"This time I'm alone again."
This sentence was sent to me by my friend Ahao some time ago on New Year's Eve.
Although he has a boyfriend, he is always left at home alone every holiday.
I jokingly replied to him,
"Talking about 'heterogeneous love' is really miserable."
Ahao has long been accustomed to celebrating alone.
In the more than a year with her boyfriend Carl, whether it is Valentine's Day at the beginning of the year or Christmas at the end of the year, he has lived alone.
This is because, Carl's profession, is a luxury cabinet brother.
The job means his time will become uncertain.
Carl used to work for two weeks straight, and when everyone was resting on holidays, it was when he was busiest. Sometimes when the work is done, it is already 5 a.m.
Although Ah Hao will also ridicule himself and fall in love with the cabinet brother, he must be aware of staying behind.
But when a person celebrates the holidays, he will still have a little regret.
Regret is nothing more than some fleeting emotional fragments.
Valentine's Day bought a very sweet roasted sweet potato, if he is there, you can eat it for two people;
Christmas set up a Christmas tree, if he is there, he will volunteer to hang a string of lights...
Compared with long-distance relationships, the regret of heterogeneous love comes from the fact that they obviously live in the same country and the same city, but they are often not in the same "time zone".
Their time, like the hour and minute hands.
After a brief meeting, they went forward again.
This reminds me of a concept that my friend's dish mentioned, "jet lag in love."
That's how she explained it.
"In fact, everyone lives in their own time zone. Even two people who are in love have difficulty crossing their respective time zones, and then there is a time difference in love. ”
I didn't understand it too well, so let her speak human language.
She joked that her boyfriend was nothing more than a cross-time zone roommate who lived under the same roof. Although they live together, the boyfriend's schedule is to go to work at 8 a.m., get sleepy at 10 p.m., and take weekends off;
The dish does not get up until 10 o'clock in the morning, leaves work at 9 o'clock in the evening, and has a single weekend off.
Only in the few hours they sleep at night are lovers.
"Then you will go to work and contact your feelings with pay."
I witty suggest.
The dish glanced at me whitely, "Work is enough for me to be busy, where is the time to chat." ”
"So what do you do?"
Cai Cai smiled and said, "In fact, we are all close to each other's time." ”
Get up in the morning, although the boyfriend has long been out, but there is still breakfast on the table that he has prepared;
After work in the evening, the dishes will also hurry up to finish their work and squeeze out time to go home early.
In love across time zones, only two people can try their best to shorten the time difference.
Maybe in every relationship, there is a jet lag.
One party falls asleep at 10 o'clock and the other party falls asleep at 1 o'clock, which is a time difference of 3 hours;
One side is in Shanghai and the other is in New York, which is a time difference of 12 hours;
One side to study, the other to earn a living, is difficult to quantify the time difference in life.
The time difference is much, and it is a little more lost.
What constitutes loss is nothing more than the swallowed desire to share, the cooling emotion, and the countless stranded thoughts.
So we are in love, paying attention to "synchronization".
Synchronized in time, synchronized in geography, synchronized in hobbies, synchronized in concepts... In order for our love, can be synchronized.
However, life is impermanent, and everything can be synchronized.
Writing this, I remember Aho telling me:
On New Year's Eve, their dating schedule is to take a taxi home together.
Sitting in the back seat of the taxi, he remembered a lyric he had heard before, "In the silence of the night, redeem you again."
At that moment, he felt precious.
I think it is precisely because two people have a jet lag because of their lives that the time to meet and fall in love is more precious.
Is it a problem that time, region, hobbies, and concepts are not synchronized?
Not loving is.
We love each other
It's the result of each other's efforts
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