The dear prototype Sun Zhuo was finally found, but he chose to live with his adoptive parents, is Sheng En really not as big as Yang En?
The incident of Sun Haiyang and his wife looking for Sun Zhuo has always received attention, and the way for both husband and wife to find their son is also very difficult.
On October 9, 2007, Sun Zhuo was abducted by human traffickers with a toy car in his hometown of Hubei.
On September 25, 2014, the movie "Dear" was released nationwide, based on this one.
Until May 21, 2021, the official reunion plan was launched, and Sun Haiyang and his wife rekindled hope.
On December 6, Sun Haiyang and his son Sun Zhuo's DNA were successfully compared. Sun Haiyang and his son recognized each other and cried with joy, at the same time, the police came forward to arrest the suspect.
Sun Zhuo was abducted, and the blow to his biological parents was huge.
In today's social life, there are many children who, for various reasons, disappeared or were abducted by human traffickers, etc., did not get along with their parents from an early age, resulting in the lack of children's feelings for their parents.
It is often seen online that parents abandon their children because they are born with disabilities. But fortunately, there are often some people who are very kind and willing to take these infants and young children home to raise them when they see them.
However, Sun Zhuo's adoptive parents used improper means to raise Sun Zhuo in their home, and Sun Zhuo's parents also worked tirelessly to find their son for many years.
Finally found a few months ago, Sun Haiyang and his wife were also crying with joy, tears flowing down their faces, and their family hugged together.
At this time, how to compare the two, or that there is no comparison between the two. As far as the Sun Zhuo incident is concerned, Sun Haiyang and his wife have been searching for many years after Sun Zhuo's disappearance, and Sun Zhuo's adoptive parents have used improper means to make Sun Zhuo leave his parents from an early age. Although Sun Haiyang and his wife also cried with joy when Sun Zhuo was finally found, they also filed legal proceedings against Sun Zhuo's adoptive parents.
Officials captured the suspect, Sun Zhuo's so-called "adoptive parents." The reason why Sun Zhuo's matter has attracted attention is because netizens have called for kindness to "adoptive parents". But through the Sun Zhuo incident, should his adoptive parents be "treated kindly"?
Although Sheng En brought them life, but there was no nurturing, and the adoptive parents used improper means to raise Sun Zhuo and let him leave his parents from an early age, where did the favor come from?
In layman's terms, children have no feelings and consciousness before they grow up, and if children leave their parents from an early age, it will cause children to lose their way of getting along with their parents from an early age, and naturally it will also cause the lack of feelings for their parents.
And the adoptive parents? In addition to paying material satisfaction for their children, adoptive parents also give children who have left their parents from an early age some spiritual comfort. In most TV series, the adoptive parents are fierce and very angry, but this is just the plot of the TV series.
However, Yang En should also be discussed on a case-by-case basis.
Nurturing refers to raising your child without complaint between you without any affection, without any use of the purpose, otherwise it will also affect the child's mental health.
Sun Zhuo's adoptive parents adopted him while using improper means. However, it gave him material satisfaction and spiritual companionship, replacing Sun Zhuo's missing feelings and trust for his parents since childhood.
I like a sentence that exploded on the Internet before: Without the suffering of others, do not persuade others to be kind. This sentence really spoke to my heart.
Like the kind of missing child, the heart-wrenching pain that most parents have lost after they lose their children is something we can't feel. They always think a lot, thinking about whether their children have eaten enough, whether they have cooled down today and dressed well, and their worries are always everywhere, but they will never see their children again.
Sun Haiyang and his wife searched for their children endlessly and persisted for so many years without giving up, which is the pain and hardship that we have not experienced. The hatred of the child's biological parents for the traffickers and the remorse for their bad children have become the pain of Sun Haiyang's husband and wife for a lifetime.
Of course, parents hope that their children will feel the hurt, grievances and regrets of their parents from the perspective of their parents, and parents should also think from the perspective of their children, and do not blindly consider their own emotions and ignore their children's feelings.
