For the parents, it will be easier to wait until the children go to kindergarten, and the mothers can also take time out to work, instead of staying at home all day with their babies.
But after the child goes to kindergarten, in fact, he will face many problems, especially those children who have just entered kindergarten, they do not know how to express themselves completely, even if what happens, they do not know how to talk to their parents when they return home. For some children who are not good at playing with their parents, it is even less so.
01 Children are excluded from kindergarten, but teachers turn a blind eye
Xiao Chen's daughter is 3 years old this year, because the age of three has reached the standard of being able to enter the kindergarten, so Xiao Chen sent her daughter to kindergarten in order to let the child contact the same age earlier, and also for himself to go to work early.
At the beginning, the daughter was still very excited, every day on time to get up, waiting for Xiao Chen to send her to the kindergarten, but not yet a month, the daughter's enthusiasm was reduced a lot, every day mentioned kindergarten, the light in the eyes was gone, at that time Xiao Chen also thought that the daughter had lost her freshness to the kindergarten, and did not think much. In her opinion, it is normal for children not to like to go to school, and most children have three minutes of heat.
But after that, Xiao Chen found that there was something vaguely wrong, every time she went to pick up her daughter, the teacher would take the children in her class to wait for the parents, among the children, there were several small teams, and each small team had several children playing together, except for her daughter herself, and almost every time.
Xiao Chen also deliberately asked her daughter on the way home and guided her daughter to make some answers, but her daughter's personality is not a narrative type, just like a stuffy gourd. Usually this situation is a manifestation of unhappiness, which also makes Xiao Chen feel that something must have happened to the child in the kindergarten.
Later, after secretly observing, Xiao Chen found that his daughter was really excluded, and every time every time everyone played a game together, no one was willing to be in a group with his daughter, and what Xiao Chen could not accept most was that the teacher actually acquiesced to this arrangement, which is not a kind of "turning a blind eye"!
So Xiao Chen directly found the teacher, reacted to the situation, the teacher said that he was also helpless, because Xiao Chen's daughter's personality could not be compatible with other children, many times have quarreled, so it led to poor popularity in the class, arranged for her in other groups, several other children are not happy, and even cry, so they can only grievance Xiao Chen's daughter.
Xiao Chen still could not accept this explanation, and went to the head of the kindergarten, who criticized the teacher at the first time and promised to transfer her daughter to another class, which made Xiao Chen feel better. After that, her daughter's state slowly improved, which shows that the child's personality and growth environment still have a lot to do with it.
02 The new type of "group cold violence" in kindergartens is prevalent, and parents are completely unaware
Many children have suffered cold violence in kindergartens, and don't underestimate the current children, even if they are very young, they also know that "gangs and factions", a sentence of "we will not play with her in the future", it is easy to let other children take sides, especially when the child's cognitive system is not yet sound, it is more likely to occur this situation.
If you look closely at the children in the kindergarten now, you will also find that there are many small groups, but many parents have not paid attention to this phenomenon. In response to this phenomenon, some teachers will choose to "turn a blind eye" because they believe that as long as there is no big problem, the children can not quarrel and do not fight, so that their work will be relatively easy.
This is also why it is recommended that parents choose kindergartens for their children, it is best to understand the qualifications of teachers and professional ethics, abilities and other aspects, because many private kindergartens in order to reduce costs, the teachers they choose may be immature secondary school students, how can teachers with this threshold be able to bring good children?
In addition, parents should also pay more attention to the child's state in normal times to see if the child's mood has undergone a significant change, such as obviously becoming less talkative after returning home, or always being very aggrieved. Usually, if the child has these manifestations, it is more or less indicative of what happened in the kindergarten. At the same time, parents can also communicate with teachers to understand the situation of children in kindergartens, on the one hand, teachers can pay more attention to children, on the other hand, they can also better understand the dynamics of children in kindergartens.
Of course, more importantly, parents should also guide their children more, do not cultivate their children into annoying personalities, such as selfishness, domineering, bad temper, like to beat people and scold people, etc., such children are often easily rejected in kindergartens. Only by educating children well and guiding them to socialize well can we eliminate many problems from the root causes.