Children's personality problems, in fact, behind the parents' improper education, come to see these four kinds of "deadly parents", have you been recruited?
First, ignoring the parents of their children will make the children become inferior
Parents are the source of children's psychological dependence and the strongest backing. Only with a reliable parent can they be confident and bold in doing what they want to do. But whether it is from real life or film and television dramas, we can see that there are many parents who have not fulfilled this responsibility, although they do give their children life, but they only have children and do not raise, and they stand idly by for the growth of their children.
In the family that does not feel love, it is easy for children to have self-doubt, "Is it because I am not good enough that my parents do not love me", in this long-term self-doubt, the child will become more and more unsure of himself, become less and less confident, very inferior.
Therefore, what children care about is not how much money and materials there are, but the sense of security that parents have to accompany their children, and only with love can children feel cheerful and confident, and can they shape a healthy and upward personality and values.
Second, parents who dot on their children will make their children selfish
Whether in school or in society, overbearing and selfish people are the most hated by us, and most of the reasons for chasing them are caused by their parents often spoiling them when they were young. If the child has what he wants, the parent will fully fulfill his wish, and the whole family will take the child as a baby bump.
This kind of family education with a lower posture can only allow children to think only about themselves and ignore the feelings of others when doing things. In the long run, it is okay for the child to be a little bully at home, but when he arrives at school and society, no one will get used to him. The love of parents makes children become unreasonable, they are not welcomed in collective life, it is difficult to communicate with people, and they will inevitably suffer setbacks in future life, and people who are rejected and denied by the collective are also easy to become inferior.
Third, too strong parents will make children inferior and cowardly
Because the child is young and inexperienced in society, many parents like to take care of everything, especially strong, such parents usually ignore the child's feelings, and can not find the child's unique shining point. In their view, as long as the parent says something, the child must do something.
Therefore, although many adults are thirty or forty years old, they must let their mothers intervene in everything and listen to their mothers everywhere, which is our common "giant baby". If the mother is fine, but if the parents are not there, the child seems to have no main heart, nor self-confidence, under this all-encompassing repressive discipline, the child will slowly become a cowardly and inferior person.
If you want to make your child better, parents will best let go at the right time, establish a parent-child relationship that respects equality, and teaches children to dare to express their ideas, have opinions, and become valuable people to this society.
Fourth, parents who hit their children too hard will make their children become inferior
If in family education, parents always blindly hit their children, with "You did so poorly on the test, stupid to die!" This kind of talk is often on the lips, and it is a fatal blow to the child's desire to be aggressive.
Because no matter what the child wants to do, he will think of the mother's doubts, and now the child will also be convinced that he has achieved nothing, and slowly under this psychological obstacle, the child will naturally collapse and become really as the parents say.
It is difficult to be a parent, it is even more difficult to be a qualified parent, it is not easy to raise children, only continuous reflection can help children become better themselves!
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