After paying attention to Liu Xuezhou's family search for a long time, he did not expect to finally usher in such a sad ending. On January 24, the emergency department of Sanya 301 Hospital leaked out news: Liu Xuezhou had taken dozens of antidepressant drugs, his vital signs were unstable, and he had no spontaneous breathing and pulse. The doctor tried his best to rescue him, but his life came to an abrupt end at the age of 16.
The image originates from the internet
From the photos, it seems that the boy is smiling and confident, and often interacts with netizens humorously under his weibo. But in real life, he is not a "sunny" boy, 16 years old life, suffered too much misfortune.
"Loved the sea because I felt it could hold a lot of sounds. I've had enough of human suffering. ”
This is a fragment he left in his suicide note, and the words are weeping blood.
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The unbearable original family, disappointed to denounce
A while ago, Liu Xuezhou, a boy from Xingtai, Hebei Province, released a video to find relatives. At that time, he was a sophomore in Shijiazhuang, and his adoptive parents died unexpectedly when he was 4 years old, and he has been living with his grandmother and uncles.
On December 15, 2021, police in Linfen, Shanxi Province, found his biological father through DNA. Just a dozen days ago, Liu Xuezhou had just completed his recognition with his biological parents.
I thought that this tragedy of more than ten years of separation of parents and children would come to a successful end. Unexpectedly, this turned out to be a fatal opening in the tragedy.
After Liu Xuezhou searched for relatives, he found that he had been voluntarily abandoned. His biological parents had a complicated relationship, and fengzi married. In order to be together, his father sold him in exchange for a dowry of six thousand yuan before marrying his birth mother.
To put it another way, biological parents are human traffickers. And Liu Xuezhou has to face not only such a chilling fact, but also has to fight and pull with his original family. The birth mother blacklisted Liu Xuezhou shortly after recognizing her relatives, and Liu Xuezhou himself was also attacked by netizens.
Every day when he opened his eyes, he had to find a way to fight for his rights, and even had to make the decision to sue his biological parents for abandoning him.
A poor original family, whether it is the impact of living together from childhood, or the return after many years of separation like Liu Xuezhou, will bring huge consumption to the child's life. Liu Xuezhou has grown up for more than ten years, has experienced the absence of his parents, and when he finally can find his close relatives one day, he will be stabbed several times in succession.
Thinking of sun haiyang's search for a son before, it also happened in December 2021. Just two families with similar fates, with diametrically opposite endings. In order to find the child, Sun Haiyang never gave up a glimmer of hope. After the child was found, he respected the child's decision and gave Sun Zhuo enough time to make adjustments. On his side, although he will not forgive the family of his adoptive parents who bought Sun Zhuo, he will do his best to prepare for Sun Zhuo's transfer and transfer.
A native family with love brings warm help to the child. On the other hand, Liu Xuezhou's biological family not only blamed his tragic life on his adoptive parents, but also ruthlessly refused Liu Xuezhou's request for help that he wanted to live together. Moreover, his father sneered at Liu Xuezhou, calling him a "network beggar."
Liu Xuezhou could obviously grow up safely, but he tasted many pains given by fate. As he said, his life was disrupted by his biological parents.
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There is no one to hold an umbrella, and they can only run hard
Liu Xuezhou's life can be described as dilapidated. When he was 4 years old, his adoptive parents died accidentally in an explosion at a fireworks factory. There is no fixed place, under the fence, he always strives to grow upwards.
On his walls, there are large and small awards and certificates. This is what he spelled out in the dark, one by one. At the same age, other children receive these honors, and parents are proud and celebrate him. Liu Xuezhou did not, his every step of the glow was for himself not to be swallowed up by the darkness.
He has experienced bullying in school and has also been sexually assaulted. I've been depressed for years, and I have to work hard to maintain the surface sunlight. It can be seen that although no one is holding an umbrella for Liu Xuezhou, he always wants to use all his strength to live well.
It was only this blow from his biological parents that made him completely stop thinking. Fu Jiantao's mother, who also found a long-lost child last year, left a message under Liu Xuezhou's comments to comfort and encourage him. Even strangers can help him, why should his biological parents abandon him twice!
At the age of only 16, Liu Xuezhou has been forced to stand against his biological parents and fight for his rights and interests. Not only that, but he also had to respond to the voice of the Internet violence, and he was tired of boiling up and fighting every day.
Sometimes we do underestimate the tenacity of a child, and Liu Xuezhou's posture of protecting himself is really painful. Children who understand things too early have too much on their backs. After all, if you run in the rain for too long, people will naturally fall to the ground.
We have written before about the same genius photographer Lu Dawson, who also committed suicide and died, he is also a child who understands things prematurely: endures the violence of his father, the quarrels of the family, the bullying of the school, and is always responsible for the embarrassment of the family...
I remembered the words left by Lu Dawson at that time: "How much does a person have to go through in his life to see the sun?" "Perhaps from these two tragedies, we can at least reach a simple consensus: don't let children, at an inappropriate age, be forced to learn to carry everything on their own."
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Life education cannot be postponed
The Beijing Medical Center for Child Development once released data showing that about 100,000 teenagers in China die by suicide every year. Counting down, about 2 people die by suicide every minute, and there are 8 suicide attempts.
Of the age distribution of suicides, 12 years accounted for 40.3%, 14 years accounted for 22.7%, and 11 and 13 years old accounted for 13.6%. This data is really appalling, and it is undeniable that many children have been in a state of mental suffocation.
Some of them are premature and sensible, some are repressed by the family environment for a long time, and some are suffering from bullying or sexual assault on campus. Every child who wishes to solve a problem by ending his life is killing himself.
In the Golden Horse Award film "Sunshine", there is a child who lives in the sun for 24 hours. The eldest son, Ahao, is excellent and sensible, and has always been recognized by his parents. And Ah Hao has a "problem teenager" younger brother, who often needs to bother to help his brother "wipe his ass".
The younger brother said: "My brother is really a very good person, imagining everything for everyone, but in fact, none of us really know what he is thinking in his heart." ”
Finally one day, Ah Hao found a sunny day and jumped down from a tall building. In his newsletter, he wrote: "I also want to imagine that like these animals, there are some shadows to hide. ”
It turned out that although Ahao had always been "perfect", he had endured too much, and the psychological defense line had finally collapsed. He knows the solution to many problems, but he doesn't know how to solve his own problems.
In order to reduce similar tragedies, parents really need to pay attention to the psychological education of their children. At the very least, we should let our children have such a consciousness: there are many ways and channels to solve the current problems, and light life is the most undesirable and most unhelpful one.
Not only that, parents should also carry out life education with their children as soon as possible, so that children have a reverence for life in the depths of their hearts. Zhou Guoping wrote in the book "The Distance of Watching": "Life cannot be overcome, it is a temporary gift that luckily falls into our hands, sooner or later, we must return it." ”
The value of life is not in the current success or failure, it is more about the experience of walking in person. If we are unfortunate to face the original family of "kissing you with pain", we do not necessarily have to repay it with songs, but we must learn to reconcile with ourselves.
As children, we need to know that growing up is often accompanied by pain, but it also brings us a rich treasure. As a parent, I hope that you can respect and love your child within your ability and do a good job in the stable rear of your child.
May every life have its own color. I also hope that tragedies such as Liu Xuezhou and Lu Dawson will not happen again.