerable financial aid to the child, and resolutely gave up the financial support for those students who had no feedback.
At this time, the family understood that the old man was using his unique way to interpret the truth that "people who do not know how to be grateful are not worthy of funding".
People must know how to be grateful to be happy. Parents create children and provide for their children with the hard-earned money earned, and every step of the child's growth condenses the parents' painstaking efforts...
It is important to teach children to be grateful and respectful of others. If the parents blindly dote on it, the child does not know how to reciprocate, even if he goes to society, he will encounter a wall, and may even be lawless.
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Teaching children to know how to be grateful is one of the responsibilities of parents!
The object of gratitude of children is nothing more than the parents with the deepest affection, if there is no cultivation of children's grateful hearts... Writing this, I think of Wang Jiajing, an international student who killed her mother at the airport a few years ago.
He stayed in Japan for five years, never worked, and his tuition and living expenses were covered by his mother's monthly income of 7,000 yuan. His mother couldn't really come up with money for borrowing money everywhere, and he actually stabbed his mother at the airport 9 times.
Young people at the age of 25 should be self-reliant, working on their own to cover (or partially solve) the cost of studying abroad. But he was at ease to enjoy the greenhouse life provided by his mother with hard work, and when his mother could not come up with money, he did not recite his kindness, and the resentment turned into 9 knives.
This case has alerted all parents: children who do not understand gratitude are more terrible than wolves! Teach children how important it is to be responsible and grateful!
When children receive much more love than they need, parents lose the function of education. These families have been obedient to their children since childhood for various reasons, and without any constraints, they have no ability to change the status quo, and parents have no prestige in the eyes of these children, and the educational effect can be imagined.
Some children take endlessly from their parents, and once the small needs are not met, they do not forgive. There are also some college students, going to college for a few years, to spend more than 100,000 yuan on their families, parents save money, and some parents do not hesitate to borrow.
However, many students buy high-end clothing, mobile phones, designer shoes and socks, computers, etc. Some college students spend high-priced rental apartments to live in Internet cafes, restaurants, and spend their parents' money, as if it is a matter of course to ask their parents for money, even if they are working, many young people are at ease to rely on their parents to live.
In fact, if they don't let their children taste hunger, they don't know the value of food; if they don't let children taste the cold, they don't know the warmth; if they don't let children taste frustration, they don't know the difficulty of success.
Too much care by parents for their children is actually depriving them of the opportunity to experience negative experiences. They can only find sweetness through bitterness.
A child who knows how to be grateful, he will appreciate what others have done for him, cherish everything he has received, and feel that it is both happy and happy to have everything in front of him.
We as parents should remember: if you do not want to raise your child to become a "white-eyed wolf", then do not do too much for your child, do not promote your child's sense of unashamed feelings, and teach your child to know how to be grateful.
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Instead of the whole family walking around the child, it is better to accompany them with high quality!
In daily life, parents should always create conditions to inspire children to learn to face their own efforts with gratitude and gratitude, so that children start with grateful parents, such as letting children know that their parents should say thank you after doing things for themselves, etc. Through this small thing, small emotions, let children become familiar with this state of gratitude, and finally know how to express their gratitude.
Gratitude is the nourishment for spiritual growth. Through gratitude education, children know that everyone is enjoying the happiness brought to them by the efforts of others. When children feel the good deeds of others, they think that they should do the same in the future, which gives children a hint of behavior, so that they know from an early age to love others and help others.
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