Both birth and nurturing are great endees. Nurturing grace is to raise the child to adulthood, and has paid a lot of effort to this child, which is called raising grace. Children should be grateful to their adoptive parents for their love and cultivation over the years, which has created today's self.
Moreover, as a mainstream value, the law holds that even if it is not your biological parents who have raised you, you have the obligation to support him, but the biological parents are not obliged to raise you, which is also saying that the maintenance is greater than the birth grace.
However, Sun Zhuo's adoptive parents used improper means to violate the law, but his adoptive parents also cherished Sun Zhuo's feelings.
Parents have given us life, of course, a great gift, only parents through the process of cultivation can experience this feeling. The disappearance of the child is a torture for them, but it also has an invisibly impact on the child's psyche. Children will think in their hearts that they are different from other children. And the care of their adoptive parents for them made them dependent, and emotions were formed over time.
Sun Haiyang and his wife also searched for many years to find their son, which shows that they love Sun Zhuo very much.
But the child's feelings are simple, and if you are good to him, he will reciprocate to you. Children's feelings are too pure, and their feelings for their parents from an early age have limitations. As a result, many children do not know how to get along with their parents after being found by their parents.
Birth is grace, nurturing is grace, and the grace of birth and nourishment is greater than everything.
As far as I am concerned, yang en is greater than sheng en, and most people have never had this experience, but through this incident of Sun Zhuo, I also have a new thinking about this matter. Most people in society are concerned about Sun Zhuo's attitude towards his adoptive parents in the end, but Sun Zhuo's adoptive parents' feelings for Sun Zhuo are not sincere.
Although Sun Haiyang and his wife lacked affection for Sun Zhuo, the child did not have dependence on and concern for his parents. Although Sun Zhuo's adoptive parents achieved Sun Zhuo, they always used improper means and violated the provisions of the law.
Sun Zhuo finally chose to live with his parents, and most people debated the matter. When Sun Zhuo's parents found him, they hoped that Sun Zhuo would be able to return to Shenzhen with them and show respect for your choice.
In the end, Sun Zhuo chose to live with his parents. I think Sun Zhuo chose to live with his parents because of the blood relationship with his adoptive parents. Sun Zhuo and his parents have been separated since childhood, and do not know how to get along with them, in addition, Sun Zhuo and his parents have long lacked the opportunity to communicate and develop feelings, and their dependence on their parents is far better than imagined.
Although Sun Zhuo grew up under the care of his adoptive parents, it is also because of Sun Zhuo's adoptive parents that Sun Zhuo's feelings as his biological parents are lacking.
When Sun Zhuo was young, he was accompanied by his adoptive parents, and it was also his adoptive parents who took good care of him and raised him. But why didn't Sun Zhuo want to go back to his birth parents?
For a child like Sun Zhuo, who has disappeared since childhood, the pain of his biological parents is something we have not experienced, and the tears they shed themselves are also unimaginable to us.
But it is normal for children to grow up without companionship, even if they are not competent parents, and children are not dependent on them. When he was a child, he may have known that he was not born to his adoptive parents, but his adoptive parents still took good care of him, which led to a change in Sun Zhuo's feelings, and his dependence on his parents was transferred to his adoptive parents.
The child's dependence on the parents indirectly expresses the previous emotional communication between the child's parents and the child. Adoptive parents do what a child's parents should do as they grow up. To make up for the lack of feelings for the parents in the process of growing up, this causes the feelings of the child's adoptive parents to be greater than the expression of the parents.
Importantly, the adoptive father's material satisfaction in the child's development process, as well as spiritual compensation, play a vital role in the child's development. But Sun Zhuo's adoptive parents used improper means to do things that violated the law after all, but it was also their care for Sun Zhuo that created him.
Therefore, I think that the grace of life cannot be greater than the grace of nourishment.