"Double subtraction" meets "final exam"! The Harbin school advises parents to do so

Time flies, and the first semester of efficient implementation of the "double reduction" policy is coming to an end unconsciously. Although the final exams are approaching, the children are once again in the stage of hard revision. And whenever this time comes, children and parents are very nervous.

But parents and friends should pay attention to their children's achievements while also remembering to pay attention to their children's progress in other aspects! So, the final exam is coming, what should parents and friends do to help their children get good grades? Listen to the advice of Harbin No. 99 Middle School for parents:

Parents who love their children never say these five words

The famous psychologist Marshall Luxemburg once said: "Maybe we don't think that our way of talking is violent, but language does often cause pain to ourselves and others." ”

In the eyes of the child, the words of the parents, a look, and even an expression will affect the child's fragile nerves.

Therefore, as a parent, these five sentences must not be said to the child again, especially at the end of the term, it may hurt the child's heart fiercely.

The first sentence: "How can you be so stupid?"

When children hear their parents say this about themselves, they will get a feeling of being denied, which is particularly prone to negative emotions, and may lose enthusiasm for learning afterwards.

The second sentence: "If you don't study well, what do you want to use?"

Parents saying this sentence will make the child feel that only "I study well is your child", is it "parents only value my grades", such words will not only make the child more and more inferior, but also sometimes cause the child's rebellious psychology.

The third sentence: "This time take a good test, you must surpass your classmates"

Some parents are eager to succeed, always set their children the goal to be surpassed in this exam, and the child will only fall into a contradictory double psychology, on the one hand, they want to learn without distraction, on the other hand, they are beyond the psychological pressure of so-and-so, so that it is difficult for children to do well.

The fourth sentence: "Usually know how to play, what is the use of rushing to the exam"

In fact, at this time, what the child wants most and needs most is the encouragement of the parents, if the parents just blindly hit the child and do not give the child support, the child will only become more and more unconfident.

The fifth sentence: "Just review it, you don't have to take care of everything else"

Some parents do not need their children to do anything else in order to allow their children to concentrate on reviewing. But if a child only focuses on learning every day, can he really learn it? Learning needs to be combined with work and leisure, and it is more conducive to learning for children to do something within their ability after reviewing.

The five favorite words of parents who love their children

Before the final exam, parents say the following words to their children, and the child may be able to play better.

The first sentence: "Although learning is hard, but your way to the future"

Learning is never an easy and happy thing, but youth is used to learn, and learning is always the most beautiful gesture of youth. Tell your child that the suffering you are eating now is the light you see in the world, which will illuminate your future path.

Second sentence: "As long as you work hard, you are the best"

As long as you work hard, whether you succeed or not, you are the best. Please be sure to talk to your child more about this sentence and tell your child the importance of hard work.

The third sentence: "You are very strong, don't give up"

In the learning process, children will always encounter various problems, and each step needs to be adhered to. At this time, parents should give their children encouragement in time, cheer up their children, let children learn to persevere, and learn to overcome difficulties.

Fourth sentence: "Although the exam is important, your attitude of progress is more important"

The exam is just a test for children, a milestone, and excessive demand for high scores will only give children invisible pressure.

Therefore, say this sentence to your child more before the test, let the child compare with himself, today compared with yesterday, so that the child has more confidence.

Fifth sentence: "No matter what, Mom and Dad believe in you"

A simple sentence I believe in you will make children feel a great sense of affirmation and recognition. The recognition and affirmation of parents will make children more confident and will behave better and better. Please blame less, compare less, encourage more, and give positive hints in their hearts when appropriate.

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