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Even if there is truth in this world, you must live a very glorious life. This is not a kind of snobbery, but to give yourself the strength to protect yourself.
There must be true love in this world, and love is not just a fairy tale. Regarding love, we should not be too illusory, and we should not be excessively demeaning.
For love, excessive dreaming and excessive reality are only a one-sided extreme.
There must be true love in this world, there must be someone who is willing to give everything for love, and naturally there are people who will use love to gain private interests.
Excessive illusory love will only make itself a "love brain", and it is easy to be hurt in love. Excessive sobriety, forceful interpretation of love, doomed to meet the loved one.
Cai Cai is a woman who over-glorifies love, she believes in the beauty of love so deeply that when she is in love with her boyfriend, she will completely forget herself for the sake of the other party.
In order to be able to be with her boyfriend, she gave up her years of designer dreams. In order to allow her boyfriend to continue her education, she gave up her decision to go to graduate school and started working for her boyfriend.
Friends around them all advise Cai Cai not to be so "love brain", but Cai Cai uses everyone's pursuit is different as an excuse to refute the good words of friends.
Cai Cai feels that as long as she is infinitely good to her boyfriend, she can harvest her boyfriend's infinite love, and even she feels that as long as her boyfriend is doing well, she should also reap the maximum happiness.
The ideal is very rich, the reality is very bone. The perfect love in Cai Cai's eyes eventually failed to reality, and she thought she could accompany her to the old man who took the initiative to break up with her.
Cai Cai spent her own beautiful future, time, and money on this man, but only in exchange for the man's last sentence: Our gap is really too big, we can't be together, the money I owe you I will hit your bank card...
7 years of feelings were in vain, and I thought I could have a lifetime of affection, but I finally lost to the word "gap".
The sudden breakup left Cai Cai deeply confused, and she didn't know what the point of losing the life of this beloved man was.
Confusion was followed by deep fear, and with no direction to the goal, she did not know for a while where the road ahead was.
It turns out that when love is gone, we can understand how much panic it is to lose even ourselves.
Women don't overestimate a man's love too much. No matter how much you love a man, don't forget this one "character".
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Not every man can love you affectionately and responsibly until you are old. The thing about love is not something that can be gained by paying a point.
No one can be 100% sure that the man we love can accompany us to old age, because there are too many distractions in the outside world, and even many times the plan will not catch up with the changes.
You can have confidence in love, but you can't be extremely confident. Because being too confident will eventually make you lose yourself or lose each other.
No matter how much you love a man, make sure you have the confidence and confidence to leave at any time.
Only in this way can you still have the courage to start from scratch when the other party leaves you, and will not fall into deep regret after the loss of love.
Loving yourself will never lose love, and anyone can leave, except yourself.
Life is a journey that is gradually drifting away, it is a process of continuous separation and reunion, and only you are the only one who accompanies you through this road.
So, when you fall in love with someone, don't easily give up what you expect and happiness for the sake of the other person.
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The reason why a woman can shine and be attractive enough to men is that she maintains her own characteristics.
Her strength, her confidence, her drive to her dreams, will become a charm in her personality.
If a woman loses these things, she becomes dull and featureless.
In the movie "Return to Seventeen", the heroine was originally a woman with a personality and vitality, so men will be deeply infatuated with her.
Only then did she change, became no longer proud of herself, and became a person who only threw herself at men.
For the sake of men, she gave up her own design dreams.
A woman without herself, like a star that has lost its radiance, becomes dull and dull.
When a woman doesn't have herself, her mind will only remain with the man. Women think that this kind of selfless effort can get the same love from men, but they do not know that men love the woman's energetic soul.
Later, although the heroine is still with the man, the man does not love the woman so much, so he will be indifferent to the woman's marriage proposal, and even feel bored with the woman.
It is not until the heroine returns to the "soul" of the 17-year-old that the man's heart is touched again.
If you have lost even yourself, even ignored yourself, then which man is willing to love you again.
No matter who you love, loving yourself must be the foundation of your love for someone.
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Many times, love really needs to be paid, and it needs the "fulfillment" of one party. Loving someone can be humble, but pay attention to the degree and remember that "yourself" is the bottom line.
Keep your pride and not lose your self-esteem and all your luster in a relationship.
Losing a person is not terrible, the most terrible thing is to lose a person, find yourself lose the glory of the past, and then inexplicably sadness and loneliness.
This kind of sad loneliness is not because there is no one around, but there is no one who was once proud and happy.
Women should not overestimate a man's love or underestimate their own importance.
"Self" will always be the basis for us to deal with people and face life, without this role, all the happiness we get is just a kind of nothingness.
The reason for "nothingness" is that once you lose, you will find yourself suddenly losing all hope.
Loving oneself is not a kind of selfishness, but a kind of highly intelligent way of dealing with people. Because you know how to love yourself, you can better love others, give others the freedom and nutrients they need, and will not forget to pay and consume a lot of energy, and give each other a deep bondage.
May we have love in our hearts, illuminate ourselves, and be able to illuminate others, and have the courage and confidence to face the victories or failures that may occur in love.
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I am Hexu, a creator of the emotional field of warmth and happiness in the heart, writing emotional texts and warming the heart with words. I hope my words can help you, thank you for reading, and deeply wish you peace and joy!