Source: Uncle Wuming
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Fate seems to be accidental, but it is inevitable.
There is a saying that is good: a thousand miles of marriage is a line.
People who have a relationship are actually destined in your destiny, destined that you have such an encounter, and destined to have a difficult relationship between you.
The most beautiful thing in life is to meet! The beginning of every relationship is heart-warming.
In this life, in fact, who you will meet, and who you will be with for a long time, your life has already laid the groundwork.
01, the people you love are what your heart desires
In fact, a person, the appearance of his lover, has been subtly portrayed in his mind.
Liking this thing is closely related to a person's background and his personality.
People from well-off families, considering lovers, images and interests become the focus;
People from ordinary families, considering lovers, ability and potential become the focus.
A person who has suffered a lot, you give him a little sweetness, he will treat you as everything in life;
A person who has been loved a lot, you have to love him twice, he will be willing to set his eyes on you.
The man who is not good at words, the person who talks is the white moonlight in his eyes;
A person with a strong personality, always based on him, is the target he seeks.
Everything is destined to be good, which is why countless people rub shoulders with us, and our fate is the specific one.
In fact, all doom is your subconscious need, what kind of person you need, you will have a good feeling for that person in various encounters in life, and finally come together.
02, encounters begin with need, and long-term companionship stems from three views
The person you meet may be the person you need; the person who makes you happy is the person who is in line with your three views.
One is diligent and proud of it; one is lazy and settles with the circumstances. Their lives will erupt in endless quarrels.
The diligent dislike of laziness is not progressive, and the lazy dislike of diligence is too much.
Sometimes in life, before we get married, we can't see where the three views are not in harmony, but after getting along for a long time, we find that the three views of life are really important.
In the case of heterosexual communication, men feel that as long as they do not have a relationship, they are not deviant; women feel that words are too ambiguous, and exchanging gifts has exceeded the boundaries of communication.
When do two people erupt into endless quarrels, because the concepts and bottom lines are different?
And people with the same view, there are very few such disputes.
Because your bottom line is the same as his, because your ideas are the same as his.
The three views are not in harmony, and it is difficult to communicate. What you think is very serious, the other party is harmless; what you think is very painful, the other party thinks you are making a big fuss.
In this life, there is always a period of trial and error before you can know whether the person opposite you is the right person.
But there were times when, during this time, we started a family and had children.
Therefore, even if you know that you are wrong, you still choose to settle, which has created the unhappiness of many people's marriages.
If you marry anyone, it is a fate. If you don't want to leave, adjust yourself.
In married life, the process of smoothing out the edges and corners is not easy, and it can even make you miserable.
People with different concepts are difficult to go on, which requires you and me to learn to tolerate, learn to be confused, learn to pretend to be stupid, and be more persistent when looking for their dreams.
It doesn't matter when, stick to what you want to do in your heart, what you think is right, you can do it.
Don't be depressed because of marriage, it's not all you have. If your marriage is happy, we need to work hard to manage ourselves and maintain this happiness; if your marriage is unhappy, we need to work hard to improve ourselves and increase our chips!
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