What kind of boy is the treasure boy in the eyes of girls? Rich? No! handsome? NO! humorous and funny? NO! So what the hell is that? Pay attention to the examination, not to attract girls, but to impress! If attracting girls is the first step you take to get rid of a single road, then impressing girls is your big trick to harvest love.
After all, girls really want to be with you, always look at your constant personal charm, rarely rely on a momentary heartbeat. So hurry up and take a look, these 4 boy traits that impress girls, do you get it? If you win more than 2, you are not afraid of not being able to take off the single.
There is a sense of ceremony
Boys with a sense of ceremony can directly pass half of the people on the way off the single. What is ritualism? Not to let you flower cake expensive gifts, a festival does not pull to send, and then become the scumbag in the eyes of the fat sheep to be slaughtered. Before falling in love with a girl, you don't need to prepare so many things.
Try to do this, send blessings on time on New Year's Eve, prepare New Year's small items, keychains, small dolls can be, as for other festivals, ditto. It does not cost too much money, nor does it make girls have psychological pressure, but the sense of ceremony is full of points, which is a small romance that girls like, and it is also the intention that girls want to feel. But remember, what you prepare can not be expensive, but you must be careful. After all, the main purpose of this is to make the girl feel that you are a person who loves life, and you are a person who is willing to be careful with her, not a person who searches.
Specifically, please refer to the previous six-year lafite incident, the girl in the sixth anniversary of love sent the boy a high-priced shoes, as well as a box of gifts carefully prepared, and the boy, back to a worn old clothes, as well as supermarket 3 minutes to buy snacks, put a thick layer of lafite grass, can not see a little heart, the final result is bound to be a breakup.
There are irons who do not know all the events may feel that it is not because the delivery is cheap, and it is certainly not the case that is more expensive. But in fact, girls have always known that the boy's family conditions are not good, and they have not had the luxury of having any high-priced gifts, and in order to understand boys in their daily lives, they also say that they like snacks. So it is not a question of how much money to send gifts at all, but where a boy sends a handmade handmade, it will not chill the girl's heart.
Have empathy
In fact, it is to let boys think from the perspective of girls and empathize with girls' feelings. The phrase "drink more hot water" is most often ridiculed, and its essence is to say that most boys lack empathy. Do you like empathetic girls? When you're upset about work, you need a partner who understands you, enlightens you, encourages you, or a partner who tells you, "It's not a big deal, as for it?"
That substitute into the identity of the girl to see, meet a boy who understands her, how can you not be moved? Take a chestnut, and the girl outside, feel the weather is cold, what should you do? Boys without empathy choose to silently zip their coats. So what would an empathetic boy do? Either give the girl the clothes, or take the girl to buy a hot drink, find an indoor place, and warm up.
There is a framework
Taking chat as an example, having a framework means that you have the right to dominate the discourse in your chat with girls. For example, a chestnut, the girl said, I like boys who can cook, can you cook? How will you get back? "Yes, I have a lot of dishes in my hand, I'll make them for you another day." "No, but I can learn for you." In this way, you have fallen into the framework of girls, which means losing the dominance of discourse.
So what will the boy with the framework respond? "I'll do it, and if someone can bring me breakfast tomorrow morning, she might have a chance to try my craft." A boy with a framework has come and gone in getting along with a girl, and what the girl wants to get from him needs to pay what to exchange. And the boys without the framework go directly with the girls, so that the girls feel as if they don't have to pay anything to get what they want. The result may be that all the good is not cherished and gradually becomes a licking dog.
In addition, having a framework also means having a sense of boundaries and having principles. Having a sense of boundaries means that you are measured and have your own living space. Can appear when the girl needs it, but it will not disrupt her life. And when girls don't have time to pay attention to you, you also have a full life, get along with you, girls will not bear particularly much pressure. Having principles means that you are a person who can make independent judgments and has a bottom line, and will not lose yourself because of girls.
Such a boy is very attractive, compared to people who only surround girls in life, such people can create a sense of mystery and arouse girls' desire to explore. At the same time, it also corresponds to the girl's Mu Qiang psychology, which will make the girl feel that you are mature enough and powerful, and if you are with you, you have enough ability to take care of her. When encountering such a person, how can a girl not be moved?
Emotional stability
Many boys want her to be emotionally stable when choosing their other half, and so do girls. It can be said that an emotionally stable person is the ideal partner for all. In the early stage of getting along, girls generally judge whether a person is emotionally stable from these 4 points
1. Facial expressions: Emotionally unstable people most of the time have unpleasant expressions, frowning, and even sighing. And emotionally stable people usually have soothing and natural expressions.
2. Body language: Some boys will pat the table when they are impatient, in fact, it is also a point of observation for girls, and the information conveyed by such body language can also be seen that this is an emotionally unstable person.
3. Speaking language: Boys who are used to swearing and yelling have mostly been classified by girls into a list of emotional instability.
4. Attitude towards service personnel: gentle and polite and not impatient, may be emotionally stable people, bad attitude, may be passed.
Girls themselves are more emotional groups, and when they encounter problems, they need an emotionally stable partner who can help alleviate emotional problems and jointly seek solutions to problems. When encountering such a boy, girls will also feel full of security and dependence, and this is what can impress girls the most.
Write in the last words
It is actually not difficult to get off the list, because the characteristics that can impress girls are basically not a hard requirement. As long as you want, you can also make her like it flutter. So I was self-contained, shouting all day long that I couldn't get rid of the iron, and quickly supported me. Having a cute girlfriend who is cute and cute, isn't he fragrant?
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Author | Yellow chestnut Ye
Consultant of the First Psychological Writing Group | Senior Emotional Mentor | Best-selling columnist on the internet