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I like the saying: "The real maturity of a person is not to let go, nor to look away, but to 'respect'." ”
There is really no need to punish yourself with the mistakes of others, respect the differences of others, and accept the mistakes and virtues of others, which is a silent practice.
There is a saying that people are not as good as dogs in middle age. At this age, who is carrying the weight? Wise people are "bitter without words, happy without words", skillfully hiding all their emotions and tribulations, and can be friendly to people.
Non-indifference is not clear-sighted, non-tranquility is not far-reaching.
The top wisdom of middle-aged people is not to force themselves to do great things through the world, but to move forward silently, and to be better than their past selves every day.
02
Silence is a muffled voice to make a fortune.
Money, for a middle-aged man, is "life".
Make money hard, cut the door hard, save money. This is not money worship, but the proper meaning of being a human being, and it is also a responsibility to the family.
Zhao Kuangyin, the emperor of the Song Dynasty, was very depressed when he was young.
One day, he passed by a watermelon field, hungry, and couldn't help but ask the old man selling melons, what was the price?
The old man said that one penny is one, not sweet and no money.
Zhao Kuangyin was penniless, but he was not willing to leave. Suddenly, counting on his heart, he opened several melons in a row, ate a few bites, and then said "not sweet."
Having eaten enough, Zhao Kuangyin intended to leave.
The old man said that he really did not expect that a good-looking person would be like this. If you don't have money, just say it, why harm people?
At that moment, Zhao Kuangyin was eager to find a seam to drill into, and never came out again.
Back to the point.
Middle-aged people need money, and they must know how to make money. But anyone who likes to show off is a poor person, and they know it at a glance. The person who will really make money is very quiet, he does not want to attract the attention of others, but is afraid that others will know his bottom line.
In these years, any industry is overcrowded. If you can find another way, be the first person to eat crabs, and the signs of getting rich come.
Keep a low profile, or even pretend to be poor, and the industry you find will "reduce competitors"; you have a lot of wealth and will not be remembered by thieves. Only then will wealth remain in your pocket.
03
Silence is to laugh and bow your head.
Someone asked Zeng Guofan, what is the distance between heaven and earth?
Zeng Guofan said, it is only three feet.
The other party did not forgive, and then asked, so to speak, people are seven feet tall, is not it when they stand up, they will break the sky.
Zeng Guofan replied with a smile, so we learned to bow our heads.
In fact, Zeng Guofan had been "bowing his head" all his life: sitting on a palanquin of inferiority, taking the initiative to disband the Xiang army that had contributed to the imperial court, and persuading his family not to show off and live a hard and frugal life.
"It is not advisable to show up easily, to enjoy the blessings, and not to exhaust the power..." Perhaps, the descendants of Zeng Guofan have many capable people, and they are inseparable from these family trainings.
Guns shoot head birds, knives slash ground snakes.
No matter how rich you are, you cannot be rich enough to rival the country; no matter how powerful you are, you cannot be one against a hundred. Bear with it, take the initiative to bow your head, integrate yourself into the masses, and the crisis will disappear.
Why bow your head is not stupid, but pretending to be confused.
04
Silence is the decency of being human.
There is such a question: Why do many older people not evaluate others?
Gao Zan's answer is: The three views are not in harmony.
For example, if you send a message in the circle of friends, not all people will give you likes, and there are always a few people who leave you with embarrassing words and expressions. There are also people who quietly block you and gossip about you with your friends.
One singer said, "No matter what the world is, we have to be kind, so let's reduce the harm to others." ”
No matter what other people do, you can't lose yourself. Whether you meet a gentleman or a villain, you should respect it. After all, you have a general understanding of the villain, indicating that you are also a villain, and lowering your personality.
Everyone is unique, so why expect someone to resonate with you? Even your lovers and parents can't understand you 100%. Allowing others to toss and turn, even insults, and always being silent is wisdom.
When people reach middle age, if they want to be a decent person, they must give face to others, do not raise bars with others, and give others a step everywhere.
05
Silence is the big picture.
Some people say: "How big the heart is, how big the stage of life is." ”
Deeply.
The stream is noisy because it is shallow and the beach is narrow; the sea is quiet because it is vast and bottomless.
When people reach middle age, like the sea, stand at the lowest place and let the hundred rivers return.
Actor Gu Tianle, people as its name, gu dao hot sausage. He donated hundreds of schools, but never preached about himself. For a while, many people questioned that the Hope Elementary School he had established was overgrown and deserted. Was the original decision too hasty, and was there any suspicion of selling fame and reputation?
Gu Tianle also did not respond positively. But he understood that people were in a hurry, and said loudly that this was because the rural people had entered the city and there were fewer students; this was a law of nature.
I saw such a sentence on the Internet: Except for the sun, no one can blacken Gu Tianle.
Embracing different voices and accepting the power from all directions will not knock people down, but will achieve a stronger self.
06
Someone said, "Silence is a person's greatest cry." ”
When people reach middle age and do not speak, they are carrying the pain in their hearts with all their might.
The truth is not so simple. Silence is also the greatest cry of a person's heart, the happiest laughter.
In winter, everything is silent and silent, until the thunder of spring wakes up.
When people reach middle age, the more they live, the quieter they are, just like everything that lurks in winter, waiting for a spring breeze in life.
Lu Xun said: "If you do not erupt in silence, you will perish in silence." ”
The silence of middle-aged people is not to admit it, but to prepare for maturity.
After experiencing all kinds of difficulties, he lived a transparent life; faded the light of life, and made a small dust in the vast sea of people.
May you and I no longer talk to others, no longer debunk the disguises of others, no longer argue about right and wrong, and no longer discuss right and wrong.
Half a life has passed, and only silence is the most precious.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.