Those innate abilities, parents really have to guard for their children, this is their best key to success.
In everyone's impression, all the abilities of children are acquired by education and cultivation. But in fact, there are very few abilities that are innate, and every child has them, and "curiosity" is one of them.
When children are ignorant, they are full of curiosity about everything, exploring and understanding in their own way. Maybe they also caused trouble and made jokes about it, but in the end, these curiosities disappeared out of thin air.
In fact, what really destroys children's curiosity is not them personally, but certain behaviors of parents
The first: the protection is too good
In order to satisfy curiosity, there will naturally be a lot of bumps and bumps, which is something that many parents are not allowed to do. As a result, they "force" children not to be curious, many things are planned in advance, just need to do things in the way designed by adults.
Over time, the child's lazy psychology is forced out, accustomed to dependence, and naturally there is no impulse to be curious. The original intention of parents is to give their children a little more protection and let them be less injured. In the end, it became the culprit that destroyed the child's curiosity.
The second: arbitrary negation
Curiosity and the desire to explore complement each other, and it is precisely because of special curiosity that a series of acts of exploration are made. However, the child's cognition is limited, and many mistakes will be made on the way to exploration, and the result will be ruthlessly denied by the parents. It is not only the negation of the results of the child's exploration, but even the act of exploration is not recognized.
The parents' denial broke the child's self-confidence and made him have a "no matter" mentality. If you don't get approval for whatever you do anyway, don't do it.
The third: scare and blame
There is also a group of parents who occasionally allow their children to be curious, but are extremely harsh on the results. Fear that children will blame them for causing trouble because of their curiosity; worry about their children's safety and health problems, they will speak out to scare.
Try to scare and blame the way to make the child automatically give up the psychology of curiosity and exploration. In interpersonal relationships, such behavior of parents can be called "little smart", but educating children is really not suitable.
Unexpectedly, curiosity was "buried" in the wrong education of parents. Thus drowning out the development of children, making them mediocre and no longer able to rely on their own strength to explore more knowledge.
Why is curiosity the key to success? Some parents feel exaggerated, but this is not the case. Regarding the benefits of curiosity, parents must not have imagined that there were so many.
Children with curiosity, their relationships are good. Because in getting along with people, the child will show a strong curiosity, create a better life mood, he will patiently listen to other people's sharing, and will seriously narrate his own views.
Children with curiosity, they never feel anxiety. In this age of anxiety, curiosity can easily drive away children's anxiety because they will always be able to find what they like and will not be limited by the difficulties and things in front of them. Even if we encounter occasional difficulties, we will actively take measures to deal with them.
Children with curiosity will have a higher happiness index. Even students are under a lot of stress, ranging from boredom to mental health and even doing things that damage their physical health. But if the child has curiosity, then he will not be bothered by these trivial things, but will accept all the challenges in life.
Children with curiosity, their ability to learn is stronger. As the old saying goes: learning is based on interest, and curiosity is because of interest, so children are willing to learn more knowledge. And in learning, children will also gain more self-confidence and independence, which are the extended advantages of curiosity.
Unexpected curiosity will bring so many benefits to children, and the road to success will become smoother. Therefore, parents should learn to protect their children's curiosity, in a way that encourages and affirms, and respects their every behavior. At the same time, we must guide children and make them curious about more things, which is the meaning of education.
In life, it is necessary to open the eyes of the child, take them to travel, to camp, to museums, to all the places he has never touched before. The more you watch, the easier it is for children's curiosity to be aroused, in fact, adults are the same. Usually, it is said that the parent-child relationship is harmonious, and the child who is always wrapped in a harmonious family atmosphere is more likely to be curious.
The most important thing is not to directly deny the child's question, but to take them to find the answer. Many parents do not like the behavior of "small talk", either directly answer no, or directly let the child shut up, such parents need to review.
Curiosity is hidden in the details, waiting for parents to discover, and then to guide and encourage.